Am I being realistic or dreamer?

Question

I have been told that i can't do that or do this in my life. I have started taking offence in this and think they are so negative.

However when two other people tell you, i start wondering if its just me and not them.

I always say to myself that Hitler manage to get so many people to follow him to this day but it doesn't mean that he is right.

Answer 1

lol I'm the same way.

I love learning.  I'm learning Japanese, violin, piano, guitar, Latin, psychology, and sign language by myself.  Also I write my own novels and draw manga (Japanese comics) for fun.  I also plan to be a singer.  And in school, I'm learning Spanish and how to play the String Bass.  Also, in the future, I plan to go to Japan and England.  Plus, I'm only 13, going on to 8th grade.

My friend tells me that I'm an over-achiever and that I put too much stress on myself.  She gets so negative about it and I can't stand it.  That really gets me mad.  But my mom tells me that I can do anything I set my mind to and to not listen when people try to shoot your dreams and plans down.

I advise you to take the same advice.  Just don't listen to people when they do that.  But I understand how it feels, and it's annoying.

Just don't listen to them.  They're jealous. lol

Answer 2

Don't listen to them, believe in your skills and try not to being stopped by those who don't care about what is good for you. Dream is a part of life, if we don't dream we can't achieve our goals, because in this way we cannot have any desire of improve. Sometimes people like parents or friends and above all teachers say that we aren't able to do something, obviously they are wrong, anything is possible if we are determined and we want to reach our dream. We must be realistic, but dream sometimes is good, because in this way we can understand what is really important in our life.

Answer 3

Answer it for yourself...

Are you constantly thinking of big things, dreaming all the time, and procrastinating in the process or are you taking action to attain your goals.

Successfull people have always had more bad than good times to get to the top.

As long as you persue them and not using them as something to hide behind to avoid facing the reality that you will be going through some tough times you're not a dreamer.

Dreamers talk the talk

Realistic people walk the walk.

Answer 4

Just follow your heart Hun and don't listen to others....

Answer 5

It depends. No one can tell you that you cant do something or order you to do something. That has to be from you. There is however always a reason people follow other people or demean others. So there may be some truth to it. No one followed Hitler without a reason- and at that point in time in Germany there was for his followers a very good reason. Maybe you should think about why people are telling you this and in the end dont listen as your life is your life.  

Answer 6

depends on what you want to become and what you're doing to achieve it.  if you want to be rich and famous, there's a great deal of luck involved but mostly hard work, education and knowing which opportunities to take and which to pass on.

Answer 7

It's them, do whatever you like. They sound like sheep. Everyone's the same. Just ignore them.  

Answer 8

'Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're probably right.' - Quote from Henry Ford

Answer 9

I think if you want to do it you can. Like i have never been told that i will get a record deal. But until the day i die there will always be the possibility that i will get it. You never know, someone could just randomly ring my doorbell and say i've won a million dollars. I'm not exactly sure what your being told you can't do, but hey, if they can do it why can't you?

Answer 10

Depends on what the circumstances are?...What is it they say you cannot do? Sometimes people are honest and sometimes they are just pulling you down because they are unhappy...Lets see, I'm an old woman doubtful that I will ever become a supermodel thats reality however I am quite capable of attending college and becoming a doctor or such...Really depends on the circumstances....Nothing wrong with being both realistic and a dreamer! Life is full of surprises!  

Answer 11

out of what you are saying, you most likely should not ask other people about it. there may be dumb people on here that will tell you to do the wrong things all the time. console it with yourself. just think about it inside your own head. sort it out by means of your own ways, and eventually you will find an answer. it is very vague, but i find that this is the best way to do things. if you are still searching for an answer, ask those who are close to you. hitler got people to follow him the same way other people do. it was a tactic. just because he is smart does not mean he is good.

Answer 12

nope its not you because i think you are right :)

Answer 13

I love Hitler and WWII subjects. He was a smart, motivated, crazy, SOB who had a plan, stuck to his plan, and almost conquired the world. He made good use of propaganda and the hard times that fell on Germany and much of Europe after WWI. He gave people jobs and a purpose when they had neither. Yeah he killed a bunch of people, but only because they didn't see things his way ... he needed some fall guys to unite other people. Humans love to hate each other especially when it gives us a job, a purpose in life.

Jesus was much the same leader uniteing people under a different flag for a different cause that the masses liked more then what Hitler was attempting to do. Polar opposites but great leaders who wouldn't even talk with the people who weren't prepared to listen. They found the people who wanted what they wanted who needed something they were prepared to offer and each conqured the world in their own way ... immortalized as two sides of the same coin - Strong Leadership, Giving People Purpose and Opportunities where they had none before. People will follow if you will lead and stick to your word come h**l or high water. People follow action and good speaches, people who stick to their word. If you do like Jesus and Hitler and place blinders on to the world that says NO! You can't do it! Listen only to those who say YOU CAN DO IT ... ALL NIGHT LONG and DAY LONG if that's your thing. See the light at the end of the tunnel with tunnel vision ... you can occomplish anything your hearts desires. "THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS." Achievement of a goal comes from the absolute single minded pursit of that goal no matter what the cost. Anything is possible.. A N Y T H I N G!

Answer 14

Realistic.

Answer 15

WHO EVER IS TELLING YOU than you cannot achieve your goals are jerks.

Answer 16

There are two types of people in this world mate...those who talk and do nothing...and those who talk and do something.  Don't listen to all the negative pricks...they are losers mate.  They are jealous of you.

Answer 17

Read this carefully. Never. Ever. Ever listen to the nay sayers. You can achieve whatever you want. You just have to work hard at it, and I mean hard, through tough times, even when you want to give up, and it seems easier to give up. You have to focus on what you want and decide where you want to be in 5-10 years time. Good luck.

Answer 18

You are realistic. Do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise. My parents told me that and never supported me. But I am on my way to my dreams. Yes, things may be out there, but if other people can do it, why cant you? Dont surround yourself with these people, its not healthy. Surround yourself with people that are positive and will support you. IFyour around  negative people, their comments will be etched in your head and will become true. stay away from them and you will achieve anything you set your mind to.

good luck