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Am I crazy for loving her? Please help me out for 10 pts.?

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Please read all of this first. I know it's long.

I'm sure you can imagine this scenario.

There's a girl I've known for a year. Now, here's the thing. I'm always at the top of my classes, and though not cool I'd say I was mildly popular, with I guess a dozen people I'd call friends. She, while not "uncool", is in the class of people who are unpopular. She's actually smart, but beauty isn't her strong point. She knows that, I know that, everyone knows it. But I love her for who she is. She is sweet, kind, and caring. She's never flirty, and isn't running after guys. She's moderately shy. She is always honest with me about everything. She's very modest, and doesn't try to be stylish. This is one of the reasons she is unpopular. When we first began seeing each other, people thought I was crazy. "You and HER?" Some people actually avoid me now; I lost a lot of popularity over this. She knows this, and has actually apologized to me for it. But it doesn't bother me. Why? Because I love her from the bottom of my heart. And I know she feels the same way about me. I've told her how I feel before. I can't even write about her like this without my heart pounding and shaking a little. We spend so much time together. We truly love each other. However, she is totally committed to her abstinence before marriage. And I agree completely with and support her in this, as I am abstinent too. This is another unpopular thing, although not too many people know about it. All we do is hold hands, and we have hugged and kissed a few times alone. To tell the truth, I find her beautiful in her own way; not the way most people look at her. I don't know what she sees in me. I'm a slightly geeky, and have just a little acne, though not very noticeable. I'm definitely not a handsome guy.

OK, so the problem. As I said, people think I'm insane for having a girlfriend so "below my range." I personally think she is 10000000000000000000000000000000x above my range ( :( I'm not allowed to fill the page with those zeros.) , but that's me. What do the good folks at Yahoo Answers think? Am I crazy?

Let me be clear, I'm NOT considering dumping her. I love her no matter what anyone else thinks or says. Marriage is a definite consideration when we become adults very soon. I will always love her, no matter what. I trust her absolutely. I'd do anything for her. I'm just wondering whether you guys think I'm absolutely crazy. Girls especially (what does she see in me? Please answer that too.), but guys too. 10 pts to the person with the most sensible answer.

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  1. No I think it's very sweet of you and she's lucky because you love her for who she is. Who cares about what other people think it only matters what you think. Your real friends will stick by you two and support your decision. It sounds like you love her alot so don't listen to the negative things people say because they're either shallow (which is what I think) or they're jealous. if she makes you this happy then stick with her =]


  2. I don't think your crazy at all! Not everyone in this world can be both beautiful on the inside and outside. We were made to all be different. If you feel such strong feelings for her its because you truly love this girl. It shouldn't matter what your so called friends think about who you date. All they should care about is that their friend is happy. And as for s*x, thats no ones business but your own, and if anyone questions that, you simply say that its personal. And if you still have problems with any friends or losing them, then they really weren't your friends to begin with. Besides who are you going to be sleeping next to when your married, your (girlfriend--->wife) or your friends?  

  3. You want a reason why she's better than you or you're better than her?  Surely you can see the adsurdity in this...  

    You're each better for the others' presence.  There -- problem solved.

  4. um u sound like a really nice guy which is why she likes u, also u arent crazyyyy lol

  5. Good for you. You should date someone that you like and not let someone tell you what you should do.

    Help me if you can.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

  6. Definitely not. If you could be happy doing anything with her, like just sitting around with her, even if there nothing to say and it's quiet. If she is your friend above anything else then it doesn't matter if people stop hanging around you. If you lose friends because of someone you love, then those people are not your friends. Real friends would be happy for you =]

  7. That's sweet.

    If any girl heard about this, I'm sure they would do the same as me and go "awwwww(x300 more w's)"

    If you're in love, then go for it. Don't let others tell you what to do. If you two wanna be together, then be together. You two sound very much in love, and I don't think you should let anything get in the way of that.

    What does she see in you? Why are you asking us, why don't you ask the girl herself? After all, isn't her word the only one that matters in the end?

    Good luck.


  8. Hey, to tell u frankly I found that somewhere deep in your subconscious u urself feel that ur gf is beneath you and u r over her!! I know people think u n her dont belong to eah other like the beauty n the beast were so unlike each other but they are a couple riit?So if this though is ur belief then I feel ur relationship will not do good.When a partner thinks he/she is above the other it doesnt work out!

    It works out when the two r oblivious to wat people say/.think n think they r ideal match!!

    I have been in a reltionship with the imbalance like this.We were crazy for each other but it didnt work out!

  9. I really don't see a problem here: you'll stay with her because you love her and don't care what other people think. You solved your own "problem"! :-)

  10. I think your are very unlike alot of guys. You see girls for their personality and not their looks. Your not crazy.. all your so called friends will end up with good looking people (maybe) and live their lives in misery because they are a nightmare and they aren't really in love.

    good luck to you and your gf :)

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