Am I being a prude or are they being rude--read details?

Question

I recently started sharing a house with two girls that I used play hockey with until two years ago when I had to give up due to injury. We get on fine, except that I have trouble with the fact that they go for a run most mornings, then come into the kitchen, strip naked and throw their clothes in the washing machine, and then go upstairs and have a shower and get dressed. I must have given them a bit of an odd look as one of them said to me "we were often all naked in the showers after matches" which is true, but somehow that seemed different. Am I being a prude or are they being rude!

Answer 1

......................its just nudity..

Answer 2

You may just have different views of privacy and intimacy.

If it makes you uncomfortable, you can bring it up with them in a way that won't make them feel like you are criticizing them.

Alternatively, you could always find a way to be away from the kitchen during these moments.

Answer 3

I dont think you need to focus or if you are being prude or rude. You should focus on why in the heck you arent joining them??? Oh yeah, a group lather before work always puts me in a great mood.

Answer 4

I don't think they are doing it to be rude. They just don't see it how you see it.  I would see if all of you can come to an understanding of what to do about it. Maybe it is possible from them to give you a heads up when they are just about home and going to do this.  Or possible for them to this in a different part of the house or something. I think it is important that you guys come to a compromise instead of just having it your way or their way since you all live there.  

Answer 5

they are being rude. set some house rules

Answer 6

i don't think it should be a problem you are all the same

take it easy  

Answer 7

I cannot see anything rude about their behaviour. I'd be more upset if they trailed dirty sweaty clothes throughout the house. If it really bothers you, why not make sure their dressing gowns are in the kitchen for their return?

Answer 8

I would feel very uncomfortable with that. Tell them it makes you feel uncomfortable, they should understand.

Answer 9

It wouldn't bother me - at least they dont leave their dirty clothes on the bathroom floor!

Answer 10

I wouldn't let it bother you! It's there home too so i guess it's kinda of a 2 against 1 deal. I know it may make you feel uncomfortable, but if i was in the same situation I would just suck it up. But then again I would do the same thing when i get home! (alone) LOL  

Answer 11

I think they are being rude! If you don't feel comfortable around them like that then it's nothing to be ashamed of. I would feel the same way.

Answer 12

A little of both.  You are being a little uptight.  The human body is nothing to be ashamed of, and they clearly aren't.  But, they are also being presumptuous that you wouldn't have a problem with their nudity.  Communication is the key here, let them know that you're uncomfortable.  Or learn to deal with it.

Answer 13

maybe explain why you find it uncomfortable and work out a compromise?

i would just let them be, they're not hurting anyone, if you dont want to look at them, just try reading the newspaper or looking elsewhere.

Answer 14

I sooo wish I lived in your house.

Answer 15

Your a guy and don't like this? Do you not like the fact that they are sweaty or just naked? If you disagree with what they do then say something to them

Answer 16

Do you have any vacancies

Answer 17

There's no need for everyone to see each other naked, whether in the locker room or someone's house. Have they ever heard of privacy? If they're fine with their bodies, great, but they don't have to parade around naked. Anywhere.

Answer 18

why dont they get naked in their room so you dont have to see them. wtf?

Answer 19

I'm know how you feel.  The problem is did they live there before you moved in, if so they have probably been doing it a long time,.  I would make sure I am in my room when they get back.   I go with rude. Maybe you should sit down and talk it through with them.

Answer 20

it's different for you now, but not for them. think you might have to grin an 'bear' it.

Answer 21

I think they are being rude.  All taking a shower after a game is different, everyone is doing the same thing.  At home in the kitchen is a little inappropriate.  If you feel uncomfortable with their nudity, you should say something.  Otherwise it will just get worse until you say the wrong thing and damage your friendship.

Answer 22

I think you are over reacting a bit.

Answer 23

Both.  They do live there, but I can see how it would make you uncomfortable to have them running around nude.  Yes, you often saw them naked in the showers after matches, but that was a different setting, not in your living room/kitchen.  There is nothing wrong with a little modesty.  Just try to look the other way and don't let it bother you.

Answer 24

It may have something to do with the fact that you stopped a few years back and have got out of habit to casual nudity. They're neither being rude or you're being prude. A lot of women are comfortable in the nude around other women but that doesn't make you a prude. Perhaps calmly explain that you're not entirely comfortable with it but don't make a big deal out of it. If you don't want to bring it up, don't and just try to get used to it. I'm sure after time you'll be comfortable.

Answer 25

prude

Answer 26

Since it's all girls, I guess they're just being comfortable.

If you're not comfortable with that you should voice it out.

Answer 27

I have to go with prude on this one. You know what girls look like, you know what *these* girls look like, and as long as they don't do it when you have other people in the house I don't see why it should be a big deal.

Answer 28

a prude, its theire house to

Answer 29

Come the winter, I don't think that they will be running around naked! Temporary problem.

Answer 30

My old roommate was always running back and forth to the bathroom naked, it shocked me a little at first but I guess I just got used to it. I would have a problem however if she was stripping down in the kitchen.. some places in the house are NOT clothing optional!!!!

Answer 31

I do not know I can see both points of view. Can I come and live in your house please?