Am I being too harsh?

Question

My son broke a window, I am making him pay to replace it as well as grounding him.

Answer 1

how old is your son?????

i think that you should pay for it if he was just trying to knock down a bee hive i think as you being the parent you should have had a bee remover come and remove the hive from the tree it sounds like he was just trying to help

Answer 2

no you're not being harsh at all...

you're just showing him the consequences he has to  pay...

i bet he wont do it again

Answer 3

good mom

Answer 4

since he is 11 no ur not being to harsh now if he was only 6-7 then that would be a little harsh

Answer 5

Too harsh! Just tell him to be careful next time! Im' sure it wasn't on purpose and I'm sure he doesn't break windows all the time!

Answer 6

If it was an accident...there should not be punishment but he should help with stuff around the house to help pay for it.  Maybe he'll learn to be more careful.

Answer 7

no

Answer 8

I think making him pay to replace it would have been enough.  Since he probably doesn't have money to pay for it, you could make him do extra chores around the house to work for the money to pay for it.

Answer 9

Depends on the manner in which he broke it.  If it was an accident, just making him pay for it is probably enough.

It also depends on how he behaves otherwise.  If he's a habitual trouble-maker, it doesn't sound too harsh.  If he's a good kid, I think making him pay for it is sufficient.  He'll learn a little about the value of the dollar, and probably miss out on some fun he would have otherwise had with that money.

Answer 10

How old is he?

If he's younger then 8, I wouldn't have him pay to replace the window.

Answer 11

Yes,

if it was an accident.

Answer 12

Did he do it on purpose? Was he doing something he wasn't supposed to be doing when it happened? If not and it was just an accident then I would suggest making him pay for it but I wouldn't punish him if he wasn't doing anything wrong when it happened.

Answer 13

Grounding for the lying is a great thing. It's wonderful you are punishing him for both of his offenses. Making him pay for the window is a good punishment. Teaches him value of money, or at least that is the idea.

You are doing good. Just don't drone on about the punishment. Tell him what it is, tell him why, and then follow thru. Just don't harp on it. I've discovered that doesn't do any good at all.

Answer 14

it all depends on how things happened, and what age he is and be reasonable too, if it takes him like 5yrs to be able to pay for the freakin window then give him a break!

if he is like a teenager with a job and all, ofcourse he should pay for it. And grounding is normal.

Answer 15

No, that's not too harsh at all. Kids need to know there are consequences for their actions. Start now and when he's a teen it will be easier to discipline him.

Answer 16

nope.. gotta learn sometime, had i broken a window, i would have had to pay for it, and i am now a responsible person for it!

lack of discipline is why the world is the way it is!