Am I being 'punished' by my boyfriend?

Question

Been with my bloke 8months and i'm currently stressing as I have a big hand in date for uni work on Friday. I stayed up all night last night doing this work and didn't get to bed until 7am. I woke up at 2pm to text messages from my boy asking if i was meeting him for lunch with his mum, which we had discussed the previous day but I said I would come if I got my work done He'd sent that at 11am and then sent another one at 1pm saying that it was ok cos Annette (his housemate) was going with him. I text him as soon as I woke up at 2pm apologizing and have text him a few times after that and have now tried ringing him several times. I know he's ok as his facebook is active but he still isn't responding to me. I am aware that I should have woken up and he deserves an apology but I have apologized and tried to get in contact to explain but I also feel like I'm being punished.

What should I do/??

Answer 1

He sounds very immature!  He should try and be a little more understand.  If he doesn't get it together soon, I'd get rid of him.  Can you imagine what kind of husband he'd be with this attitude?

Answer 2

I think your boyfriend has a right to be upset - he was probably excited about lunch, and had to explain to his mum that you didn't even let him know whether you were coming or not. However, ignoring your calls does sound a bit childish - that doesn't mean that he is doing it to punish you. Maybe he is upset, but understands that you had a big assignment and doesn't want to make a big deal about it. He might just need to cool down. Maybe he is just really is busy. Send him a message telling him that you're sorry, but your big assignment is finished and now you are thinking about him and have your phone on hand for when he finds time to call. Maybe you could even offer to take him and his mum out to lunch next week to make up for it.

This isn't really a huge deal, and if your guy still makes a big deal about it and tries to make you feel guilty when you offer to make it up, then he really is being childish and his behaviour is not a personal reflection on you.

Answer 3

Try doing nothing. He'll come around way faster that way.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are. It is a subtle form of control. Ditch the toad girlfriend. It won't get better. Find someone who will support you in your endeavors, not work against you.

Answer 5

Yeah....you're being punished alright!

Nothing you can really do until he snaps out of it! If he cares about you and your relationship it wont take him long to get over it.

Persist in trying to get in contact with him. Go round to his house an leave an apology note. Cant do much but wait im afraid!

You could suggest making another time to have lunch with him and his mum - to make up for last time.

Keep in mind though - you need to make sure that he understands the pressure you're under with your uni assignments! All-nighters are gunna happen A LOT and you're going to be tired! He needs to be supportive of that!