Am I a douche? (You peopel are mroe sensible than those in Singles)?

Question

I accidentally impressed this very attractive girl and am going to give you the key points

*Impressed her in the sense of "Omg! a guy whocan talk about his feelings!" and "Look! he made a reform! Maybe he can change!"

*Destroyed that impressment unintentionally

*she thinks I like her ( I dont and never did )

*She is no longer is attracted to me

*I believe I brought her down a notch by rejecting her

Im afriad that I unjustly brought her down a notch and am afriad of having hurt her in doing so. Im asking if Im a douche if I did.

*We are both freshman and 14

*All of this was communicated through body language and non-verbal gestures.

*I know her purely as a aqcuiantance (A friand of a friend)

Answer 1

will cusick?!

Answer 2

you are being very considerate to think about her feelings. First you impressed her. Then you didn't.She thinks you like her. Now she is NOT attracted to you. It is hard to imagine all this happening non-verbal, so it may be not as complicated as you feel. From what you have said you are not a"douche", unless you are leaving out some physical information,however how little. So just continue to be nice. I doubt that what you have described has brought her down.How did she know you were a "guy who could talk about  his feelings" if everything was nonverbal?That confuses me a little bit, but I think you should not make too much of an issue of this   consideration is nice, but ego has to come into play here. Maybe she is not thinking anything at all and if she did,it will pass. And don't bring up this issue with her or her friend  ,because it would make her feel bad if she thought that you felt you rejected her. THAT would bring her down. Let it rest.  

Answer 3

If your 14 and a freshman in High School then I suggest that you just get over it. You have 4 years to go and no Freshman love is gonna last a lifetime. Even if you didn't mean to hurt her, us girl's are sensitive in High School.. I'm 32 years old and still remember High School. Just try to avoid her if you really think you hurt her feelings and just watch your body language around girl's. You might just be one of those guys that give off the wrong feeling to someone. I'm not saying that that's a bad thing. But if you are then you might just be back in this same situation in a year or two.

Don't worry though you both are young and both will get over this!!

Good luck

Answer 4

not at all man

no worries

but if you believe in karma you may be in a little bit of trouble

but this happens to everyone

and will probably happen to you at some point to

honestly

you probably did her some good by bringing her back down to earth

its a good reality check

Answer 5

I think it's not your fault. Don't worry