Am I being too rough about all this?

Question

My mom is paying me $20 a week to keep the house clean and do all the chores. But sometimes I get so sick of it because she expects to much. Now i've started talking back to her and i've started making a big deal out of the small things she says to me or tells me to do. I have to clean the house RLY good on weekends and I have to do all the chores like folding clothes, emptying and loading dishwasher, cleaning the bathrooms, brooming, sometimes i clean out the fridge. I've started to rebel and tell her I am not the servant of the house and that I am only 13 years old. My mom works from 8 A.M to like 6 P.M. Monday-Saturday.

Answer 1

HEY YOU GOT ONE MOM N SHE IS TRYING TO DO HER PART BY WORKING,,AND THATS SOME LONG HOURS,,SOME KIDS HAVE TO DO ALLL U DO N GET NOTHING,,I THINK I WOULD TELL HER YOU LOVE HER N TRY HARDER,,$20 IS A HUNK OF MONEY WHEN YOU HAD NOTHING BFOR,,,PEACE

Answer 2

Sounds like to me that your turning into a brat

Answer 3

Yeah you are, your mom works all day you need to help her around the house.  You are lucky she is paying you also

Answer 4

So you mother is busting her butt on 60 hour works weeks to pay for clothes she lets you wear and food she lets your eat and, oh yeah, a house she lets you live in and you don't think you should have to help out? Shame on you. She shouldn't even have to pay you, but she's giving you the outrageous sum of $20 to bribe you to pull your own weight. You better suck it up.

Answer 5

You're being unappreciative for what your mom is doing, she works long hours all day and only gets one day off. You are lucky she is paying you 20 dollars! most people I know would do that same amount for 5 bucks! You are 13 years old so you are at that immature stage but please see that your mom works hard and it is  nice of her to pay you, you should help out without the money.

Answer 6

You do have a point, If I where you I would ask for more money, or to have more time to do the chores. I have to say you are a little too rough to your mom she is trying to do the best for your family give her a break.

Answer 7

I'm wondering- How many weeks did it take for you to start talking back (etc.)?

I understand that you are only thirteen and she probably expects too much. But your mom is a hard working women and cleaning the house might be a small price to pay in order to get her happiness. =)

But maybe you can talk it out and tell her you are still young and want to hang out with her friends sometimes and maybe work out a deal with her  that you can get weekends off or something. Good luck and please answer my question ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Answer 8

yea she might be expecting too much for 20 bucks...... but if thats how u feel, sit her down and talk to her about it calmly so she can take u seriously, dont be an *** about it.

lol i had to start paying my mom to do my chores cuz im never home

Answer 9

Is your mom single?

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

If single, she needs the help, so, she is trying to teach to responsibilities and rewards you with the money.

If married - same thing

If you have brothers and sisters ask your mom, if you can hire them to help you.

If your mom is single, and you two are alone.... Tell your mom, you don't want the money, but you will help out the best you can.

Make a list of the chores that are your responsibility

(Your room, )

And help out with washing on alternate weeks and folding

(If you do this every 2  days, it is less work)

and help out washing the dishes....

Then remind her, since you are helping out... it is not work, and if you want something extra (don't need for school) but want movie tickets, a new pair of Swiss Tennis shoes, maybe she can help you out too...

8A.M- 6P.M are long work days, emotional and stressfull  

Monday -Saturday  ....she is not happy,

try to give her a little understanding

Answer 10

Frankly, yes, you're being immature and passive-aggressive about it.

If you don't like the situation and think the deal is unfair, then calmly and politely tell your mom you would like to renegotiate the deal.  

Make a list of what you think are reasonable chores, and when you think it is reasonable for those tasks to be completed (that way, your mom can't nag you all week about taking out the trash if she knows you plan to take it out on Saturday).

Your mom works long hours, and you are no longer a child, so it's reasonable to expect that you help out around the house, and $20 a week is actually a fairly generous allowance.  You are not the "servant of the house", but neither is she.  These tasks have to be completed by someone, but by whom and how and when are all negotiable.  You are both contributing to the good of the household in different ways - she works to pay the bills of the household, and you works to keep the household clean and functioning.

Look at the big picture, not just your handiwork, and see how you can improve it to meet *everyone's* needs and wants, not just your own.

Answer 11

i can understand where ur coming from tht is a lot for a 13yr old 2 have 2 do but just tough it out and help  ur moms.. you will get ur blessings in the end.. and you've gotta stop talking back 2