Am I a boy or a girl? Can you help me?

Question

I am born a boy but I have alwaysed loved to be a girl. I like to be as beautiful as a girl and have a smooth and curly femminin body. I love make up and feminine cloths specially the s**y and fetish clothing and underwear.

I like nothing of manhood. I love to always be in ladies comunities. I feel myself board and uncomfortable when being with men. I even hate the topics that generally men like to speak about when they get together.

When I see a beautiful girl I wish I were in her shoes. But I should say that sometimes I love her to be mine too.

I hate to sleep with a man but I like to feel feminin so I sometimes imagin being a girl having s*x with an imaginary man. I should also say that I feel being degraded when imagining the improper social behavior of men with me as a girl. I hate to hear a man likeing to have s*x with me.

As you see I am completely mixed up. I have consulted some psychiatrists. A female one has told that I seem to be a transexual but the male one and the more expert one told that I am a transvestite.

Can you help me?

I am studying Ph.D. and it's almost time for me to start a family but I am not sure to live like a boy or a girl. I know that I am physically too tall and masculine to change to a girl but I can NEVER forget about being a girl.

Answer 1

I would go with the female psychiatrist. I'm no doctor, but you sound more like a transsexual to me. Generally (as I'm sure you know) when you have to live as the wrong s*x for an extended period of time, it eventually becomes unbearable. A transvestite would only want to dress like a woman, some of the time. If your desire is to physically become a woman full time, we are talking about transsexualism (try looking up Gender Identity Disorder). I think you should look into finding a gender therapist, that is, one who has experience with transpeople. They would be more help than any of us. It would probably be in your best interest to sort this out before getting a family involved. It would only get more complicated after that...

You might get a better response in the LGBT section here, under society and culture, cultures and groups

Answer 2

there are many operations you could have to make yourself look more feminine, but unfortunately you may never look the way you desire. there are many men out there in your shoes and even women that may want to be with you. good luck with finding yourself.

Answer 3

dont choose....you do not have to choose just one role..if you feel you are supposed to dress like a female and act like a female and sleep with a male but accept your body for what it is a biological male than so be it. Its your life do with it what YOU want. Forget about societal norms and rules you have been told during your development and just be who you are. If you do what makes you happy than you have made the right choice for you...but only you will know what that choice is. And your allusion to making the choice so you can start a family...that doesn't have to be made....there are many different types of families out there and absolutely none of them are exactly the same nor perfect. Just be yourself. You will be better able to accept your self and have others accept you better when you are genuine to yourself.

Answer 4

....you may require some males hormones,

which may change your personality and may again make you feel like a man.

Answer 5

You're a boy.

No.

Answer 6

you're born a boy, your a boy.

you just wish to be a girl, tough luck God made you a man.