My cousin, who I already dislike, was in prison for 3 years (sentenced for 6, but let out due to over crowding/ good behavior). My mom and his mom (my aunt) literally treated the whole thing like he was away at summer camp. They wrote him all the time (just stupid stuff like this is what's going on at home..etc. they never wrote anything like.. what are you going to do to turn your life around? etc.) and sent him money for all kinds of stuff. a tv, extra food, extra shampoo...whatever else he wanted to buy in prison. i dunno.
Here's the thing that really drives me nuts....no one knows what the heck he did!!
Now, i guess he didn't kill anyone because he wasn't in prison for very long, but i dunno. Now he is out and my family is talking about thanksgiving and christmas plans. (we all live all over the country, so we have to start planning early) they are all planning on going to california (where some of my family is, including my criminal cousin) because he is on probation and cannot leave the state.
Here are my problems/ questions.
Is there a way that I can find out his crime? He was in Centinela prison in California ( I think!)
Should I just demand to know what he did before I fly across the country to break bread with him?
If it ends up being something that I find especially terrible, would it be horrible for me to just not go?
It is important for you to know that I am a criminal justice major going into my third year of college. My dad is a retired homicide detective. (the cousin is NOT on my dad's side of the family) I have known that i wanted to be in law enforcement since I was very very young. I have a very strict idea of right and wrong and I have great morals. Also, I have disliked this cousin since we were kids. (he is two years older than me, TO THE DAY!, so we were forced to play together when we were little, because my mom and his mom are sisters who are very close and we used to live near eachother.)
Am i being unreasonable? I feel like i am not (and my dad is on my side) but my mom is flipping out saying that i just need to suck it up and go for the rest of my family.
Any advise. similar situations. anything would be helpful
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