Am I Making Too many Changes in My Life Right Now?? 6 things?? HELP!!!

Question

1. being better at schoo, all about school

2. more social, outgoing

3. trying to tell my mom I want to be a vegetarian(thinking of how to)

4. trying to tell my mom I want a purity/promise ring(thinking of how to)

5. planning/ trying to ask mom if I could celebrate golden birthday 17th(2009)

6. trying to get a boyfriend

IS THAT TOO MANY??

and my mom always yells at me when I do nothing wrong.

Answer 1

try to obey her , she may be better in choosing the right to u

Answer 2

I don't think it's too many, but I think you need to prioritize. I'm glad 'try to get a boyfriend' is at the bottom and 'doing better at school' is at the top of your list! Your birthday is over a year away, don't worry about that at the moment.

During your adolescents you make a lot of changes. It's completely normal.

I think if you spend time reading over your notes each night and then read over your weeks work in the weekend, it'll make it a lot easier when it comes to exams.

To be more social and outgoing, try and smile at everyone you walk past. Ask people how they are and how their day's been. Give compliments and tell people they look nice or there hair looks really pretty today.

I think you should start by just openly saying to your Mum 'I've been thinking about becoming a vegetarian lately'. Do some research and show her that you're clued up on the health benefits and how you plan to get your vitamins other ways that meat. You'll need to come to some sort of agreement with dinners as well.

I personally think that purity rings are overrated. You're making a promise to yourself and to God (in most cases) so why do you need a ring to show that? If you're still really set on it, just let your Mum know you've been thinking about it and see what her views are.

Don't worry about your birthday yet, you've got plenty of time.

Don't worry about getting a boyfriend either. At that age, most boys only want one thing. You'll find the most perfect guy when you're not looking for one!

Good luck!

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Answer 3

What's your mom yelling about exactly?

But back to ur question-I don't think this is too many. I am changing a lot too-

Lose weight

Clear skin

Get a job

Get a boyfriend

Get a car

Get closer to God

Get finaid from school

And trust me, U can only do so much in 24 hours, so u should be fine.  Um, I feel my answers not good enough, so I'll advise on your things:

1. This one and #2 can clash, if u let it. Get a binder or a notebook with subject dividers. EVERYDAY at EVERY CLASS, take notes. Doesn't matter if the teacher doesn't ask you too. Write down questions you have and anything u think may be on a quiz. If there is a lull time in class, where people are talking, get started on homework. I graduated in the front row with Honors with 3.83 GPA (darn AP calculus), so trust me this'll work. DO HOMEWORK AS SOON AS U GET HOME. and review ur notes as apart of ur homework.

2. If u do what I say in #1, the other kids may start to look at u like ur a geek or something, but just show ppl how fun u r outside of class. At lunch go up to different groups just to say hello. Invite ur friends over (if u can) and be sure to have a good attitude during passing period and after school. Ppl will see u r serious about school, but ur not stuck up. This is what happened with me. O, and try (if ur mom will let u) to stay after school for either tutoring if ur having a tough time, or to hang with friends. I grew so close to my friends by staying over an hour after school. We would walk to get food or just chill in the park and talk. Good times.....

3. Show her, don't tell her, is what I suggest. Y do u feel u have to tell her? I'm just wondering. At dinner, skip out on the meat and just eat veggies. If there's no possible way u can be vegetarian without ur mom shopping for other stuff, just ask her to get u the stuff (she may ask y and u can then explain to her what ur trying to do), or spend any money u get on the items. If she isn't willing to get the stuff, she's probably not going to be cool with u being a vegetarian n u may have to wait till ur older to become a full vegetarian. similar happened to me. It took my mom a long time to figure out how to work me into her meals when I stopped eating beef, but she did try.

4. I really don't think u should tell ur mom about this.... I hope I don't seem like some sort of weirdo that doesn't like to talk to her parents! I love parents, but it's just my opinion that this isn't technically their deal. When u think ur going to start having s*x, well then it may be time for a talk. But this should be more of a personal promise to yourself, and if ur religious, to God. This way u don't have the pressure form them, but u will feel personally good about urself for ur awesome willpower. But, I don't know. If u wanna talk to her just casually ask her if she knows where those kids like Miley Cyrus and Jonas Bros get their purity rings (I have no idea nor care if those kids actually have purity rings). I highly doubt she'll know, but she may ask y, and then u can tell her.

5.On ur 16th birthday, ask her if u can do the golden thing next year. She should be in a good mood like other guest should be. Also get her a gift and say its for giving birth to you, and w/o her- there'd be no birthday 4 u. (if ur dad's around, don't 4get 2 give him something 2!!) She should really like that. And then ask, but not right after u give the gift.

6. This may take sometime. Just try to get know someone and see what happens. Don't go out with the 1st guy who ask u out just b/c. Try 2 see what u like about him and if u know him. N definitely give him the heads up on the purity ring- that will hopefully ward off the impatient ones.

Good luck w/ everything hun. N God bless. :D

Answer 4

nope, those are good goals and alot of them counteract eachother.

Here's some advice:

1. study hard and pay attention in class as hard as it can be. Make school your number one priority and get a tutor if you need one.

2. just be confident and try to put yourself out there to make more friends.

3. I'm a vegetarian too! good on ya....be ready to have reasons to support your change and offer to help out with your own meals. Ease into it by giving up red meat and then slowly the chicken and turkey.

4. You can just by one for yourself, you don't need to have anyone give you a special ring but if you feel like it's a good idea, have a talk with your parents about s*x and how you're going to remain a virgin until marriage.

5. Just ask her if you can do something special for the big 17! Start planning but be reasonable and find ways to help out with the cost if it's too much.

6. Don't rush it. Being outgoing will help you to make more friends, including guys and you may find one that you really like and want to have a relationship with. Be patient and be yourself...he'll come!

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(7). Have a talk with your mom if you think she's being unreasonable and see whats bothering her

You can do it!

Just try hard and realize that you need to be patient

good luck