Am I completely dead inside or what?

Question

I'm in my 20s and I just don't know what's wrong with me. For awhile it's like I can't connect with people. Every time I go on a date or try to get intimate with someone, it's like the whole thing isn't even real.

I could be sitting, chatting with a beautiful girl and on the outside I'm laughing, smiling and having a good time. But inside my mind could be a hundred miles away thinking about something that isn't even important.

It's even causing problems with my s*x life. I still have a libido, I can close my eyes and fantasize and well you know where that ends up going. No problems there. But I when it comes to the real thing; it's like my body doesn't care and my mind wanders off like I've just asked it to do work.

While I was in Thailand on vacation I decided to get an erotic body massage just to see how it would affect me. I enjoyed the skin on skin contact but not much beyond that. All the while I was thinking about plans for dinner or actually what I would write if I decided to Ask this question on Yahoo answers.

I can be kind of a loner but this can't be normal. What's wrong with me?

Am I thinking too much and lost all focus on what's in front of me?

Am I depressed or something? I keep finding it harder to care about life in general; I just go through the motions.

Any ideas?

Answer 1

You sound depressed.

Now that answer sounds simplistic. But I don't know you and no one on yahoo can fix you. But if you approach this problem you describe objectively you will find you answer.

You analyze yourself. You analyze everything..but still you haven't figured out why you don't care about women and romance?

Is it possible that you were hurt badly once? If so, work to heal yourself.

If it is not the case, consider that some depression/anxiety is taking all of your energies away that normally would make you interested in physical touch and love.

Going through the motions without joy is a sign of depression. While I don't want to diagnose you...consider checking it out yourself.

http://www.lexapro.com/check_symptoms/de...

Answer 2

You definitely have some kind of emotional blockage going on. When I feel similar-wise, I am usually putting myself in the center of the universe. I make a small package when I fold in on myself. When I take myself out of the center of the universe and let life be about the world around me, my emotions flow much more freely. I think it lessens the pressure on me to make the world an interesting place.

Answer 3

your bored and lonely

Answer 4

Been through exactly same thing. i'm a foreign exchange and whenever I'm staying in America just feel nothing and think about something so deep. and after 2 years being through this i realized it's because of loneliness and not having regular life.

i can't tell you exactly how it works with yourlife and what it matters, but what i'm trying to tell you is that human body can't afford too much of thinking that has no focus, too complicate. you need a big change of your life that some thing can make you a lot happy or different. try something new that you didn't have but you wanted to have. challenge for what you're after. you'll get better when you get reach what your mind truely want you to have.

Answer 5

U seem like depressed , was there any episode in Ur life that made U comoletely void of confidence , U will have to find it out Urself

hope I helped somewhat ;

plz help me ,its urgent

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