Am I being verbally abused? And if so, what should I do before something really bad happens?

Question

All my life my dad has been an angry person, but it wasn't too terribly bad until we moved 6 years ago. Once we moved his temper got worse and worse as he got more stressed.

One year ago my parents bought a restaurant, but it wasn't what they thought it would be. People started rumors about us and a whole bunch of other drama.

This summer my boyfriend (who is 3 years older than me) worked for my parents. Things were going great until last Sunday when he thought he had the day off and didn't show up to work. He got fired and now my parents are forbidding me to see him or even talk to him! He is the only person who ever makes me happy and if I stay here I will do something I don't want to do. When I told them what his temper is doing to me they just said I was being selfish.

Some of the things he says is I'm selfish, I never listen, and just goes off screaming. Sometimes he doesn't even make sense.

Once I forgot to fold my socks and he started yelling at me horribly! He said that if I told my mom that he was yelling he was going to squish my head. He throws things too. A few months ago he threw a smoke alarm down the stairs when I was at the bottom. The same things happen at LEAST two to three times a week.

If I stay here any longer I will need to go to a psych ward. What should I do??

Answer 1

wow, uhhh, your dad sounds psychotic.

how old are you? Are you old enough to be on your own? Do you have a friend of relative that is close enough to you where you could stay there awhile?

Thats my suggestions. That is a volatile environment and its only so long before something really bad happens.  

Answer 2

when u and ur mom r alone tell her everything he sez to u wen shes not around. maybe try and talk to  both parents @ the same time, and say hw u feel. if ur old enuf, and have the money, u cud just move out.  

Answer 3

It's not easy owning a business and keeping out of the red.  There is a lot of stress involved and it is brought home.  Your boyfriend should have checked his schedule to make sure he was off.  Sometimes schedules change and it was up to him to check or call in.  It sounds like your family needs some family counseling.  Maybe you can talk to your mom about having a family session once a week so that grievances can be brought up in a roundtable discussion.  Holding in your feelings is  harmful for all of you.  Make a move to see what you can do about your situation.