Am I alone??????????

Question

I just found out that my adopted daughter is pregnant. Everyone else is saying that they would have kicked her out of their house. That is not right. What would they do?, Where would they go? I don't understand why people are so willing to kick their kids out of the house for getting pregnant. I don't care if she is pregnant, I will not kick my DAUGHTER out of my house. Okay, I realize that she made a mistake, but does she really deserve to be homeless? She will pay for it later on, and she is still in school, and she is not going to let the child that she is carrying affect the fact that she plans to go to college. Plus, I will be there to help her.

Answer 1

I agree with you 100%. Plus let's not forget a baby is involved, why punish the baby and make it homeless for something it didn't do? Not to mention kicking a minor out is illegal. Good for you for helping your daughter.

Answer 2

Your daughter is going to be pregnant whether she's in your house or out on the streets-there's no changing that.  So what will kicking her out of the house accomplish?  Nothing!  She needs your love and support more than ever right now...regardless of mistakes she has made.  She is YOUR daughter and no one has the right to tell you what to do about it.  

Congratulations, grandma!  Best of luck to you all.

Answer 3

i completly agree with you she doesnt desirve to be homeless and her child deserves a good start in life its not the childs fault you wouldnt kick a new born out .. so dont kick you pregnant daughter out

love her

support her help her carry on with school

your so right

welldone :)

Answer 4

No do NOT kick her out!!!! You said she was adopted - so her parents gave her up when she was born. Kicking her and her baby out would only make things worse and she would have many hard feelings towards you. It doesn't matter what other people say - are you going to kick your daughter out of your house to please other people? Who cares what they think!!! If she still plans to go to college then she knows what she did was wrong but she still wants to live her life. Hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 5

I agree with you. Kicking your daughter out just because some guy got her pregnant. If you kicked her out she would possibly be living on the streets or with a friend. I know nobody would want there daughter living on the streets.  She does NOT deserve to be homeless. It is the guys fault for perming in her. She did make a mistake and have s*x with him, without any contraceptives(birth control, condoms) I'm glad that she is willing to pay for it later on.

Your daughter sounds like she is ready for a baby and the consequences. I'm also very glad that you are not going to kick your daughter out like some of the other parents out there.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Some of them probably couldn't actually kick their daughters out even if they say they would. If it makes you feel better my mom says she wouldn't kick me out if I got pregnant but she really really does not want me to get pregnant. (She was a teen mom)

Answer 7

Is there a question?

I think many people react this way because if children want to act like adults, they should be able to support themselves like adults.

Answer 8

As a teenage girl, i find it wonderful that you have that attitude toward your daughter.  I'm sure she realizes her mistake and if you were to kick her out it would only make her life harder.  if ever I was to make that mistake and my parents decided to kick me out...(they wouldn't... but if they did...) I dont' know what I would do.  I think I would probably die.  I would already feel alone in the world having made that mistake, and if my family ditched me too! I don't know what I would do.  I'm glad I don't have to face that, but to your daughter, she is lucky to have a mother like you who cares about her no matter what she does. thats what parents should be. and thats what your daughter needs right now.

Answer 9

you are a great mother,adopted or not she is calling only you mother.thats what you should look into,anyone can make mistakes,you aswell as me.stay by her side during her difficult times and help her to complete her college.god bless you

Answer 10

OK so my mom always told me that if I were to get pregnant she would kick me out. I really don't understand why parents do that. I mean when your daughter is pregnant that is when they need you the most. You are not the only one that feels this way. When other people tell you what you should have done tell them to go hump a tree. I was a mistake and young girls make them everyday. Shes not the first and definitly the last. . .Just love her and help her through this. . .

Answer 11

No you are an amazing supportive parent..keep up the great work.  Everyone is human and we all make mistakes, some more than others.  None are ever worth destroying relationships over.  Good choices.

Answer 12

you are so right, first of all she is your daughter, and regardless of the mistakes they make in their lives we have to love them always. and being adopted she knows being a mom or dad doesn't always work out. but for you both it does. and she sounds mature enough to know that school is important. yes a baby changes everything for life, but you know it can take one time and that's all to change your whole life. she could of used protection and did all the right things, (people dont wait always until they are married now a days anyway) and i dont know why people judge you for not waiting, even at teen years. you will be facing all kinds of judgment. you have to know within yourself and her too, that you are in this together. there are many options out there and she knows the joy of being adopted by a loving mother and that choice is out there. or to raise the child and all of you can help and support her. yes there is a line between women who get pregnant and keep doing it. i too am a adopted mother of 4. (of the 8 this woman had). that well is not good. But dont let anyone change your mind and lead you in a wrong direction (i have this feeling you are strong and wont do that) you both keep your head up high and do what works for you. good luck and God bless.  

Answer 13

Kicking her out is not the right way of dealing with the situation.  If I were you I would encourage her to continue her education and help her as far as that goes but also when the baby is born make sure she knows that most of the responsibility lies on her and she will need to mother the baby and not be a typical teenager any longer.  If life goes back to the same ol teenage way of living and you are doing all the work it is more likely to happen again.  Good Luck!