Am I behind?

Question

Lately, I have noticed a lot of changes at my school. I am in Grade 6, and to me, this year is about doing good in school and having fun with friends. But then I noticed a lot of change with peoples appearance. All my friends now wear gallons of makeup and mascara. The only talk lately is rumors and who's dating who and who is being a *****. Everyone buys expensive clothes and follow trends, like urban planet and lululemon. but for ME- i don't any makeup at all( i hardly use lip balm ), I always buy clothes that are sensible, cute, and cheap. I am fine with crushing on guys, but dating?! I always think that we are a little young to be taking dating seriously, but everyone is thinking about getting boyfriends, and making out with every single one of them. This really bugs me. It seems that everyone is only taking interest in things that are kind of age inappropriate (in my opinion). I get good grades, and I have lots of friends, but why do I get the feeling that I am falling behind?

Answer 1

trust me i can relate...it's sooooooo annoying like I'm only 12. I am going to date when I'm like 14...or 15......yeah its SOOOO annoying.

Answer 2

Hey i'm in 9TH grade and i feel the same thing! Don't worry about it. Very rarely in 6th grade or even highschool does anyone stay together until marriage, sure its okay to test the waters see what kind of guy your into but you shouldnt start that until highschool and you absolutely shouldnt feel pressured to make out with anyone. I[just like you] think that the things some people do are very inapropriate at such a young age many people in my school have already lost their virginity and i think that it should stop. First and maybe second base is enough for highschool, but for middle school [junior high] stick to having fun with your friends and getting good grades.

Answer 3

Well dont feel that way at your age you dont need to be thinking about having a boy friend or making out with guys focus on life and school for your future dont feel like your falling behind

Answer 4

You're not falling behind - you're way ahead!

Let yourself have some fun, but there's no need for all that silly c**p most of the kids are going too far with.  You're doing great.

Answer 5

You sound actually ahead of them and mature. Those other people are just trying to rush into dating and makeup when they aren't at all ready.

Answer 6

Your normal.  Your friends arent.

Answer 7

im in grade 6 too and i found out most boys dont even really like girls who where make up. any wawys i finally found some like me it seems lik i only have a few friends lik this. im mean i dont want to start dating till im in at least 8th grade. girls are tying to grow up way to fast

Answer 8

Don't worry at all. You were just like me when I was in the 6th grade. Honestly, 10, 11, 12 is waaaay to young for mascara and eyeliner and dating. You're barely turning into a pre-teen. You're not behind at all, in fact, you might be better off the way you are now, because middle school is the time to be focusing more on grades and which high school you're going to and stuff. Highschool is when you can begin dating because you're mentally mature enough to do so. You don't need to worry at all, just stay the way you are and leave the makeup and boyfriends for highschool/8th grade, lol.

Answer 9

truthfully you sound like you are probably more mature then the others.  you understand that you are not ready for all of that and that you are fine being the way you are.  I applaud you because I was that way and when I look at the others who started out young they are not as young and energetic as I am now and they are having a harder time making it in life because they weren't serious then about school and working hard they were too worried about who was sleeping with who.  

So don't worry you are amazing and you will have a better life by concentrating on what is important at the time and makeup and boys is not important in 6th grade and it is actually never that important.

Answer 10

Ignore the makeup im in the 7th grade and its gross how they pour that on, dont join the cliques focus on school and next year you will seem to be the normal one - the one acting her age. (like me) its better and you dont make yourself look wierd in public.

Answer 11

No, you are ahead. Good for you for being mature. Just make sure that you don't look down on others and keep working on improving yourself in areas where it counts, schoolwork especially. You aren't old enough yet to be able to have a serious relationship (as in marriage). When you're finished with school and starting your career, you will be able to look back and see how far ahead you were. Just make sure not to get too serious!

Answer 12

ur not behind

Answer 13

If you have friends and get good grades, you are doing fine.

I think a lot of kids your age are trying to get into dating because maybe they don't get enough attention at home.  I know one 10 year old girl whose mom moved in with a guy, and sends her to stay with friends several days a week so she can be alone with him, and the girl really misses her mom.  What else is she supposed to think, but that a boyfriend is more important than anything or anybody else in the world?  It's more important to her mom than her children are!   This girl also wants a PADDED bra.  The stores actually sell very small padded bras!  Her mom is okay with this!  But she's too stingy to buy it for her.  

So, between careless parents and stores selling stuff that's really inappropriate to that age, a lot of kids get sucked in.  You just need to think for yourself, which it seems you are doing, so congratulations.

Answer 14

you seem so smart. dont worry about what other poeple are diong, try (and i know its hard) to be YOU adn if you truly think that makeup and boys is somethingf you want to persue then do that. however if you dont then dont feel pressured to do so

Answer 15

Wow, one of the few people who are still level headed. Well it gets even worse in junior high, (I'm in 8th grade) I don't wear any makeup and I'm not dating anyone, and people seem to think I'm weird. People try to grow up fast, enjoy being young while it lasts. Be who you are and don't give into the peer pressure around you, when you feel ready to start using makeup and dating then do so. You're not falling behind, they're just trying to go ahead.

Enjoy being single as long as you can, managing a dating life and school life is difficult. I've witnessed it first hand. (what's even more crazier is that some of my friends are not virgins.)

Answer 16

This is exactly how i was in middle school! You're friends will realize you were right eventually. Just stick with them, be supportive of them even if you don't throughly believe in what their doing but maybe also try some new things.  Go to a friends house a have her help you put on make up, or try it yourself at home. I mean i wouldnt start wearing it everyday but maybe just wear it for a special occasion like a dance. Also most people don't really want to make out/date they just do it because in middle school you get a lot more freedom so they are just trying things out, kind of letting themselves fall into peer pressure without putting up a fight.  Good luck, middle school stinks, i know but i promise you'll get through it!