Am I a bad person? Is this a disorder?

Question

I have been cutting myself for some time now. Everyone keeps telling me to stop and get help, but my parents don't care and they have the money...so therapy is not going to happen.

What scares me is that I don't want to stop. It is oddly comforting to me and I can't figure out why. It just worries me because I grew up in a good Christian household so I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I do.

Is it really that bad that I comfort myself in this way? Any advice is greatly needed!!

Just so you know, I'm a 16 year old girl with a good life. And I DON"T WANT TO KILL MYSELF!!!!

Answer 1

Cutting is a coping mechansim to deal with stress like alcohol and drugs. It is very addictive like alcohol and drugs. See site below for better ways to deal with stress than cutting.

Answer 2

i can't think of a reason why you'd want to cut yourself if you have a good life.

if you could think of why you started cutting in the first place or how you feel when you decide you're going to go cut, it would be alot easier to figure out.

yes, it's a disorder. usually, you'd call it suicidal, but if you don't want to kill yourself, then i wouldn't know what to call it.

i know i don't even know you, but please don't cut. i doubt this will matter to you, but i honestly care, and i really think you need to stop.

try getting some therapy, maybe it could help? thanks.  

Answer 3

Cutting is your way to cope with whatever problems you are having in your life. You really do need to see someone about it. Since you say your parents won't send you to a therapist, try talking to the guidance counselor at your school. They have a background in psychology, so they should be able to help you. You aren't a bad person. Everyone deals with their problems in different ways.

Answer 4

Cutting is a way of releasing pain that you are keeping locked inside of you.  You need to get help to learn how to deal with the emotional issues that are causing you to do this.  If you can't talk to your parents about it then talk to another adult that you trust such as an aunt, uncle, school counselor, etc.

Answer 5

I feel closely the same way. No your not a bad person, there is just something down in side of you that is bugging you. I have thought of scuicide but like you i dont want to kill myself personaly i dont have the power invested in myself to do it. Think of when you first started cutting yourself and why. It is bad to do and you should stop its not doing anything for you in the long run. My old Girlfiriend use to cut the wrinkels in her feet so no one could see, i got her thinking of the good things she had at the time. something else that helps me when i feel like that, i get up and leave my house go somewhere a park a playground climb a tree run through a field get out and look around.

Answer 6

You should get therapy. Simple as that. Do you have a school psychologist? If so see him./her See anyone that'll helpp. If your parents ont you have to. And if you've told people it can be a way of you trying to feel like you get some ttention that your parents haven't provided. But you're 16. You are the ONLY ONE wo can fix this. You have to work on it, but no one else can do it but you. You should get a shitload of help from everyone but it is your responibillity all the way.

Answer 7

1. If your parents have money but won't pay for therapy, that is called abuse.  Someone needs to intervene on your behalf.

2. Cutting is comforting, but in a negative way.

3. You just said, "parents don't care;" now you say "Christian household."   ???

4.  You do not have a good life if you are cutting yourself.

Cutting is classically known as an attention seeking gesture.  

Stop.

You already know that you may kill yourself.  All it takes is one good stroke made a little too deep.  

Seek professional help.  There are free mental health clinics in every community.  

Concerned. . .  

Answer 8

youre deranged, please get some help before this grows into a bigger problem

Answer 9

You are not a bad person.  It is considered by the medical community as self mutilation, guilt, the question screams guilt, am I a bad person.  

Other side of the coin.  There are websites that discuss this behavior.  The people consider this normal bahavior.  They tatoo, and pierce themselves heavily and consider the behavior completely normal, I'm surprised you have not bumped in to one of these websites.

Again, you look inside yourself, and you come up w/the answer.  You probably know already, are you willing to let the answer to your conciousness, and discuss it with someone.  By doing so , you may intercept behavior that could be disastarous.  Admit out loud to someone why, trust someone,,,,,,,,,,,

Or are you a self mutilator, bound for a life of tattoos, and pierceings, without even knowing why?

Admit, seek a friend, then a professional