Am I being too hard on my 5 year old son?

Question

We just recently bought my son a twin bed and hes been sleeping on it already, but every nigh-time he ask if we could move his bed close to ours so i can hug him. So i always tell him no that i will not move his bed that he needs to stay in his room and in his own bed and then he tells me that i am a mean mom and this and that. What should i do or tell him?? Believe me every minute of their lives i let them know how much i love them.

Answer 1

You are not a mean mom. If you give in to him he will never sleep on his own. Tell him he is a big boy and big boys sleep in big boy beds, in their own room. Do you have a bedtime ritual? I put my kids to bed, read a story, give them a hug and kiss, tell them good night, sweet dreams and then I tell them I love them and will see them in the morning.  

Answer 2

hug him before he goes to bed and tell him that he has to learn to sleep on his own so that when he gets bigger he can spend time with his friends and stuff and you wont have to be there with him.  explain the upsides of it to him.

and if he tells you that he hates you or something like that respond with "well i love you"  =)

Answer 3

So spend a couple more minutes at night time with him. Talk with him to find out why he thinks he now needs to sleep with you?

Answer 4

Stick to your guns. He needs to sleep in his own bed in his own room.

Answer 5

You should try starting a bed time routine.  My son sleeps with his favorite stuffed animals (plush action figures) and he has a night light.  Anyway, each night I tuck him in and sing, "You are my sunshine."  (Get it? "You are my son-shine, my only son-shine....) then I give him a hug and kiss and tell him to have sweet dreams and that I love him and  I'll see him in the morning.  Or you could try reading a book together before bed.  Just a thought.  I think a routine helps make them feel more secure.  It sounds  like this very new to him so his reaction seems very natural to me.  He just needs time to get used to it.  

Answer 6

Yeah, my son tried that a few times. I teased him b/c his younger brother wants nothing to do with me when he's ready for sleep! I would just make sure to give him a great big hug, tell him it's enough lovins to get him through the night, and off to bed with him!  Try and ignore the mean things he says, or respond like I do...

" Yeah, I'm mean. When you go to Moms R Us tomorrow, pick up a nicer model!"

Answer 7

stay in his room and wait till he falls asleep then u can go to your room .

Answer 8

Do not let him move his bed.  Instead give him his hugs and kisses in his room before you lay him down and let him know how proud of him you are that he can sleep in his own bed and room without you.