Am I being oversensitive?

Question

I was driving with my family and three cars

ahead of us a minivan swerves and hits a tree, breaking off a wheel

and turning the car onto its side. I pull around the van about thirty

yards ahead. I go back to the van, one witness is having having

trouble with the doors that are now on top. I run around to the back

of the van and fling open the door. The van is full of electrical

smoke. Someones crying "I can't breath". I go into the van and start

helping them out and telling them to hurry up. I walk an injured

victim across the street to safety. The van is no longer smoking.

Someone calls 911, the police are on the way. I walk back to our

vehicle and, not craving attention, we get back into the car as there

are plenty of witnesses and help is on the way. My wife asks "was the

car on fire?" I tell her no but it was full of smoke. All she can

say is "well that was kind of stupid to be parked so close. If it

blew up we'd all be dead." This made me very angry and I accused her of trying to denigrate me and downplay what I did by throwing in a negative which, in my opinion and my analysis of the situation, was really reaching on her part. She says I am being oversensitive. I think I have a right to be upset because this is typical of her. She says she is trying to protect her family.

Answer 1

I think given the situation she was probably a little shaken up and worrying about her kids. A mother's instinct is very strong. However, if she does this degrading stuff often, I would be upset too and make it clear that if she doesn't stop degrading and trying to humiliate you, there would be consequences/

Answer 2

I think she should have been a little more concerned with the injured. If she would have been paying attention to what was going on around her, then she would have know about the smoke, and what would have been so wrong with her moving the car if she thought the car might explode!!  Not to be rude, because it is your wife,  but she sounds a little selfish and stuckup!

Answer 3

No you are not being over sensitive, you did a great thing and put OTHERS before yourself. Good for you!

Answer 4

wow!  I don't think it was called for, don't understand why she did that unless she was trying to down play the situation or she was worried that you might of been to close.  if she always does this it could just be her personality.  try counseling if its a huge problem.

Answer 5

if this behavior is a pattern, then i might worry.  however, she might have been very worried, slightly in shock, etc.  people say things that they don't mean at times like that.  

Answer 6

Don't take it too personally.  Most women will take any opportunity to criticize their man.  

She would much rather you drive her to her hair appointment (or something) than try to save someone's life.  

Her comfort is FAR more important than the lives of innocents.

Answer 7

It sounds like she is being a little selfish.. and it does sound like she was trying to downplay what you did, I agree.

Answer 8

That was brave of you and you..

Answer 9

NO not at all! Why didn't she get her *** in the drivers seat and move your car then?

Tell her to grow up and to stop acting like a selfish twit!

Thank you for being the compassionate man that you are....good job sweetie! We need more people like you in this world who would stop and help. :)