Am I crazy for wanting another?

Question

Ok me and my husband had our first baby 9 months ago. She is growing up so fast, and I really miss it. I told my husband I wanted another baby and he told me not for 4 or 5 more years. I am not sure if I am just hormonal or what but I do not want to wait that long for another little one. what should i tell him and is he right???

Answer 1

because he is more practical, i guess. holding out for another 4 yrs. could mean that you could have your hands full with this lone one. and he will see if your ready for another. That's quite a  chore if you ask me. ok? tkecare

Answer 2

You should both compromise on how long, and I think its normal to want another baby so soon, however, I would spread them apart in age, the closer, the harder to handle. My sister is 6 yrs older than me, and she helped me learn a lot when I was growing up, she taught me to count and my abc's. So spreading it out can help you and help them have a closer relationship with their sibling.  

Answer 3

My son was only 5 months old when I got pregnant again.  It was pretty hectic until they started school but it's been wonderful having them so close together.  The hard part was going through empty nest syndrome when they both left for University so close together.  My son's children are 5 1/2 yrs apart and they have nothing in common and spend next to no time together.

If I had the chance to do it again, I wouldn't change a thing!

Answer 4

You two should be in agreement, but 2 or 3 years is a good age difference in kids.

Answer 5

Think about taking care of your child that you have now. You already know right now that it is not easy to take care of a baby and raise it. Also remember that babys are pretty expensive as they keep growing.

Your husband has a right to voice his opinions and concerns about when to have another child, because you may want another child now, nbut for men it is sometimes enough with just one child. Let him adjust to fatherhood and get better at it before putting another obstacle in his life. Respect his decision and take into consideration that 4 or 5 years lets you enjoy the time that you have with your first born without having to worry about a new born.

It could be hormones that are also driving your desire for more children, but I think it's because you get to see a baby and see how cute they can be right now.

Talk it over with your husband more and come up with a solution, but come up with a solution as a team. Because as you know, you do need his swimmers ;)

Good luck

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong if you want to have another kid.

But, (always buts), consider this:

I know a marriage couple; they'd been saying they love kids and they want to have kids.

Short after the first kid, they had another one in less than a year.  Suddenly, they all burnt out.  None of them want to have another kid.  They are all tired.  They take care the kids just as a routine (not with much passion).

After another year from the second child, they had the third one.  .... I stop and let it for you to think about that.  

I hope you make the right decision.  Remember, your husband still need you.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

I say wait until your baby is 1-2yrs old. Then get pregnant. You don't want them so far apart. If you are stuck home with one little one ,you might as well have 2. Get it over with. Then they will be closer. My sister is 5 yrs older than me and we had nothing in common until we were adults,got married and had kids. Then I have 2 brothers under me who are 2 and 3 years younger than me. We all hung out together  in school. when we were teenagers all the kids in our general age hung out together. I'm 47 now and still my brothers are closest to me cuz my sister is 5,7 and 8 years older than the three of us. I have 4 kids ages 20,18,16,and 14. The three oldest all hang together but my 14 yr old has to wait just a little longer to stay out as long as them.Although my oldest is the only girl so she babies the 14 yr old cuz she was 6 when he was born and she thought he was her baby doll. I'm with you on this one. Why pack everything away for such a long time? And go through it all over again,get it over with while you are young also. It's harder to chase around a terrible 2 yr old when you get older. Good luck