Am I a bad parent???

Question

I am 28 yr ols Indian, going to die in a month..(of cancer)

mother of a 3 yr old boy. and also divorced from my husband, have noone in my family and relation.

Do you think, I am a bad parent as my kid will be responsible to my aunt after I go?

what gift should I give my kid, before I die?

Answer 1

NO, you're not a bad parent. Give your kid all of your love and time. And give him something to remember you by, like something special of yours that you want him to have forever. ... Something that will make him WANT to remember you as the best mom in the world.

Answer 2

You are not a bad parent, you have no choice in the matter. How do you know you are going to die in a month? You may have more time than you realize. Spend as much time with your child as you can.

This is a hard question. I guess you should leave your child with some faith. Blessings to you...

Answer 3

Of course you are not a bad parent. You would not be doing this if you had a choice.

Write him letters for all his occasions. Cards for his birthdays, by year so he has one until he is 30 or so. And letters one a year, and cards for graduation and his engagement and for his wedding telling him his bride is beautiful (she will be), leave money in some of the big occasion cards if you can, so he will be able to buy himself a gift from you.

Write him a goodbye letter, and remember to tell him he was the child you had always wanted and how much you love him. This will be lost on him for a few years yet, but when he's 16 and your letter in his card tells him a story of something that happened to you when you were 16, he will be able to associate with you.

He will be able to look back on it when he is in his 20's and say, look how much she cared, look how much effort she put in to making sure she could be here for me, even though she can't be here for me.

I am terribly sorry you are leaving us, you sound like a nice person. The world seems to lose the nice ones, at least it gets to keep your son.

Answer 4

No mother can be bad...so u r not a bad parent..ok.Man proposes God disposes.U r thinking u r going to die,but i think the God is going to dispose it.Play  with ur kid and love him as  much as u can..

Answer 5

ma'am...

i am sorry and sad that you have to pass away at such a early stage when there is yet so much to expirience.

But.

the best gift you can give to ur child is experience and love.

you may think that he is so small and he wont larn anything

but

remember this.

what you will teach and show ur child now will remain glued in his memory forever.

and teach him 1 big lesson.

to forgive.

hope i helped!

Answer 6

Not at all. Since you are a good parent, so you are showing much concern towards your child. If you have movable or immovable properties, make ur child as nominee and let your child use it when it attains maturity. Make some reliable person as ur child's guardian.  Do not worry about ur child. Show ur love and enjoy the life with your child. Dont think that u r bad parent.  u r the only lovable and believable person to ur child

Answer 7

first of all your not a bad parent and second what about his dad.....can't he be a parent and take care of him third you should ask him what he wants but don't tell him that your dying and make sure to say alot of i love yous hope i helped  

Answer 8

oh bless you, of course you are not a bad parent, you sound like a great one.

a lovely gift to leave behind is a memory box. get a small or large box, and add things to it like a special book you have shared, a lock of your hair, special photots of you both together, maybe a video of you both and some letters for him when he is older.

this will keep his memory fresh of you and will keep you near to him. it might be helpful for him as he grows older when it gets harder to remember lost loved ones.

enjoy what time you have left together.

god bless.whom ever your god may be.

Answer 9

first off you are not a bad parent! and second off he only gift you need to give him is your gift of love. you need to love him and show how much you care for him before you go!

Answer 10

Tape record you reading stories from children's books. This is commonly done by mommy soldiers going away on their missions, so I think that it would be a good thing for you to also do.   You cannot be a bad parent just because you got cancer.  None of us know when we will be called away from this life.  You have a chance to make an impression on your son.  

Answer 11

First don't think you are going to die, second beive in GOD. Read good books I will sugust one good book " Greatness guide2" by Robin Sharma. read.be engage with your 3year boy he is pressice for you. BE HAPPY Never never think that you are going to die. BE HAPPY BE HAPPY

Answer 12

im so sorry, u really need to let ur kid know that u love him, give him anything else material, he ould loose it or break it, but if he knows that u love him, he will keep that with him forever.  hes only three, but if u let him know, he will probably remember, and ur sister will always b able to tell him.

Answer 13

Write everyday to your child in a notebook. Write everything about yourself and things that you now they will go through in life - school, girls, dances, driving, bullies, friends. At 3 your boy may not appreciate it but as he grows and has something to look forward to for different times in his life he will greatly appreciate it.  

Answer 14

thats no reason you are a bad parent. make sure your kid has plenty of pictures of the two of you to remember you by.maybe write him a letter telling him how much he means to you and how much you love him

Answer 15

as far as its about the gift u shud give to ur son i think there wud b nothing better than ur memories so take lots n lots of pictures with him as many as u can , make videos, write LOTS of letters to him, tell him about ur expectations from him n guide him thru those letters, tell him tht u will always b by his side n he means the world to u write about his school, his first gf, his wife n tell him tht if u were physically here u wud luv all as much as u do wen u r not n spend every second of ur life with him this wud make both of u very happy n i also think if u can u shud secure his future by probably making n RESP [fixed deposit] for him so when he grows up he has something on him ........i feel extremely bad for you....sorry :( .....i wish some sort of miracle happens n u cud stay here with ur son

Answer 16

I am so sorry for your situation. You are not a bad parent. You can't help that you have cancer and there is no one but your aunt.

You should give your child the gift of knowledge. Create a video diary or written journal telling him the lessons you want him to learn, and how to be a good person. Talk about your love for him and tell him customs or family history etc that he may not get after you pass. Anything you think is important...

My prayers are with you. God bless.

Answer 17

I feel sorry your situation.  The best think what you can give to your children are words of your big love to them. Write to them letter or notebook about everything what you want to tell to your children.

Answer 18

No dear, u r surely not a bad parent, whatever u did was the best on that day, in that place and in that situation. So please dont think like that, its very sad that u may not be able to b vit ur son but i pray to god to give ur child the best that he can, nobody, no matter how good, can replace mother but i wish ur son gets all the love, beleive in god, whatever he'll do will be good, i give u my personal assurance that god will always do good to those who do good to others, so try to do the best possible for others (not only ur son) n u know gods accounts are never wrong, he'll calculate ev'thin nice n accurate dear, if u do good to others god will take care of you, thats a guarantee. I m here to help u if i can, u can mail me if u need any help in this regard, Bye

Answer 19

you are not a bad parent because it isnt your fault.

what you should do for your son is spend all the money you have left on him or put it in his bank so he can live off it in later life

Answer 20

You are not a bad parent at all.

I think you should spend more time with your kids before a month comes. Never stop telling thhem you love them. Write a poem for them. It dosent have to be fancy. God bless you. <3

Answer 21

Take as many pics as you can of you and your son....even if you dont look or feel the best....when he grows up he will be so thankful that he has those little momentos of you!!! Give him something to remember, or at least know what you looked like!

Answer 22

aww. i'm so sorry )):

give him a picture of you and him together doing his favorite activity.

you're not a bad parent.

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Answer 23

Buy some birthday cards...date them, and leave him notes about what you hope he's accomplished by that birthday.

eg. "today is your 6th birthday. I hope you are doing well in school and you enjoy it. Have you learned how to roller skate yet? If not, then this should be the year to do it! I'm sure you will enjoy it. Love, Mom."

Answer 24

Hmm...kind of a hard question.  I'm really not sure whether your a good parent or not, just because all the indians I know tend to p**s me off alot.  Anyways, for your kids' gift, you should teach them to tap dance.  It'll get him a good rep for the ladies. *wink*

Answer 25

This may sound horrible; when my wife died, I was left to raise a 4 month old and a 4 year old. It took me some time, but I realized that by keeping the memory of their mother alive, they would be saddled with the grief I was carrying as well. I made a decision to not mention her except in casual conversation or unless my daughter asked. I decided that when they were older and curious that I would answer their questions, but to remind them daily of the love that they no longer had, was in fact a vanity on my part and a burden on them. Who doesn’t want to be remembered by their children? I suggest you write your son a letter or have one dictated. Explain to him how much you love and care for him and how you hope he turns out well. Explain that you do not want him to grieve or miss you, but to know that he was loved and cherished by you. Have your Aunt give him the letter when he is older and more mature. In the meantime, enjoy every day you have left with him and tell him that even though you will soon go away, you will always love him. My heart breaks for you and your child.

Answer 26

Really a tearfull situation and GOD bless U,How u can be a bed parent,according to me you hand over your kid some needy and genuine person who can take care of him and it would be a tribute to you also.

Once again i will pray and god bless u.

Answer 27

How do you that it is a month.  I dont know if I should believe you.  If this is true,sell some of your stuff and give the kid a few of your stuff to rember you and then if you sell the stuff of yours,give the money to your aunt to buy things for your kid. You dont need to buy him something and you are not irresponsible. It is better the aunt than some adoption place.

Answer 28

first of all I'm so sorry you are sick. second if you have seen the movie step mom you will know where I'm getting this idea from. if you can sew or if you know anyone that can sew make him a blanket holding all the memories you have had together your first picture together pieces of his old clothes his favorite games memories of your favorite things so he can have them for ever and pass them down to his children or even turn it into a picture when he gets older.

God Bless

Answer 29

Love.

That Jesus Christ loves them.

And they can have eternal life with him, someday.

They could pray and ask Jesus christ to come into their heart and

save them. You could do the same.

Thats your gift from God.

Letting Jesus Christ into your heart, than they would have a mother,

that is ready to meet the Lord. Give them the gift of Love.

God's gift to you is his son, Jesus Christ, who died for you. And

wants save you, and give you Eternal Life. The greatest gift is

Jesus christ.

Answer 30

How can you be a bad parent because you have terminal cancer? That is no-one's fault. You have had a lot of good ideas about what you can do for your son - I have heard of people leaving video and tape messages or letters to be opened at various stages of their lives such as the milestones of puberty, graduation, marriage etc. Another is to leave cards and messages for each birthday up to or beyond 21. As for something which he can keep close to him, how about a pendant of some kind with a large enough chain for him to wear it close to him as he gets older?

Hope that helps. Good luck and God bless you all.

Answer 31

Your not a bad parent and my heart goes out to you,my friend died on wednesday and left behind 2 boys she had an aneurysm of the brain and it burst surgery could not save her and her life support machine was turned off.

While dying is scary you have some time to take photos make videos for your son write him letterers christmas cards and birthday cards for years to come,and be there for him the best you can,

My friend was 36 and had her whole life ahead of her and never got the chance to do those things god bless you hun