Am I Fat? Ugly? Dumb?

Question

My daughter thinks these things.

And this is what she said to hear friend that I overheard.

I think I am fat.

I am 12 and I weigh 169.

I think I am ugly.

I am starting to grow a small unibrow.

And my parents won't let me pluck them.

I think I am dumb.

I am not doing very well in school.

And I always need help.

And her friend agreed.

i mean I agree kind of too.

But I need your help

Answer 1

let her pluck her eyebrows. if shes doing bad in school, make her do school work before she hangs out with friends. get her a totur. if she is a little overwieght, or if she dosnt like her size, UR INCHARGE OF WHAT SHE EATS, buy friut, healthy foods, i went gluten free  for 2 or 3 months, dont buy things with alot of fat.  but she lacks confidence, so i dunno. take her shopping!!!!! its makes people feel good. and u agree? thats not very nice.

Answer 2

well...if she's 169 at twelve that doesnt sound too healthy. is she very tall?? the eyebrow thing...i mean, i don't really see the big deal in letting her pluck them. just try to boost her confidence. maybe u can give her beauty tips or work out together and try to help her in school. just remind her that she's a great person and that you love her. help her gain some confidence in herself.

Answer 3

Let your kid pluck them, Mom! Thin eyebrows are terrible but let her have them look groomed.

I hear Dove is making self-esteem workshops. Maybe you should bring her to one of those.

Try a tutor for her education.

Answer 4

It's because you're 12.  

Answer 5

you also tell your friends that your daughter is so cute and she has this quality that quality and if she smiles so pretty like that make sure that she is also overhearing.

Answer 6

Well if you think that your daughter needs to lose weight, start being more proactive with her.  Take walks in the evening and make healthier meals.  Don't buy extra snacks. She is 12 and does not have the ability to go and buy fast food, so that means that you are in control of what she has available to eat.  Make the options healthier.

Tell her that many people struggle and school and it doesn't mean they are dumb.  They just need extra help and that is what help is there for.

The important thing is for her to try to improve rather than give up.  Let her know that you will be there for her with school and body issues.

Answer 7

this is obviously the overweight 12 year old posting this.

if your parents dont let you pluck, get new parents.

lose weight.

read a book.

its very simple.

Answer 8

get a treadmill, and let her pluck the brow.

Answer 9

Its very important to encourage your children. They need to hear that they are smart, and pretty, and fun and all those other thigns that adults like to hear! You are in control, so be very careful about what she eats and how often. If she needs help in school talk with her about asking a teacher to stay thirty minutes extra with her after school and help her with the classes she is lacking in. About the eyebrows... I wouldnt want to have a unibrow either! Suggest if she works out with you or does the dishes that she could earn "points" or money and get the unibrow waxed. Just make sure to always encourage and to think of any ideas to help her boost her conifdence!  

Answer 10

wow lose the bbyweight

and we know you are talking about yourself