Am I a *****?

Question

A guy I was seeing asked me to be honest about how I felt and I told him the truth - I like him, but I want to keep things quite casual and I hope he's ok with that. He freaked out, yelled at me and said I was a spiteful ***** who just said that to hurt him. I was actually trying not to hurt him so I'm really annoyed that he said those things to me.

Do you think he was right? I've not been seeing him for very long and after that little outburst I don't think I want to see him again.

Answer 1

Well you were honest but he probably feels like you are stringing him along or something.  from his reaction, he sounds like the jerk though. He probably wants more of a committed relationship and you want (like you said) some thing more casual.  I suggest moving on unless you both want the same thing out of this relationship.

Answer 2

Everyone is a *****, and you and me are no exception.

Answer 3

Run - run now.  This guys wants more from this relationship than you want and, when he doesn't get his own way, turns to name calling, shouting, basically emotional manipulation.  If this is how he handles disagreements now, this is how he will always handle them.  Seriously, it might seem harsh, but he's shown you his true colours - don't ignore the message.  Good luck x*x

Answer 4

The way you are describing it.

No you are not.

He just need to mature a bit.

Answer 5

No, he's not right. Maybe he found it hard to believe that a girl doesn't want a sious relationship and thought you were purposely trying to lead him on, or he might be a really traditional type that doesn't like it when girls are upfront or make the first move.  Either way, he's not the right person to have a casual relationship with.  

The fact that you were upfront is good, I think.  A lot of people pretend to fall in love with the person just to get some, and it's good that you were honest.  Try to find someone that has the same mentality as you..I'm sure there are plenty of 20 year old guys that feel the same way. :)

Answer 6

You should be aware that all hetrosexual males are looking to get laid. So you kinda burst the bubble at a time that ol boy probably figured things were progressing nicely and was ready to take it up a notch . So what you told him was like squirting the cat with a garden hose..hence the defencive,out of character reply from him. no you are no ***** -just a typical woman,I think.

Answer 7

Everyone is entitled to decide who they spend their time with, especially their intimate time.

He asked, you told. Maybe he feels it was a bit harsh, but it's better than being fed a lot of lies.

He needs to get over it.

Cheers :-)

Answer 8

i guess it depends on what you've said to him in the past, or what you may have led him to believe.  assuming you didnot lead him on, then i don't think you did or said anything wrong... just seems like it was not the answer he wanted.

when people feel rejected they often respond by trying to hurt you back.  that's probably why he reacted the way he did.

Answer 9

Well, geez, you were just telling him the truth. It's better than leading him to think you want more. He'll thank you for this later.

Answer 10

Based off what you wrote, he's overly sensitive.  I don't know why he went off on you.  No, I wouldn't call you that.

Answer 11

No you're not. He wanted an honest answer and you gave him one, so what the h**l is his problem? He's obviously one of those sensitive types who want an honest answer but then totally reject the answer if they don't like it. If I were you I wouldn't even waste my time with him.

Jazz

Answer 12

He just needs to get over himself.  I think you dodged a bullet there.

Answer 13

He asked and you answered! Seems like to me he's being a jerk for not taking it well and calling you names!

You aren't a B. Don't let this loser get to you, and rest assured with that reaction you know you made the right decision to keep things casual.

Answer 14

Just the ranting of a man realizing he was being thrown into "the friend zone".

Seriously, you shouldn't see him again, the man has some displaced anger issues.

Answer 15

He sounds like an @sshole.  Move on, babe.

Answer 16

You didn't say anything he didn't ask for. He's just being a puss about it, and making you feel bad for being honest.

Don't worry about it. Let him be pissed. It's not your problem anymore. I'd rather my girl be honest with me about this than lead me on.

Answer 17

???? quite and casual well u better be ******* beyonce or F'n jessica alba if u had talked to me like that i would have been like bye girl and just left no outburst lol