Am I being fair in this situation?

Question

I've been dating this guy for a year, and he has been invited to my best friend's wedding, we haven't RSVP'd yet (because she hasn't sent the invites yet!) but her wedding is about 6 months away. He said he would come with me. He's a DJ, and told me the other day his club has booked a gig for him on a night 6 months down the track. I wasn't exactly sure when the wedding was so I asked her, turns out it's the same night he has a gig booked in! I told him it was the same night and he said "That sucks" (I'm not sure if he intends to cancel the gig or if he meant it sucks he won't get to come to the wedding). I figured though - his sole income is from his DJing, so I'm not going to pressure him to cancel or anything. I'll still go to the wedding regardless, and I would love for him to come but I figure it's not up to me to tell him to lose income to come to it when he doesn't really know her that well. Am I being fair?

Answer 1

It don't sound as though it is a big deal to you, so i'd just let it go.

If he don't know your BFF all that well, then It prolly won't hurt any ones feelings at the wedding and you'd prolly be avoiding an argument(depending on how the two of you handle problems) by not forcing him to cancel a gig an go with you.

You'll still have fun at the wedding and he'll make some money

It sucks but basically comes down to communication failed somewhere.

Answer 2

I think that is the smartest thing I have seen on here yet. You understand that that is how he makes a living and he needs to work in order to have money. You would like him to come and he should know that but at the same time you should tell him you fully understand if he can not make it. If you like this guy you might say something like well since you can't go to the wedding with me I guess that means you'll have to take me out to dinner. =) That's an idea. Otherwise I would thank him for offering to go but that you understand. That is the right thing to do.

Answer 3

Wow what a coincidencet! Yeah it's fine...just go with other friends to the wedding !

Answer 4

Yes fair and reasonable.

Answer 5

I would talk to him about it and find out what he plans on doing. Let him know that since that is his sole income, that you won't be upset if he's not able to make it to the wedding.  

Answer 6

That Does Suck But Hey Its His Job Right?

You Wouldnt Want Him To Not Make Money That We All Need

I Hope U Have Fun In 6 Months =]

Answer 7

Completely fair, don't ask him to give up his job/income, if he offers, tell him you would love for him to go, but you understand if he has obligations.