Always when I want to have s*x with my partner,he can't,when he wants I never say no.What can I do?

Question

Sometimes I feel like I had been used.Like an object.We don't have s*x so frequently.Sometimes passed 8 days without having it,and I approached ,and I caress him.His p***s got very erected,but when we are in the act,the p***s go down.I notice that it happened always when I provoke him.But in other days when he approached me yes,he function pretty well.Ultimately I don't want even that he touch me.He never do it when I want.I don't know what to think.Sometimes I think that maybe he has another lady.he is 50years old I'm 35.We don't even have sons .Sometimes I want to leave him.I feel I'm wasting my time.He only wants that I attend him with food in every thing he needs.What do you advice me.Please I need serious answers.

Answer 1

Sounds like he is using you for his own benefit.

Your only 35 years old....go out and find someone else.

Your still young enough to meet someone else who will give you the children that you want.

Answer 2

He may have a form of erectile dysfunction... sometimes that can be symptomatic of other health problems.  If he can't maintain an erection he may have high blood pressure, diabetes, metabolic syndrome.. and if he is inconsistent and maintains when he wants he may already be taking viagra ect... just ask him and if he doesn't know seek the advice of a physician... he may have a bigger problem than maintaining an erection.

Answer 3

My dear you would never have that problem with me, my nickname is ready freddy

Answer 4

well, it sounds kind of odd. you might want to talk to him about it. i don't know how long you've been together. but you may want to consider seeing other people since you think he already is.  

Answer 5

wow hes kind of old...tell him how you feel and if he still doesnt then you dont have s*x with him when he wants to. show  him how it feels. he wanted a younger women then he needs to get it together. good luck and i hope it works out because you have needs too

Answer 6

Sounds like the love is lost there. You shouldnt ever feel like you dont want him to touch you. That is harsh considering he is your lover. Perhaps the age difference is starting to show more than before and you should reconsider where you stand and what you want from the relationship. Once you have your head straight - talk to him.  

Answer 7

this is NOT ment to be rude, but let me guess your of asian affiliation and hes a white guy?

he wants what he wants when he wants it. peroid. you have to decide if that is good enough for you

Answer 8

Sounds like he is being very lazy, he should approach you for s*x cos its only fair and makes u feel feminine, i had the same problem with my ex, it was only up to him when we did it and he used to let me down constantly by saying no to me. My self esteem hit rock bottom and i have never fully recovered, we lasted for 5 yrs and split up, mainly because of that. I would recommend not to constantly have a go at him because that will only make him worse, try seducing him, buy a s**y outfit or a s*x toy just to introduce new things. It is soooo hard to be happy when s*x drives are so different. I hope things change because otherwise i cant see it lasting forever.

I wish u all the luck in the world.

Pabo do a great catalogue and u get a free s**y thong just for ordering catalogue, that should get u off to a good start. Have a look thru it together and see if he suggests what he likes. or suprise him.

Good luck xx

Answer 9

find a stud, get it like you need it honey!

Answer 10

sounds like a cheater to me  

Answer 11

He is using you for a hot plate of food and his pleasure when he wants it.  You are young you should just move on and find someone else who cannot take their hands off of you.  In my experience when the ex husband did this, he was cheating and he was with many girls but that's okay i found a man who treats me like a queen.  And you need that too.  Find someone who can please you!!!

Answer 12

He's 50, you're wasting your time. You're kinda answering your own question.

Answer 13

You are very young, go find a nice man in his mid thirties you wont have any problems. Good luck.  

Answer 14

Suck on it when it goes down it will rise again

Answer 15

Part of the problem is his age.  It takes a lot more sexual attention at that age to maintain an erection.  Odds are he has at least a slight case of ED.  As for the rest that seem like a bigger relationship problem.  Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they feel loved and appreciated.

Answer 16

If he only can do it when he is in the mood first, he is no longer in love with you.  It has become a purely physical thing for him -- not emotional at all.  And yes - it could be because he has another lady on the side.

Answer 17

Are you a Thai Bride?

Answer 18

Some guys like to be the hunter and to give is a genuine masculine trait, where to receive is a genuine feminine trait.  My guess is that he is turned off when you try to be 'the man' and initiate s*x.  Ultimately, he feels disrespected because you are trying to make a move on him.  You can counteract this by seducing him and looking beautiful so that he makes the hunting moves on you instead.  Try it. Have fun with it.

Answer 19

Slip him some Viagra.