Am I being selfish please I feel hurt??

Question

Me and my husband have been trying to conceive for 3 months now...so today I found out it was my ovulation day, so I didn't want to say hey lets do the deed I am ovulating so when he got home I had a surprise and what not he said he was tired which was fine and he said just give me a little while well I did and then we ended up doing it well I got a little distracted b/c I don't like when our door is open so I asked him kindly to shut it well he shut it and got mad b/c he lost his you know what (*****) anyways I was upset and went somewhere else and cried and he ended up falling asleep well later on I asked him if he wanted to try again and he said no I got my feelings hurt and just did my thing anyways we finally made up again and he asked me what was wrong I told Him i was ovulating and he said well isn't that Selfish of you....Am I being irrational and getting my feelings hurt by nothing and am I being selfish for wanting to have s*x with him and making it all s**y.. I basically just want some opinions if I was being selfish and thinking of my self??? And we agreed on TTC do you think it doesn't want to have a baby and just saying it for me??? Please no rude comments I am not in the mood I am very emotional thank you!

Answer 1

No i don't think you were being selfish at all!!! You made it s**y just like you said and i have to admit i am just like you, our door HAS to be closed, it just makes me feel more comfortable! I don't think he should have gotten so upset just because you asked him to close the door! but maybe he was ill or something, (you know how men are when they are ill) LOL and just because you didn't tell him you were ovulating today doesn't mean that you are selfish. Just talk to him and explain how important this is to you! Hope this helps! God Bless  

Answer 2

If he agreed on TTC then no I don't believe you were selfish.  There's only a short time each month that you can conceive.  If you were ovulating, you should have s*x.  If you're trying to get pregnant, sometimes you have to have s*x even if you don't really want to.  Otherwise you could miss your chance for the month.

Answer 3

I would explain to him that you weren't being selfish. You thought you were doing it for the both of you (since you have been trying to conceive for so long I think he should understand.) You also might need to talk to him and make sure he is ready for a baby or if he was just having a bad day. Keep your head up and good luck. Hope I helped.

Answer 4

No, you weren't being selfish at all!

TTC for a few months is hard for both sides. Its stressful, demanding, emotional. Sounds like you both are just feeling alittle down and alittle edgy at the moment. Small things will trigger people off if they are feeling like this.

Maybe talk to him, sounds like you have an open honest relationship. He'll probably tell you he's feeling under pressure as well.

See if you guys want to take a break from TTC for awhile- or better yet if the next cycle (if you didn't conceive this time) when you are ovulating, maybe plan to spend the night somewhere romantic? If money is an option, maybe dinner instead? Better yet, just grab a bottle of wine! It will take the focus away from the mechanical side of TTC and help you both to relax alittle and enjoy yourselves again.

Good luck  

Answer 5

No- u were not selfish.....If u both want a baby- that's the way it is. He needs to understand that  u ovulate only once a month... I'm sorry u feel sad! Hope U guys can still do this tomorrow- there is still chance!!! Good Luck!

Answer 6

i dont think men understand how much women want a kid...its like a phaze we go thru..like we would do anything to have one and when the only time during the month that it is more likely they act like that...i would have punched him out but thats just me lol!...u were doing all the right things...i hate lights on when we are ...but i make it very clear and he listens to me for some reason...its coz im a bigish girl that i dont want to put him off...is there any reason y u dont like the door open? fear of someone walkng in? im like that but yer u are not selfish u are doing all the right things hope this helps xoxox