Am I Overreacting With This?

Question

My mom is nearly 40, and I'm 17. I'm the only child, my dad commutes to work and comes home one or two days a week and then stays home on the weekends. My mom has high blood pressure, poor circulation, had ovarian cancer cells twice, has only recently started eating healthy, and she's been taking pills for her mental instability. And this morning, she just informed me that she could be pregnant. My mom and my dad were happy, but I flipped and walked out the room to let myself breathe what 'd just heard. Then they came down and talked to me. I flipped because I've got so many personal problems right now, I'm a senior and I've got the weight of graduating (since my last few years haven't been good), I'm having issues with friends, no boyfriend, and my own depression. My grandma whom I'm extremely close to is dying, and now that I've heard this news I have this very dark feeling that I could lose my mom o this baby sucking what little health she has. Were somewhat fine with money, but theres economic change going on and my dad already works hard enough just to support us. But my mom keeps saying 'its god's will and fate' and that she thinks she'll go to h**l for aborting. So basically, between the two I'm the only one thats hysterical, because I'm so scared for my mom, for the future. I feel like she's only thinking about how much she wants another kid cause she's 'so lonely' and not thinking about the future of herself, the family and what it will do to me. Am I overreacting or am I in the right for not wanting this baby to happen?

Answer 1

While I understand your fears for your mother's health, usually, when the mother of a teen becomes pregnant, the teen becomes nearly hysterical.  Whether or not you realize it, you are feeling embarrassed.

You are OK and you will be OK.  

I strongly suggest some counseling.  At least talk to the school nur]se or a trusted teacher about your feelings.

Answer 2

I really do not mean to be rude, but how could your mother be pregnant when she had ovarian cancer cells twice.  Medically speaking I would think after twice for her safety and good health the Doctor would have suggested removal of her ovaries ???  Hope you do not find this insensitive but is this for real ???

Answer 3

For your moms health, I wouldn't be too thrilled with the baby coming. However, there are two things you are not considering. First of all, you mom said she "might" be having a baby, that's not a definite yes. If I could have a dollar for how many times my friends and I thought we were pregnant I would be a millionaire. Second of all, yes this baby will be your family but it's not your responsiblity. Once this baby comes you will still have your friends, school and everything else. I don't think the baby is your problem I think that this baby is just added to the list of your problems and you feel like you already have too much to handle right now. Take everything day by day and don't just to conclusions. I hope everything works out for you, good luck.