Am I childish and/or jealous for still being upset over my mother-in-law taking my children away from me?

Question

It has been 12 yrs. now and my oldest has lived with me for only one year. She is 17 yrs. old. my youngest is still living with her grandmother. My husband and daughter both say I am childish/jealous of my mother-in-law taking my children away. Although it has been 12 yrs. and one lives with me now (her own choice) I still get very upset and small things still trigger the anger. What do you think?

Answer 1

I also would be angry until the day I died. I don't think it's childish or jealous at all, I would think it was strange if you felt OK with this.  

Answer 2

People cannot just "take" children. If your mother-in-law has your kids, either you chose to give them to her, or there's a reason, like substance abuse. So, I'm not going to blast your mother-in-law without the facts.  

Answer 3

Why did she take your children away from you? Was this a mutual decision 12 years ago?  If your children were in a bad situation 12 years ago and your MIL stepped in to help and prevented a heartbreaking situation, then you should be grateful for her assistance.  

She couldn't have come in and taken your children away for no reason at all.  You are the mother and unless the courts see that there is great neglect or harm going on, they generally side with the mother/father in custody situations.  

I feel that anyone who gets help from family, needs to be grateful.  If your MIL has your children, there is a reason.  If your oldest is 17 now, and the one with the MIL is younger, she was younger than 5 when she went there.  That is too young to just say, "I want to live with Grandma".  

Be thankful your MIL was able to help you for whatever the situation was and that you still have a relationship with her and your children.   Let the anger go.  

Answer 4

Absolutely not!!  I'd be mad as h**l till the day I die.

Answer 5

why are your children living with your inlaws and grandmother..???

what caused this to happen???

if you have an anger problem seek some professional help.. and seek some legal aid to have your family back as one not spread out all over the place.