Am I Pathetic or Normal?

Question

Ok, here goes:

I love weddings. I went to a wedding for the first time about 4 years ago. I loved it. Around the same time, I started dating my boyfriend. We've been talking about marriage for the past few months and I'm hoping my engagement soon. I really love weddings. I frequent this forum often, I look at wedding websites and I dream about my future wedding. I love my boyfriend dearly and I am committed to our relationship. So, I'm not just after the huge party, trust me. But, I can't wait for that day; the dress, the church, the vows, my family, my bridesmaid, a really wonderful party and all the trimmings.

But, am I pathetic for dreaming about this and planning out my future wedding. I'm not setting dates, but I do have websites and images of things I would love to do at my own wedding saved to my computer. Is it all too much or am I normal?

Answer 1

That's pretty normal. I do that too. I have wedding dresses saved on my laptop :)

Unless we are both crazy :P

Answer 2

Normal. Some girls love to fantasize about their future wedding, others don't. It's all good.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with dreaming.  This is something you are looking forward to and it helps to know what to expect and the options out there...not to mention getting prices for things.

Weddings are confusing enough...and there is nothing wrong with research and looking at things so you know what you want on that all important day.

Relax and enjoy....

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with dreaming =] Every woman does, especially when she's in a committed, loving relationship. If I

m to understand your question correctly, you two have been together around four years, and the fact you two are discussing marriage I would say it very well might be in your near future!

Just make sure in your discussions that how much you want this is obvious.

Answer 5

Okay this does not really answer your question it just when I read your question I kept thinking...This person should think about becoming a wedding planner.  Seriously you might really enjoy it and be very good at it.    

Answer 6

It's great to have a vision for your wedding. It makes the planning go much smoother when you actually plan the real deal.

Write down the ideas that you are coming up with now.

Years before I got married I knew what song I would want my bridesmaids to walk down the aisle to.

When it came time for me to plan my wedding everything went pretty smoothly. I knew where I would get married and what my cake would look like. I knew the colors, the flowers, etc.

It's normal.

Answer 7

No thats so totaly normal. I've been with my boyf nearly 3 yrs, we've talked about getting married and ring etc and im really hoping for an engagement soon (im SO impatient lol) ;)

But no it's normal, I even have a folder on my computer for dress web sites (maggie sottero ROCKS!) and im even signed up to theknot.com so i can access there photo's.

It's always good to dream, and the longer you think the more you know what you want and the less likely you are to get ripped off when the time comes. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I had a wedding folder too!  Secretly saved on my computer (like the equivalent of my fiance's p**n folder on his. lol!), filled with different favour ideas, invitations, etc (but not dresses since I designed my own).  I even had a knot.com account to look at the different photo albums!  I only started collecting ideas once I knew my boyfriend was 'the one'. like after we had talked about getting married and I knew it was going to happen.  

It's totally normal to be excited and start looking.  It's like window shopping.  You look at engagement rings, dresses, ect.  The only weird thing would be to book ANYTHING.  That's a little pathetic, and you will always be known as "that girl who booked _____ before he even asked ..."

It will be very helpful once you get engaged, it gives you a good starting-off point.  But now, my wedding doesn't look like anything like my folder!  Once my fiance got his input, and we looked at our budget and started booking venues, the folder went to the wind (and I'm thrilled because my real wedding will be WAY better).

Just don't get your mind set on anything.  People will have lots of opinions, you won't know your budget until you really start researching and planning, and you just don't know what he will have in ming.  Especially when it comes to the engagement ring.  That could lead to terrible disappointment ....

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Too much!  I think it is strange when women are more in love with the idea of weddings/marriage than they are with the actual person.

Answer 10

Females have their wedding planned at a young age. It's not weird. We like to live in a fantasy world, I must say. :) Enjoy it. Don't think you're weird. It's nice to know what you want before you can get it.

Answer 11

From one pathetic bride to the other, I say you are normal! :)  j/k

I actually did the same thing. I started a folder of dresses I liked. Began picking out flowers. We set a date before we got married - although we did not tell anyone. I started the wedding budget. Everything. Let me warn you that once decision making time came around it's not as fun as it seems. But I am so glad I am doing it myself, so it has our names stamped on our special day (not my mom's or wedding planner's).  

Good luck on getting the ring!  

Answer 12

Its normal.Thinking ahead is a good thing.