Am I OVER REACTING!!!

Question

my husband and i and our kids moved from the caribbean to america earlier this month. i have a 15 year old daughter who is very developed and now i think something is going on.our neighbors have a son who is going to be her teacher and they are very close.he calls her everyday on the phone and they are always together. i told her to stop talking to him but she won't.i even saw them hugging at his house.i'm not racist and i don't want him to think that iwant her to stay away from him because he's white.i just think there too close.am i over reacting?what should i do?

Answer 1

no teacher  should  be  with  a student  socially its  not  allowed.

tell  your  kid that  if  she  sees  him  again YOU will  report  him  and  he  will lose  the  job and  tell  the  guy  that  you  were  the  one  who reported  him .  then  if  he  still  wants to  see her  after  that  then the  moral  dillema  is  gone  and   she  has  your  blessing

Answer 2

I think his point of telling you he's a virgin is so you wouldn't worry about him hanging out with your daughter.  I think you need to talk to his parents.  They know him best and know if he is just being a friend.  It probably has been nice for your daughter to have someone to talk to.

Answer 3

Let the man know directly that this relationship even if innocent can not be happening.  What on earth does a young adult have in common with a 15 yo girl?  Think about it.

I would definately start by having a heart to heart with this man.  He is acting ilke he is a pedophile and I would encourage you to use that term to him... point blank.  Teachers can not pursue thier careers if this is in question.  It's in his best interest to play with girls his own age if you getmy drift....  If he does not stop the interacting with your dtr.  Call the police..  

Answer 4

You're not over reacting, you're being a good parent to your young daughter- which is very admirable and quite frankly, missing with today's youth.   Teachers are supposed to be Professional.  Period.

Talking about his sexual standing to you, hugging, and calling one of his students on the phone on a daily basis is way out of line.  Teachers do not do this with their students, I don't care if they are neighbors or live across town- it's wrong and he could loose his job.

You need to talk to him and his parents and stop this innapropriate behavior with your daughter before it gets even more out of hand.

Answer 5

I have an 11 year old and if I seen any of her teachers act this way towards her or talk to me like that I would open a can of woop as *** on him. I am not lieing, that is why WE are the PARENTS becasue we are suppose to protect our children. How old is this guy?

I would straight out have a talk with your dauhgter. Let her know THIS is NOT appropriate behavior from him or her. I dont know what life and culture is like in the caribbean but her in the U.S. kids are cruel! Once other girls,kids etc. see what you see they are going to "label" your daughter as a s**t. Which no girl, young girl wants expecially starting in a new school,country etc.

i would have a good long talk with her and then after you have this talk pay close attention for about a week and see if anything changes with their "relationship" if its still the same, then sit this teacher and his parents if need be, sit them all down tell them what you are seeing and what you dont like and that your motherly instict is in full gear and it needs to stop....period!  This is how sexual assualts, rape, etc. happens, we all know by now that it doesnt have to be a stranger for something to happen.

Where I live, I just read in the paper that the town next to us arrested a woman and her husband, she was a teacher and hired a 16 year old girl to come to her house for lawn, house work. Well her husband was a registered s*x offender and didnt register with this city, so nobody knew, well long story short he was molesting her and the wife (teacher) let him do it and they both were arrested and went to jail, The girl didnt even tell anybody because the teacher said she would flunk her if she did, the girls father found out accidentally when he showed up early to pick her up.

Aweful...Unfortunately you just cant trust everybody nowadays. be careful and keep good tabs on your daughter and squash this before it gets to out of hand!!

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

OK a normal teacher wouldn't tell their students parents that he is a virgin. That is just way out of line and abnormal. There is something wrong with him and you should report him because he shouldn't be your daughter's teacher if he is like that.  

Answer 7

You can report it if he doesn't leave her alone, to the police. His behavior is very questionable. It could be harmless, but she is a minor and he is an adult, and this is a little wierd. I don't know what he could be trying to do by telling you he is a virgin. He could be trying to calm your worries and yet that is still not something you should just tell someone you're not close to. He could also just be messed up and getting some kind of thrill out of telling you that. I would just let the authorities handle this guy. Have you tried talking to his parents? Telling him not to see your daughter? He's the adult and he should be the responsible one and stop messing with your daughter, so I would tell him to leave her alone and that if anything ever even just seems to be going on, you will report him to the authorities.

Answer 8

You are not over-reacting physical contact between teacher and student are taboo.  Something tells me he is a pedefile and his behavior should be reported to the Principal at school before something bad does accur, with your child or anyone elses.

A virgin who cares, and what is it your business.  He definitly has problems!!

Answer 9

I'm assuming the son is no older than 19. 15 to 19 can seem like a big gap, but considering the maturity of some girls and the immaturity of some guys, and the fact that they might attend the same school, it isn't always.

However, if he's older than that, and even if he isn't, since he is going to be her teacher, someone needs to have a very long talk with him, and I don't think you're overreacting. It seems to me that it is in both of their best interest to distance themselves from eachother a bit. If he is going to be her teacher he will lose his job if he has anything but a professional, teacher student relationship with her.

Answer 10

This is absoultely NOT RIGHT! Go with your GUT.  Professionally he should know better.  With all the "teacher/student" relationships we hear about in the news, why would he place himself in that situation?  I think it is sick and you and your husband need to sit him down and have a very stern talk with him. What type messages is he sending your daughter? Even if he is not interested in her, he is sending the wrong message...........hugging and calling a 15 year old?  I mean come on there can't be anything good that is going to come from this.  

PUT A STOP TO THIS BEFOR YOUR DAUGHER ENDS UP CONFUSED AND WITH A BROKEN HEART!

Answer 11

you are SO NOT over reacting!!! that whole situation sounds wrong and him telling you that he is a virgin sounds like he is assuring you that him and your daughter will be fine but it sounds like his way of getting approval to but this story sounds like a baaadddd situation.