Am I a terrible person?

Question

My sister has three sons ages 8, 4, 2. The 8 yr old is a doll. The 4 and 2 yr old have had no discipline whatsoever. I love them dearly, but to be blunt, they are terrors. They run around and hit and kick, break things, destroy everyone's house when they are over, and throw the worst fits I've ever seen. My sister does nothing. I can hardly stand for her to bring them over because my house always gets completely wrecked and she says nothing. Now come to find out they will all be at my baby shower this weekend. I'm so pissed right now. My shower which is supposed to be about my son is going to be a freaking zoo with them having tantrums like you've never seen. Do I have the right to be so mad or should I just worry about my soon to be son and let her deal with hers?

Answer 1

I would be pissed too. What little monsters. I think you should talk to your sister about discipline. She might take it the wrong way at first but she will realize that you only tell her because you care. Your baby shower is a special day and you shouldn't let no one ruin it for you.

Good luck and Congrats on your baby=)

Answer 2

You have every right to be upset.  You sister allowing her children to act like that is inexcusable.  I just love it when kids are acting like holy terrors and all the mother can do is say "honey, please don't do that" in a voice so small it can't be heard over the commotion her undisciplined children are creating.  If I were you, I would seriously consider asking your sister to NOT bring over her children unless she can assure you they won't ruin your day.

Answer 3

you should do want feels right in your heart. I would asked if she could find a babysitter

Answer 4

Why don't you simply TALK to your sister and tell her how you feel?  I would!!!  Stop letting these children walk all over YOU and letting them ruin your things!  There is no reason why you cannot discipline them as well.  They are your nephews after all and I certainly do NOT let my nephews get away with this kind of nonsense.  That will be the day I let a child or my sister run my house!!!!  

I would tell them there is a new "rule" in Aunty's house.  NO fights.  NO tantrums, or they sit in the corner.  Then, when they do, PUT THEM IN THE CORNER.  Period, end.

I know this sounds rude but it is not meant to be I think YOU will have to grow a backbone here and be the enforcer, if you will.

Answer 5

This might work, tell your sister that you only want girls at your baby shower. When i was little i think like 6 my twin brother went off somewhere else while me my sister and my mom went to a baby shower. If not try explaining to her nicely that you dont think that it would be the best idea to have her sons at your baby shower.

Good luck.

Answer 6

tell her that you expect her to control her boys and accept responsibility for any breakage

Answer 7

You are entitled to your peace in your house and that includes appropriate behavior by your sister's kids. If she is present, tell her that you won't go for her kids antics in your house and you expect her to control them. If she doesn't, you can ask her not to bring them anymore. Try to be as assertive and pleasant about it as can be. No reason for you to suffer because your sister doesn't know or like to control her kids.

Answer 8

i would call supernanny. she will fix their butts good.