Am I awful for not wanting kids?

Question

I'm 15 and I LOVE kids and love babies. I just don't want to be a parent.

It looks difficult and it just seems like once it happens life will never be the same for me again. Pregnancy looks awful and child birth sounds painful. Raising an infant sounds exhausting. I watch my little sister and love her, but there are times where she's run outside and I haven't been watching her well enough. I'm not responsible and I'd be just so afraid something would happen to the baby. Then I'm afraid they'd hate me as a child or a teen. My relationship with my parents aren't so solid right now and I'm afraid of that being me.

Like I said I love kids but to me having my own sounds like a huge burden.

Is this normal to think or am I just really not fit to be a parent? Is it terrible for me to think of having a kid of my own as a burden?

Answer 1

C'mon kid. Wait till you get there then whatever choice you make is your business. It's your life.

Answer 2

no

Answer 3

lol no ur not bad 4 wanting kids. some people love kids and they work well with them but just dont want any of their own. theres nothing wrong with that. bsides ur 15 u shouldnt b worrying about having kids for a while. u understand the complications of raising kids and thats very mature of u. and not 2 try and change ur mind, but when u go in2 kiss ur child goodnight, and take a step back, u feel really good knowing u brought this child into the world and u love it with all of ur heart and 2 c them smile at u makes it all worth it.

Answer 4

You're only 15.  Most 15-year-olds don't have the maturity to be responsible for raising a child.  That's not a good sign of whether you'll be responsible enough years down the road when you're ready to be married.

I have four children, with #5 on the way.  They are a wonderful blessing, and it's a privilege to raise them and give of myself to them.  Pregnancy is not that bad, and childbirth lasts a couple hours, and the end result is worth it.

Answer 5

i think ure too young to even consider kids. just enjoy your life and when your older things will fall into place. dont get pressured into doin someting that ull regret

Answer 6

Don't worry this is because your 15 . I think it's great that it sounds like you wouldn't be rushing to have a kid because  you are only 15 and it sounds like you are mature and responsible. Once you get older though your feelings change for things like that so don't think because you don't want kids now that it means you never will, it's just because that now you are not ready and you are not ready because you are 15  but remember when you are ready i'm sure your feelings might change so continue to make good choices:)

Answer 7

You're too young to consider being a parent.  Wait 10 years and see how you feel then, you may change your mind.  I never wanted children, and neither did my husband.  Then we turned 30 and everything changed.

You're smart in waiting.  More than you know.

Answer 8

You're still young, when you meet the right guy that you want to spend the rest of your life with, you'll change your mind. I felt the same way until just last year, and I'm 18. I still actually do not like babies and especially kids, but if I had my own, I'd love him or her so much.

Answer 9

I was the oldest of 7 kids and to watch them a lot and at your age I did not want kids either.  but when I was 28.. I decided that I did ,and had 2 beautiful children 2 years apart. they are now 15 and 17 and the light of my life. Maybe later in life you will decide that you want kids and by then you will bee ready for  that.

Answer 10

You are 15....I say kudos to you for knowing the impact a baby would have on your life.  It's very likely that you'll change your mind as you get older, and if not, don't worry about it, it's your decision.  Anyway, when I was your age, I absolutely did not want kids either.  I'm 35 now and expecting my 5th baby and I can't imagine my life without them.

Answer 11

When I was your age, I made up my mind to NEVER give birth to a child!  There is a difference between adoption and having your own too.  But, NEWay, to this day at the ripe old age of 32 I feel the same.  In between, I have had misgivings.  This is nothing to be ashamed of b/c some women don't have nurturing built into their systems.  Don't worry either b/c you are young and a lot of women aren't having children till their 30's......look how long you have to decide...

Answer 12

You are 15 years old, you should not even be thinking about having a kid at all whether you want one later on or not.

Not everyone is cut out to be a parent which is fine. But why worry about this now unless maybe you are having s*x and worried you may be pregnant if so take a test and if it is negative get on birth control at the health department cause it is free.

Answer 13

I think the exact same way as you. I've asked a question before and I have worded it pretty close to yours..scary lol.

No, I don't think it's a 'problem' more an educated choice. It's better than having a child and raising it poorly.