Am I bisexual, bi-curious, straight? Not sure!

Question

I have like women my whole life and now I have come to be 14 im not really sure what it is but sometimes I think a guys might look good or his hair might be cool. Is this a part of growing up? I have also had dreams like this? Will I be g*y older?

Answer 1

well u probably havent liked women all your life, unless you were born with massive amount of testosterone or watever,

plus its probably just you thinking about it, so what if you think someone looks gd, probably means you wanna look something like that

Answer 2

You're most likely straight. When you're 14 you're just curious on how other guys look compared, which to you seems like you're checking them out.  Most guys go through that phase(even me) where they look at guys a little. It will pass.  

Answer 3

do you:

like girls=straight

like boys = homosexual

like boys and girls = bisexual

might like boys and girls = bi-curious

teen years are very confusing all of these hormones running about but only u can answer your question u cant ask someone else..

Answer 4

Hey guy, don't worry about it.  You're "only" 14 and at 14, a lot of things are going on.  There's nothing wrong with thinking that another guy looks good (many do!!!) or that some guy has nice hair (many do!!!) and to notice it doesn't mean anything other than you're noticing it.  Too many guys get hung up on the fact that someone, somewhere told them they shouldn't look at other guys because it might be they're g*y or bi or whatever.  Don't sweat it.  Like you said, it's all part of growing up.

Answer 5

ur g*y

Answer 6

There is nothing g*y about admiring another guy's hair, looks or physique.    This doesn't mean that you sexually desire them.

You're only 14, and it's common to feel admiration for other males, but is not indicative in and of itself about how your sexual orientation is or will be.

g*y is when you desire s*x with another male, not simply admiring another's appearance.      Don't worry excessively about your orientation.      At 14, your hormones are raging, and whatever you will become is not clearly apparent to you yet.

Just relax, enjoy life, and be a good person and the rest will come into perspective.

Answer 7

It's normal to compare yourself to others.

Even experimenting is normal, most straight guys have had at least one homosexual experience.

Your orientation is what you prefer, that is all.If you start thinking you might want to try s*x with another guy, you would be bi-curious.

Answer 8

I think its normal to realise that someone has nice hair or is mascular or even handsome. Personally I do and I am so straight so relax this are just your imaginations.

Answer 9

If you feel attracted to women yoy're not g*y. It's kinda normal ask yourself about attractions and stuff but it's completely normal regard some guy's hair or body as cool cause you would like to have it.

When i see a muscular guy on the street i would like to be like him. That is normal, don't be worry about that.

Answer 10

your retarded.

people choose. to be g*y.

just pick one dude.

u want to get boned up the ***.

or do you like chicks.

Answer 11

You might be.

It's nothing to be ashamed of, it's just a part of life. It not really a problem if you have fantasies like that. If you decide to act on those fantasies that is your choice, but it doesn't define who you are as a person.

Answer 12

your not g*y, your 14, your just wondering..you probably have these dreams because you are worrying about it.

Girls are the same, we always think god shes pretty or wow look at her hair! it dosnt make us lesbians.

i think all boys think this but not all guys say it out loud if they saw a really good looking lad because they wouldnt want to seem g*y. its just abit of envy.

you may be g*y when your older but you have liked girls..

i wouldnt worry

..x..

Answer 13

14 is the time of life were young men and woman may discover they are g*y, bi etc. some people say this is a phase, but i don't think it is. if you're having sexual dreams about men and m********e to thoughts of men, then you'd definitely not just be straight. this part of life can be hard coming to terms with your sexuality but at the end of the day, you're not doing anything wrong and if you do end up being g*y/bi etc then you'll have to come to terms with it.

Answer 14

thats for u  to decide wether ure   gonna be later on but right now this is just part of growing up  

Answer 15

You could just be growing up. Personally I think deciding sexual orientation is something that happens later in life. However you might go back and forth and be unsure for a while. Its just all part of growing up. Maybe you do have a thing for both sides. And thats perfectly okay.

Answer 16

you are at an age when emotions are flying in all directions. it's perfectly normal for you to look at other guys and even to m********e to g*y p**n. that does not make you g*y.

your true sexual orientation will emerge in a couple of years. whether you are g*y or straight, be proud of who and what you are.

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edit: take no notice of the answerers on here who said you can chose your sexuality. you can't. your sexual orientation was developed while you were in the womb. it's not a choice.

these remarks are made by ignorant people.

Answer 17

It sounds to me like you are straight. You are just experiencing what most guys experience at your age, but are afraid to admit.

Don't take it too seriously.  

Answer 18

lmfao. i have like women my whole life. YOUR 14! you've not had 1 girlfriend. your g*y if you think so.

Answer 19

There is nothing that you should be concerned about.

While you are growing up and changing you are going through a lot of stages that will be the cause of many emotional thoughts and feelings.

for one, you are going to be looking at both sexes in ways that you haven't felt before. This is due to your hormones changing and is not really any different to the way you would of beforehand.

Basically, you still look at guys the same way prior to these changes, however because you have become highly sensitive now you are emotionally aware and have begun to question yourself.

It is perfectly normal to look at other guys and their features because you can see changes in yourself that are foreign and you are scrutinizing the way you look against them.

Once puberty ceases and your hormone levels return to normal, you will find that you will become more secure and stable and you will find who you are, be it straight, g*y, or bi-sexual.

So rest assured, whatever you turn out to be you will still be loved by those who matter the most.

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And just a little note to those ill-informed immature g*y bashing posters:

who cares what sexuality you are. You either like Girls, or Guys or both. There is nothing wrong with this. It is strongly based on genetics that occurs in the mothers womb when you are conceived.

You do not simply wake up one day and 'choose' your sexuality.

In short, go back to school and do some research before trying to earn points that inevitably earn you a strike. Your posts are here to be helpful not to be damaging to someone so impressionable. Grow Up.

Answer 20

There is no way that anyone on here can tell you what your sexual orientation is. But, at 14, I wouldn't worry about it. You're still very young and going through puberty. Your hormones are raging and you'll probably find all sorts of people attractive - it doesn't necessarily mean anything. Certainly, thinking a guy's hair looks cool does not mean  you are g*y.  Just relax and give yourself a break. There's no hurry to find out these things. If you find you are attracted to a particular person (male or female) and they are attracted to you, then go for it. Act on it, experiment, just be careful, always use a condom (with girls and guys) and try not to hurt anyone in the process.

Answer 21

Zach... thinking that a guy is good looking or has cool hair does NOT make you g*y or bi. Good looking people are good looking no matter what your sexual orientation is.

Being straight DOES NOT mean that you cannot acknowledge that a guy is handsome.

For example... I'm not g*y but I think George Clooney is a handsome man.  I don't want to have s*x with him... but it's obvious to me that he is a good looking guy.

If you find that you are sexually or emotionally attracted to a male you MIGHT be bi or g*y... but merely thinking that someone is good looking is NOT the same thing.

Answer 22

i am bisexual and things kinda started the same for me. started to think of a man and woman having s*x and i would think of the man a little more each time. no one is completely straight! everyone either experiments or thinks of the same s*x at one part of their lives, its just curiosity. but if you feel that u are attracted to both sexes (and i don't mean right now) maybe in a couple of months or a year then there might be a good chance that you are bisexual. but don't worry theres nothing wrong with that!

Answer 23

That's the beauty of choice!!! :)

When we're going through puberty we experience a lot of things...just be sure to experience them during your teenage or young adult years....it'd be pretty sad if you were living a lie your whole life and then realised at 30 that your g*y....so go with your instincts and listen to what your heart and mind tell you....the problem with that sometimes is that they might be conflicting....but like i said....better to experience it all when your young :)

Hope this helps

Claudine

Answer 24

Almost all guys go through what you're experiencing at your age, though not all are willing to admit it.  Don't put any emphasis on these feelings as our emotions become exaggerated during puberty.  If you decide when you're older that you're bi- or g*y, it won't be because of what you're feeling now.  You're completely normal - no worries here.