Am I a bad father if..............?

Question

What do you think ? I current live in orlando,fl and drive to get my son at the daycare in Largo,fl. It takes me 5 hours for that trip. I have him friday,saturday and sunday. Then on sunday I take him to a middle point to the mother. I do this every other weekend. I love my 5 year old son, and its so worth it. But times are getting tough. Gas prices are going down slowly and the wear and tear on the drive is bad. PLUS the long drive for my kid to sit there in the back seat. My question is I want to ask my ex wife if its okay to just do this trip once a month. Does that make me a bad father ? What are your thoughts.......thanks

Answer 1

u made a commitment to your son, you need to stick to it.  ask the ex to meet you half way if possible.  if not, get another job or move closer to the ex.

Answer 2

If you ask the mother that she's probably going to get upset with you and think you don't care about your son and she most likely will feel she is doing everything and that your no help. From your stand point i understand it... and its understanding why you would want to make it less often... but that still isn't parenting. And if you are going to make it once a month... when is that once a month going to turn in to once every two months... three months and so on???  

Answer 3

WOW. ITS TOUGH! ONCE A MONTH DOESNT SOUND GOOD CAUSE IF U GET USED TO THAT I COULD LEAD U INTO NOT SEEING HIM AT ALL.. THATS TOUGH! HMM HOW ABOUT YALL ARRANGE DIFFERENT WAYS TO SEE HIM.. LIKE ITS SUMMER NOW, HE COULD JUST MOVE WITH U AND U FIND HIM A DAY CARE WHERE U AT WHILE U AT WORK AND IT ALSO GIVES MOMMA A BREAK TO! ! AND WHEN IT GETS COLD FALL TIME LET HIM GO BACK WITH HER...

THINK ABOUT IT.. SEEING HIM ONCE A MONTH IS GONNA MAKE IT HARDER.. THINK ABOUT THE CHILD

GOD BLESS YOU SIR

Answer 4

Agree with Lonely  Move closer a least 1 hr away unless you love Orlando and have a dream job.  I'd also recommend getting a new little compact car(ex Civic) and a portable DVD player for your son. As for me I know I would go get my son twice a month and a 5 hr round trip really aint to bad your son should be worth it.  

Answer 5

i bet there are many fathers out there with a similar situation...i know how gas prices are affecting everyone's lifestyle now and days...but somehow everyone must adjust themselves to these changes...i think you should ask ur ex wife..if it's alright that you can make these road trip every 3 weeks...also if your son asks why your visitation schedules are changing tell him how you feel...remind him how much u love him and how much he means to you. i hope you can work things out...take care hun.

Answer 6

absolutely not...

just do what u think is best 4 ur son

Answer 7

No, you are not a bad father at all. At least you are there for your son and trying. It's understandable though, because gas prices are horrible these days and it must be expensive, plus, like you said a long drive for you and your son. If you have to do it just once a month try and make it extra special (although you probably do anyway). But yeah, you are not a bad father at all. Just trying to make a living and be responsible all at once. Good luck!

Answer 8

Your obviously not a bad father. This is a very complicated situation. You have to do what you can afford. This will hurt your son though. It would not be so bad if it was temporary. You and your ex need to figure out a good solution together, if possible. Good luck! Remember you are a really great dad because this question shows you care.  

Answer 9

Absolutely not. I know some fathers that don't even know their children at all. I would try to see if she could pick him up and meet you half way, if not, then that would be the only other option.

Answer 10

is there a way either of yall can move closer to each other?

Answer 11

That is a tough question, it's difficult all the way around, but at least you communicate with your sons mom, ask and see what she says and maybe even see how your son feels after that. Eventually he will want to stay home because of friends and possibly sports activities so this might be a short term problem. The fact that you care makes you a good considerate dad.