Am I a loser? I need people's opinions?

Question

I'm in eighth grade and I've never been on a date, I don't care if you say yes, I just want to know if that's the defintion of a loser in todays culture

Answer 1

Oh for God's sake no it's not the definition of a loser. And believe me, I've been around a lot of losers.

If it bothers you so much, ask someone out on a date. But stop thinking of yourself like that. It won't do you any good at all.  

Answer 2

I think that it is a little premature to say that you are a looser because you are in the eighth grade and have not gone on a date.  Dating is a complex thing and some people do not get around to it until later in high school or even wait until college.  If anything our culture is putting to much pressure on people at even younger ages....don't sweat it so much and try to enjoy being an eighth grader....you will have plenty of time to date when you are older....besides real dating requires a drivers license...so at least give yourself until you are sixteen before you write yourself off as a dating dudd.  Good Luck.

Answer 3

No. You are not.

Some stupid people may make fun of people because they've never been on a date, but that's just how you could tell immature people from the mature ones.

Answer 4

Wow - I wasn't even allowed to date at your age.

Don't be in a hurry. The teenage years are difficult enough without adding a bunch of ridiculous 'love' drama to the equation. Believe me. At you're age, you're much better off without that angst.

You are definitely not a loser. It's okay not to follow the crowd. The masses are blind anyway.  :)

Answer 5

Dude, forget that loser c**p.  Not having been on a date at your age doesn't mean anything other than that you've not been on a date yet.  Give yourself a little time and don't try to measure yourself against what's happening to others.  You'll be fine.  Just have some faith in yourself.

Answer 6

No, 8th grade isn't as old as it feels.

Answer 7

No, you're not. Would it make you feel better if I told you that I didn't have a real date until I was 16? It's true. You're still a young guy and you have plenty of time to date girls.

Answer 8

You are not a loser just because you haven't been on a date !!!!

A "loser" is not judged by the number of dates he/she has or had!!!

There are more important things in life then dates!

Answer 9

Why are you asking people whether or not you're a loser? Are you going to count the votes (how many for yes/no) and determine what you are? You don't need our opinions to define who you are. Are you kidding me?

Man, someone needs to knock some senses into your head. You got your priorities all screwed up! What you need to focus on is school and not so much on girls and dating.

Answer 10

it took me til grade 10. I had one boyfriend and after that I went out on one date and that was it. I have now graduated highschool

Answer 11

I didn't have my first "formal" date until I was a junior in High School.  Don't push things.  You're young yet.

And don't give into any sexual pressures, either.  Peer pressure can be tough to deal with, but unless YOU are ready for things to happen, don't EVER let any one tell you that you're a jerk, a nerd, an idiot, a loser, whatever.  Always treat girlfriends like they are princesses, and as you would want someone to treat your sister (hoping that you love your sister!!!).  Be a gentleman and respectful.

Be kind to yourself and others... if you make mistakes, forgive yourself as well as you would forgive a friend if they made a mistake.

Have a polite day.

Answer 12

Yikes!  Who told you that you met the definition of a loser?   Undoubtedly, it was a REAL loser.

Don't worry about dating yet.  Unless you really, really like a girl currently, there's no point asking someone out just to say you're "dating."

Join after-school extracurricular activities and/or church youth groups to meet new people.  That way, you're having fun in a group setting, and if some sparks fly with the opposite s*x when you're there, you can always pursue the matter.

Answer 13

IMO, a loser= someone who doesn't work, is COMPLETELY lazy and their only occupation is being a couch potatoe. In short, someone who doesn't have a life.

To answer your ques, no you're not a loser. Don't worry too much about that...someday soon you will get a date