Am I being too over-sensitive?

Question

Today I called my husband at work on his lunch-break. I made sure it was on his break so I wouldn't disturb him at work.

I wanted to ask him if he would bring me home a keyboard (he is a comp. tech.) as my keyboard has lost the function of 4 keys. All I managed to get out was "Hi" when he abruptly cut me off and said "I am in the canteen, I'll call you back in 15 minutes." And hung up.

We have two small children together so it makes me mad that he would hang up without making sure everything is fine at home.

I was so mad that I turned off my cell phone so he can't call me back. I really don't feel like talking to him right now. Am I being too over-sensitive? Thanks!

Answer 1

No you are not being over sentitive!  If my husband ever hung up on me, he would hate to come home after work.  You have to let him know exactly how you feel and how aggravated that got you.  You have to threaten that all he had to do is tell you he can't talk right now and if he ever does that again, he will have a major problem!

Do not let him get away with anything that upsets you.  It's called respect and communication when he disrespects you is so important.  He's your husband!  He has to know every thing about you, especially your feelings.

Good Luck

Answer 2

He sounds like a A$$hole his lunch is more important than his wife and kids, cutting you off after you said keyboard would be rude. Only one question did he cut you off that quick or did you draw out your Hi so he knew it was a B.S. call?

Answer 3

Perhaps a little oversensitve.  Nevertheless, do speak with him about it when he comes home - otherwise it will just gnaw away at you all day.

Answer 4

yes, you are being very childish...

surely, if there was a problem with the kids, you would have rung him on his work line so you were sure to contact him...

so, just out of spite, you turned off your phone, and didn't know if he rang you 15 mins later??? that is pathetic and spiteful...

maybe he didn't want to talk in front of work colleagues... i hate talking on my mobile with others listening...

Answer 5

You do not trust your husband at all, this is an issue with you and you have to get over it.

Without trust in a relationship, you have nothing.

Answer 6

you are waaayyy over sensitive! dang, thats rediculous. i bet if something were wrong, you could have said that to him. please tell me you arent mad at him over this...

Answer 7

i do the same thing... but then again im only 16

Answer 8

No you are not being too sensitive. He is rude and disrespectful. I would ream him a new one.  

Answer 9

to be honest i think you were however it would be insensitive if he didn't call you back after the 15 minuts when he got home i would just kindly remind him he didn't call

Answer 10

i guess i can see why you're feeling that way because you have two kids. he should have checked to make sure they weren't hurt.

but maybe he was having lunch with his boss or something and he wasn't allowed to answer his phone, but he didn't want reject your call.

i suggest letting him call you back and hearing the real story for yourself and then deciding whether to be mad or not :]

Answer 11

mmmmm...for this time give him the benefit of the doubt..and wait ..and see what his explanaition is for him hanging up on you so abruptly.....I think you over sensitive ..for now,.

Answer 12

He was very rude and its uneccessary for him to behave like that. Just cool off and when you see him tell him you didn't appreciate his very rude manner on the phone.

Answer 13

Yes, he was rude.

He needs to call you back and apologize.

I would be mad too.

I notice you used the word Canteen.  Does he work for the VA?

Answer 14

yes you are

Answer 15

You are being over-sensitive. Ok, so his behaviour was abrupt but at least he took the call. He said he would call you back but you are now cross and he can't.  Until you speak to him, you won't know why he was so abrupt. Give him the benefit of the doubt. If it was something with your children, you would have called him staight back. He may have been in a conversation with his boss?

Answer 16

Well, maybe he was going to the bathroom at that moment and wanted to call you back.. I would turn the phone back on and see what he has to say.. then when he gets home talk to him about your concerns if it had been an emergency with the kids and his feelings regarding you calling him at work..