Am I Doing The Right Thing Am I A Good Mum??

Question

I lost my virginity at 13 i gt caught pregnant buh i didnt think once tht i was goin to get rid of my baby

And now im 14 n alf i av a beautiful son at 3 months old

I do regret loosin my virginity so early buh one thing i dnt regret and thts keepin my baby

I love him to bits and most people think that tennage mums like myself will neglect their child and all thy wud want to do is go live their life yes i av thrown my life away buh out of nything in this world i love him more thn words can say i will nt let nything hurt him

He comes before anything in my life

When mates say to me do you want to come out tonite i always say no sorry cnt the baby buh my bf who is stil wiv me through all this,, and who is the father to the baby is really helpful and he always says to me leave it tday ill luk after him buh i always av t think about because i can not bare to leva him with nybody because i always think what if anything happens to him and im not there i havent left him with anybody yet apart from my mum like twice because she has offered to look afta him and let me have a break for a couple of hour and to go out eiht my mates he is spoilt rotten i take him every where with me and i spend all my money on things for him i wouldnt let anybody or anything hurt him because i love him more than anything and dont want him to get hurt i do not regret keeping my baby boy i worship the grouend he walks on all my family kept sayin to me was your not going to wnat him when hes here but now he is here i cnt leave him when i leave him with my mum im constantly texting my mum making sure he is ok even though i know he will be because my mum has had 8 kids and obviously knows how it goes but i guess its a mothers instinct to be worried bout their children i know people probably think i am stupid to have a child but he comes before anything in this world no matter what anybody thinks i hate to hear him cry and i get up with him in the night every night when he wakes up but it is not very often now i love my baby ross and no matter what im going to be here for him helpin him through everything in life i love him so much

Am I Doing It Right ??

Am I A Good Mum ??

It Feels Like Im Doing The Right Thing With My Baby But Am I??

Answer 1

I was 16 when I got pregnant, I also got married.  We are still together, 9 years later.  I felt the same way you do.  The first time I let my son go with my mom just for the afternoon, I stood on the porch and watched them drive away.  Then I went to my room and cried.  He was only gone for a few hours between church on a Sunday, but it felt like forever!!  As time passed on I couldn't wait for that 4 hour break.  As for going out with your friends, I think you are doing the right thing by staying home.  Not that you should never go out!!  EVERY mother needs a break!!  I would also try telling your doctor how you feel, you may be depressed.  No offense ment.

Answer 2

you should give him up, you're a S****y irresponsible w***e of a mother.

Answer 3

Sorry to say but Game Over honey..  You ruined your life.  I know the truth hurts and I'm not sugarcoating it for you but it's true.  Maybe you can look into suing People magazine or one of the other dumb outfits that broadcast when every Hollywood star is about to have a baby...  

Answer 4

First of all I do not believe all teenage moms are bad moms, nor do I believe all adult moms are good moms. It's not always a matter of age... You appear to be a very loving and caring mom. It definitely is a mother's instinct to worry for her baby and what you are describing is perfectly normal. I do not think you are stupid --I think you were young, misinformed, made a mistake and now are acting very maturely and bravely to assume this mistake you've made. That's all that matters, now. Past is past. You should take your mom's offers cause every new mom, no matter her age, needs a break from time to time. And if you judge the daddy is mature enough, why not let him have some alone time with his son? It would do you good, and it would allow him to bond with his child.

Good luck and congrats for the baby hun!!! xx

Answer 5

you sound like a GREAT mom! yeah your young, but you still sound like such a loving mother and your boyfriend to... i was only 17 when i had my first baby and i felt the same way but i am doing great i have two now 5 1/2 and 3 and i love them more than anything else and there daddy does to. you just stay strong, it is very hard, but you will get through it. i promise you that, and there will be hard times and great times... just stay strong, you did the right thing, you gave a child a life! thats wonderful!!!you are a great mom from what i read!!!!!dont let ANYONE tell you different, good luck and good life!

Answer 6

Wow, that was hard to read. Next time, please try to type right.

Now, I'll answer the question.

I think you're doing pretty good and I think you're a good mom. It's okay to worry, especially since he's so young. I don't really think it matters if you're a teenage mother or not, it just matters if you love him and take care of him like a good mother would. Maybe you should leave him with your boyfriend. Partly because he's the father, but also because you're still a teenager and should get out sometimes. If he offers to take care of him, let him! You can call in once in a while to make sure he's okay. Overall, you're doing good!

Answer 7

First of all, learn to spell things correctly.  Download Firefox, it has a built in spell checker.  Second, no it does not sound like you are a bad mother, and I cannot tell you to give your baby up, and as long as the child's needs are provided for and he is not in danger no one else should either.  Your life is not ruined yet.  It won't be unless you let it be.  First of all, you need a plan for the future.  This plan does not need to include another baby until you have a well established career.  For this you will need to learn to spell, this is important.  It is not a bad thing to leave him with someone once in awhile, as long as that someone is responsible and you trust them.  Maybe they can watch him while you nap.  Then after trust is built maybe you can take a nice relaxing stroll.  Partying with your friends is pretty much out of the question.  Once you have a baby, that part of your life is over.  I'm not saying you can't see them or hang out with them, but partying (drinking, drugs, s*x, and the like) is out of the question.  Remember one baby isn't that hard to take care of, but once you get more than one, then things get harder.  Make sure you have a plan for your future.  And make sure this child has some sort of responsible male authority figure, preferably his father.  That is important.

Answer 8

i have nothing but respect for teenage mothers. even though they had s*x at a young age and acted on impulse, they at least had enough courage to take the dirty looks and whispers thrown at them, and keep their child and take responsibility for their actions. i will always respect a mother, regardless of age.

are you doing it right? no, your not. your young, you have no job, your still a child your self. of course you didnt do it right. BUT, you DID take responsibility for your actions, you DO love your son with all your heart, you DO take care of him the best way you know how, and you ARE in full awarness that you are now a mother, not a teen. i respect you dearly.

are you a good mom? from my opinion, yes. you are. if you are willing to sacrifice the rest of your life to have a baby at 13 and throw away any chance at a normal teenage life, to spend it with your child and raise him to be the best you can, then you are an amazing mom. no one is perfect, and no one ever will be, but you are trying. and thats what counts.

yes, you are doing the right thing. YOU TOOK RESPONSIBILITY! that is the most amazing thing in the world. you were 13 and afraid, but you dealt with it, had your son, and now your living life as a mommy.

i wish you the best of luck.

god bless you, your son, your bf, your family.

enjoy what you have, it'll pass quickly.

Answer 9

I had my son when I was 20. i am now 23 and he is 2 years old. Its hard being a mom but as he grows you will look forward to all the new things he will do. It gets harder but thats part of being a parent. There is nothing more special then having a baby. Just remember you need time for yourself and taking a break is ok. I know that its hard to leave him but you will get used to it and as long as its with someone you trust its ok. And there is nothing wrong with checking in on the baby when he is with a sitter. You will be just fine. If you have any questions they make lots of wonderful books about raising babies. You will be ok. Believe in yourself

Answer 10

I really do want to answer your question...but this is email form, not text.  You need to go back in and edit your question to read in a way that makes sense when read, hon.

Answer 11

Yes, I think your being a good mom.

But please spell right. The question was a little hard to read.....

Answer 12

I have 3 kids and i am 31 years of age. The thing is in my mind no mother is the best mother. A mother can only do what they can to the best of there ability, and as for the teenage preganacy u were silly enough to fall preganant but it is great to see you are treating this like an adult and not just pawning your child off to who ever you like a lot of teenage girls do. So as far as i am concerned you are doing the best you can that is all that matters.