Am I Mrs Right or Mrs Right Now?

Question

I'm in love with a guy who totally swept me off my feet 3 years ago. Talked marriage & convinced me to move in. Wasn't an easy decision as he has 2 young kids ( now 15 & 10) and mine had just grown up.

But I'm here & now its all different. He isn't "into me" at all like he used to be. I'm still into him completely as I always was, I flirt with him, send him e-cards for no reason, text, do special things, etc. I still wanna make him feel like a king. I really believe he loves the way I love him and I've always thought he would also appreciate it & reciprocate it back to me, like he did when we first met. Seems now just trying to get him to talk to me or even look at me irritates him. His kids and I get along great most the time, they live with us 7 days & their Mom 7 days. I'm with them more time than he is & I do a lot for them & entertain them much of the time. He does appreciate that.

He's just more & more distant. Into his own "stuff", mostly political bogging & such. Always on the computer. We used to have really great debates but we dont even do that any more. He treats me like my opinion about anything is worthless & I'm so far beneath him. I've been telling him how lonely I feel but I really think I'm beating a dead horse here. He loves me, but it feels more like its because his family does, I build his ego & compliment him a lot, I help financially and I'm convenient. IS that supposed to be enough for me?

Signed,

46 & Fooled?

Answer 1

u should tell him all this...he needs to know how you feel and that u deserve wayy better...tell him all that u have written and let him know that if he doesnt appreciate and even care to do the little things you need then u can save all those lil compliments and ego boosts for someone who will return them

Answer 2

he's treating you like your old news and he's bored girl it's time to move on i have been with my husband for 20 years and he still does little things for me i mean sometimes it's just a hugh or a how was your day but at least it's there sounds to me like your more like a live in baby sitter then the women in his life

Answer 3

no it shouldnt message me u need someone different

Answer 4

Sorry for you, but it sounds like you are getting treated like a soon to be ex-wife. Either your choice or his. No it shouldn't be enough for you! Good luck.

Answer 5

I think you've answered you own question...you're convenient and he needed a wifey but he doesn't do the things he needs to do to maintain the relationship. You're spending time with his children and he never appreciates anything you do. He's very immature. My advice is to consider other options...like kick his butt to the curb and get your own spot!

Answer 6

he's just in that content stage honey. you guys have been together for a long time that he doesn't feel  the need to do such lovey-dovey things/the things he used to do.