Am I a bad mum?!?..?

Question

my son is failing in school... is it all my fault?!

Answer 1

If you are then a lot of others are as well, myself included.  Our girls are A students and if my son brings home a D I am happy.  We make him do his homework, study at night etc but when he gets to school he simply will not do the work.  As a parent we have a certain amount of responsibility and as long as you are helping him, encouraging him and pushing then you can't be blamed for what he chooses not to do.  Check into a tutor for him and explain again that at the end of the years all of his friends will move up and he will be left behind.............sometimes peer pressure can be a good thing.  Also have his eyes and hearing checked to make sure there isn't something wrong there to cause it.

Answer 2

That is to little information to go on.

I do think you will failing in your responsibilities if you do not get him some help. If he is failing at 7 the odds are very good he may never get out of high school. Then I think you would be neglectful, seeing this started at 7 and you do nothing to fix it NOW!

I cant help but wonder about you. How old you are what is your education level. I really don't understand the need to ask a question like this.

Answer 3

it could be...

there are so many FACTORS  that could affect regarding that matter...

Answer 4

Not unless he was doing well b4 u got involved

Answer 5

If you provide a loving, nurturing, safe environment, encourage his self esteem, take time to help him, and provide him with adequate nutrition and rest - then it's not your "fault."  If he is missing any of these elements, you might want to make some adjustments.

Answer 6

I wouldn't be able to answer that question with out more information. I would say no though since you are concerned about it. However, what are you doing to help him not fail any further? My daughters grades started to slip and I contacted all of her teachers and we all three sat down together one teacher at a time to develop a plan to help her develop a plan to make things easier for her. It turned out that for starters she was not organized and socialized too much. I would say that you should keep an eye on the grades week to week to see what is going on and make sure he has some sort of punishment for his grades, grounding or something. You should stay in contact with the teachers and make sure homework is getting done every night and if you can't help then get a tutor or have him stay after school with the teacher he needs help from. It could be a cry for attention, I am not sure of your home environment.

Just provide a loving home environment and stay involved in school to make sure homework is getting done along with studying for tests (study with him it is great bonding time) and really make sure you stay on top of those grades sorry to repeat that but it is was worked for me and now she has straight A's. Good luck I am sure your a great mom just do your best that is all we can do.

Answer 7

Why? Do you always hurt him!!! When you hurt him it is a Physical or Emotional abuse!!! It depends on what is the situation!!! If you hurt him by saying at him deep bad words it is called a "Emotional Abuse" which can cause loss of emotions and the another is "Physical Abuse" wherein you are hurting him  in physical. All I want to advise is control your temper and don't be too high blood!!!

Answer 8

that's impossible to answer without knowing you.

but rather than worry if you're a bad mom (lots of kids with great moms have trouble in school), i'd figure out what you can do to help.  have you had a conference with the teacher to figure out what the problem is? is he doing homework carefully and turning it in? can he use extra help in a particular area (from you or a tutor)? does he have any vision or hearing problems or learning disabilities that if treated appropriately might help him do better? does he have behavioral issues at school that are keeping him from doing better, that you could help address? do you read aloud to him every day and set aside a time for him to read to himself (this makes a huge difference)? does he spend lots of time watching tv/ playing video games that could better be spent on more brain-boosting activities like creative play, board games, building with legos, etc.? is he stressed out about anything at home or at school that could be making it hard for him to focus on schoolwork? is he getting enough sleep and a good breakfast before school?

Answer 9

Why should you blame yourself????  I mean........???

Are you going to blame yourself for all wrong in the future??

You didnt give more  clues....

Answer 10

YES and NO!  How's your childs reading in grade 4?

Answer 11

My mom thinks it is her fault I am failing and so is my brother. She also thinks its her fault that we get in trouble so much.

I think a lot of moms feel this way.

If ur son was doing good before you got invovled then yeah it is.

Sometimes it is just kids going through a stage in life where they dont like school so they stop trying and if thats what hes going through then no its not ur fault.  

I say its most likely not ur fault

Answer 12

nah hes just a fern, I wouldn't worry about it. kids will be kids!

Just make sure he doesn't start eating your plant food

Answer 13

No. But you colud help him by tutoring him and helping him through life. It would make you a great Mum!

Answer 14

no hes going through a phase get a tutor

Answer 15

It's not all your fault, but you're partially to blame.  Work together with the other people in charge of his education (his father, his teachers, his counselors, etc.) to come up with a way to help him.

Answer 16

no ur not

there are plenty more reasons for ur son's failure

as a mom u should be more concern bout how to solve ur son's problem rather than be worried whose fault is it

best of luck!