Am I crazy for thinking he is cheating on me?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 9 months. We have had our ups and downs, but right now we are in a down period. Recently, I moved out of my parents house and got my own place. My boyfriend lost his place while I was in the process of getting my own place. We were living together for a couple of weeks, and i decided to get a car. I noticed that we started arguing because I feel as though he is jealous of me, because I accomplished so much in so little of time. The last couple of weeks he has been making up excuses of reasons he has been gone all day because he has been at his dads house. I even came through unannounced and he was there. Last night he told me he had to leave at three in the morning to run an errand for his dad. Upon leaving i received a call from a male friend of mine and he was upset. I did not understand why because my friend and I have not seen each other for 2 years and we barely talk on the phone and my boyfriend knows about this. Was this an excuse for him to leave? Should I break up with him? Help me handle this situation.

Answer 1

dont break up with him. just talk to him. ask him straight up wtf are u doing at night

Answer 2

honey...if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it probably is a duck....so...if ur gut tells u something is wrong most likely something is....dont be anybody's door mat and dont be anybodys fool

Answer 3

your living out a double standard its ok for you to get booty calls at 3 in the morning but your boyfriend cant help his dad out in an emergency

if you get called on by one of your parents at 3 am it must be an emergency



any phone call from the opposite s*x late at night is either disrespectful to your significant other or just a strait up booty call

Answer 4

If I were you, i'd just talk to him about it. However, I didn't quite understand what the phone call from your male friend had to do with anything.. was the phone call before your boyfriend walked out at 3am? Either way, that's not a good reason to walk out, unless its an ex boyfriend of yours and maybe your guy is just feeling inferior. He's probably really stressed out and you should just talk to him. Sounds like he isn't really worth keeping around if he's going to react in such an immature way towards small issues.

Liek you said, relationships are often like rollercoasters, and if you feel that this is just a rough patch, try sticking it out..

If he hasn't given you anymore reason to make you believe that he's cheating on you (other than walking out at 3am, which I would definetly confront him about!) then I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Talk to him, and if the talk goes well.. give it time. Stay skeptical tho!

Good luck, hope I helped.

Answer 5

Based on your description, I don't understand why you think he's cheating on you. Perhaps his Dad DOES need him.

Maybe you are giving yourself too much credit, thus putting him down, for accomplishing so much so quickly, and he's disgusted with your 'uppity' attitude.

How about supporting his goals and dreams instead of thinking only about yourself and applauding yourself for your quick strides in life.

I don't really blame him for being upset about a call from a male at 3 in the morning. Maybe he left to get his head together and think about breaking up with YOU.

Answer 6

Don't break up yet..

Ask him,

Tell him to be 100% honest with you.

And since lately, you've been more successful than him..

He probably feels less needed, or whatever.

You know how men are, they always wanna be the ones to put the bread on the table, if you know what I mean.

They're lame, I know lol.

But umm, Good-Luck, don't jump to any conclusions..

Just talk it through. Tell him how you feel..

:D

♥

Answer 7

no ur not crazy

i would think so to if he was my boy friend

give the guy lik a couple of weeks and see wat happens

if hes livin with u and u own the house then kick him out if he really did cheat

just break up with him if thi is too much for you

ok

Answer 8

A woman always has a "woman's gut feeling so if you think he is cheating sweetie he is and trust me there is a wonderful non-cheating man out there for you. I had 3 children with a man who cheated and have been married to a man whom i share no children with for 3 years. thats something to consider.

Answer 9

I don't blame you for thinking that.

Don't break up with him unless you know for sure. That would be silly to throw away 9 months on an assumption.

Maybe his dad is sick or something.

Ask him why he keeps going over there.

Then if you still don't believe him put him on the spot and ask if he is cheating.

Answer 10

When one lives together, one notices a lot of flaws with each other that you might not have thought about before. Does his dad has some problems that he would need help with. Maybe he's just tired and annoyed because he's so needed by his dad and can't get his own life fixed. Have a serious talk with him, or if it's difficult, write a letter where you explain your feelings. It's sometimes easier to do that as you don't have to think of someting at the spot.