Am I being too sensitive about this?

Question

This is really bothering me, so I thought I should ask. I applied to medical school this year but did not get in because I didn't do very well on the standardized test. All of my friends know me as the girl that studies alot and always does well, so this was a huge blow to my self-confidence. I am re-writing and will apply again in the future.

My bestfriend of 10 years will often drop comments into conversation about how fantastic her marks are, how I have been studying for this test "or a long time, etc. She always does this and makes me feel as though I have some sort of learning disability. I have always had to work much harder to get what I want, and not everything comes easy to me... she on the other hand can do things at the last minute and get the same marks or better.

This is a sensitive time in my life and I really hate hearing that I am "slow". She doesn't say this, but it comes across this way to me....Am I being too sensitive?

Answer 1

No u r not . What a friend should do is to support you and comfort you , not letting you down , this is what is known as energy vampires . These guys dispense negative comments to other people to make themselves feel better . Ask yourself , has your friend always been like this or has it been recent . I think u should talk to your friend about this habit of hers . If she doesn't really care about how you feel , i think your better off with the enemy

Answer 2

Don't put yourself down (easier said than done) because your friend has an apt to "learn" at the last minute. Does she also retain what she's learned or is it a short term memory?

Everyone learns at a different rate and in different ways: visual, audible, tactile, written.

Sometimes a low standardized test score can be caused by test phobia. Others do very well on tests but poorly in class.

For me, I did extremely well on tests, but not so well in class. I got nervous. Of course it may have helped had I read the text we were studying (lol).

I don't think your friend should be dropping comments to you,   If she doesn't how you feel, tell her. At the same time though, please don't take offense or think any less of yourself for not doing as "well" as she.

I have a high IQ; but I don't flaunt it. To me, it  means that I have the ability to learn new things, quickly. It does not mean that I'm better than anyone else. --we are all human beings.

Steady and slow is just as good as quick and easy. However, there are advantages to the latter, especially where demands are put upon you to get through material, quickly. That becomes a reading skill.  How is your reading? Can it be improved? Learn to read quickly, from the best and most well-written books, and with more than 90% comprehension.

Although you are a bit old for this, good music, especially from the Baroque/Classical eras (Bach, Mozart), has been shown to increase comprehension. Played in the background, while you study, can help your brain to think logically as well as creatively. Conversely, listening to the wrong kind of music, may decrease your ability to learn. Has you friend a music background?

Do you get enough sleep, especially before taking tests?  That is extremely important.

You are more apt to learn something by studying it, then put it away and go to sleep. Cramming all night can only cause you to be very tired and probably let many of the things you put in your brain, fall out, just when you need it.  

As far as being rejected by med schools or any school for that matter, when you've not been accepted, inform them how much you want to  attend their school. Tell them you do not do well on the standardized tests but do have what it takes to succeed. Ask them for a chance to prove it. Perhaps you can write essays?

If you can get someone at the school, by your personal contact to be on your side, there may be a way to set aside the "policy," and discover how well you can do and how much you really want to be there.

Keep trying. Don't give up.

Believe in yourself and if it takes you more effort to learn somethings than someone else, then do it.

Read, read, read. Learn to relax for testing. Perhaps tell your friend, you are happy for her, you take a little longer to learn and ask how she does it and would she be willing to help you learn how to learn.

Best of luck to you. Keep up your spirits. Abraham Lincoln did not go to college, nor did he go to law school, yet look at what he was able to accomplish, all while suffering from depression.

Answer 3

i think its a little rude on her part. it sounds like she, on the other hand, feels way behind you so she tries to intimidate you with stuff like that. i don't think you are in the wrong though, and good luck getting in

Answer 4

No it not too sensitive if I was you I would have told her how you feel . And explain why you feel that way and she'll stop if shes your real friend and apologize even you were kind of slow not saying you are it doesn't matter everyone would want someone to respect their feeling so she should do the same and she needs to stop bragging cause that sound like bragging to me so that my advice I  hope I help with your problem and I'm 12 bout to be 13 well bye  

Answer 5

No, you are absolutely NOT being too sensitive!



If that is how you honestly feel then it's nothing to be ashamed about!

It sounds like this friend either likes to feel better about herself by being passive aggressive and putting you down or she has absolutely no idea how what she says effects you.  

You should talk to her about this and get it resolved. If she's a true friend she'll understand what you're going through and be supportive and listen. However, if that doesn't work and she doesn't bother to take in your feelings, you may have to go your own way and find a new friend. You are going through a rough time and working hard through it..the last thing you need is that kind of poisonous negativity.

Hopefully, she just doesn't know that she is being insensitive and you will continue to be best friends. Good luck!

Answer 6

I don't think so

Answer 7

no, you're not being too sensitive, you're human, and it sounds like your friend is taking advantage of your predicament and is trying to make herself feel better by putting you down.  Confront her if you want this sort of foolishness to stop because a friend should make you feel good, no matter what type of situation you're in.

Answer 8

Don't worry. Your time will come. Hard work will always be rewarded.

Your friend actually has a bad habit.

You should never do things at the last minute even if you think you're smart enough.

I admire your endurance.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

im younger than you, but i have a friend exactly like that. two days ago she called me immature! But it sounds like your situation is jealousy. she is madly jealous of you because you are a very smart girl! talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.

Good Luck

Answer 10

Well maybe you should talk to her about it. Tell her that you feel you might being too sensitive about this situation but this is how you feel and let her know. If she's a good friend then she will understand and will stop for you.

Answer 11

Ah, yeah. I can see how you feel. I sometimes feel the same way with my musical abilities. All of my friends seem to be virtuosos in comparison, they can easily do things that I can't. Sometimes I get frustrated when trying to learn a passage to a song because my friends can get it in 2 minutes while I take about 7 minutes or so; you see, the outcome is the same, but it just takes longer for some people than others.

I've been told I'm pretty much at the same musical level as my band mates, but it's hard to think yourself as an amazing instrumentalist when you know you can do so much better. I think all great musicians think this way, along with great writers, photographers, artists, scientists, and doctors; they're always striving to become better, and will never be satisfied. If they are satisfied, they no longer progress.

My advice is to keep at it, do your thang, and don't worry about your friend who's way too gifted for her own good.

Good Luck.

Answer 12

Yes you are being too sensitive. People will be dropping comments all the time. You need to thicken you're skin. 22? You're young. Med schools like older students because they're more mature so keep trying.

Tho, your friend may not be a positive influence. Get over her, but don't dump her. Just distance yourself. Some people like that are toxic, but why dump them when you can use them in return.

Answer 13

I don't think that she should be doing this.  You shouldn't let her effect what you think about yourself.  You should always go for your dreams, and even if it takes you longer it shouldn't matter.  This isn't something that you need to take lightly, i would mention it to her and she what she says, because that is the only way that it will stop.