Am I a loner in high school?

Question

I'm in high school, and while I know people in most of my classes, they usually ignore me, but I don't know why. I sit with a group at lunch, but I'm lucky if anyone really talks to me. So I go sit in 4th hour early. I do have a friend (sort of a friend) in there, that is always there early, too.

I don't know, most people just seem immature to me, or they act dumb. I think some of my classmates smoke or drink. I want friends, but I think I am just too introverted. I do feel okay talking to my 4th hour teacher, and maybe to my 2nd and 3rd hour ones, too, but I'm not comfortable with other students. Like I said, my friends from last year pretty much ignore me.

Am I a loner? Do you have any advice?

Answer 1

Advice: Just countinue to be yourself, your almost off to college and would probably think back why did I even worry about that stuff.  

Answer 2

personally i think you are just more mature than most of you peers. you should join a club or after school activity that intrests you.there you'll find a friend, or two, that enjoys the same things you do too. you should talk to that other girl in your 4th period class. you two obviously have something in common, you need a friend.  

Answer 3

Loners are people who prefer to be left alone.  You don't seem to want to  be by yourself, necessarily, but its hard for you to find people in your school that you're compatible with.  That's rough. :(

You don't say how old you are or what year you're in but it sounds like you're just more mature than most of your classmates.  The good thing is that eventually they will grow up and catch up with you in maturity.  Hang in there.  

Answer 4

If there are any club or activities you are interested in then try joining them.  High schools are typically made up of students from the same geographic area as opposed to interests and personalities.  Clubs can help you find those with similar interests which give you common topics to talk about.

If you feel comfortable with your 4th hour teacher ask them if they can give you any pointers on why you might seem to not fit in and if there is anything you can change.  

By all means don't take on any bad habits to fit in...

Hang in there.

Answer 5

just be yourself. i wouldn't worry. most high school kids who smoke and drink are posers and are full of it. In the long run you will have good friends. just be patient. i know it can be tough, but you don't need to be someone your not just to get friends.  

Answer 6

Try to get involved with different sports and clubs at school. That will be sure way to make and keep friends. That way you will have something in common and something to talk about. Just be friendly and if they have an opinion about something that is different then yours don't argue with them just go along with it.

Answer 7

"I don't know, most people just seem immature to me, or they act dumb."

Although you may seem more mature, learn to accept everyone, be friendly but comfortably detached to everyone. Learn to accept the flaws of others and you won't be afraid to have to live up to being flawless yourself.

It's time for a serious makeover girl. Learn hairstyles, get involved in activities like art, sports, yoga, whatever to get more comfortable around meeting new people. Not to be popular per say, but just to learn more about the world and the people in it. Treat the world as your playground and your lab experiment. Try new things. See responses. Have fun with it. Don't be afraid of looking or acting bad. Always think positive. Set goals. Make dreams. Find the good in the bad. Find the bad in the good. Find the diverse in the plain. Enjoy yourself !

Answer 8

its high school, youll be lucky to even see any of them again after..

so it doesnt really matter.

worry more about coworkers or college..

just be you and if you want, talk it up a bit more

Answer 9

See if you can try making some new friends. Dont ditch the ones you have now, but maybe join an after school club or something which may have new people in with simular interests to you.

I know it can be hard, like some of my frinds are well behaved and stuff, but then when they hang out after school, they often hang out with people who drink and smoke and stuff. Even though my friends dont, they are still around those people which makes me feel uncomfortable, so i cant really hang around with them. I also think they are immature.

Anyway, good luck :)