Am I depressed???????

Question

Ok, I think i might be going through depression, but i really don't know. I don't always feel upset, but so often i start to cry over every little thing in my life that goes wrong. I feel alone, and i don't ever talk to anyone about how i feel. I just don't feel close to anyone anymore. I have been really shy around school, never saying much around my friends. I have alot of friends, but idk if they are such great friends. They care for me, but i always hide how i feel. I have felt like this for about 5 months now. I still haven't really talked to anyone. but. last school year, i started to cry, for no good reason, in my living room in front of my parents. then then set up an apointment for me with my schools consuler. but i just couldn't acually tell her anything. talking to some stranger about how i feel just would not work for me.

Also, i will admit, i have cut myself a few times. i know its wrong, but i like the way the pain feels.

Btw, i am in 9th grade, i haven't started school yet, but what i was talking about was last year. ive feel worse this whole summer, and it keeps getting worser. I'm 14.

Answer 1

I don't think you are depressed.

Being 14 feels like a really crappy age to be. It seems like everyone is smarter than you, taller than you, better looking, you name it. Plus, all your friends are changing... They like different things, hang out with new people, don't talk as much to old friends.

I know it sounds stupid, but your body REALLY is changing a lot and it has a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE impact on your moods. Know how everyone makes jokes about "time of the month" and stuff like that? It's because of fluctuating hormones. Adults change once a month... You are changing CONSTANLY for a few years. It won't always be easy.

To me, it sounds like you're starting to mature mentally. As little as two or three years ago, you didn't care if they knew how you felt, they just wanted to play. Now you are becoming more in tune with your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions.

YES, it sucks, but I promise you'll feel better and feel more "normal" with time. If you ever have a day that feels REALY bad, always remember the next day will get better! Good luck!

Answer 2

seems like ur depressed , from wat u described , reminds me of how it is for me , that u feel alone and that u cant really talk to anyone about it because they wont understand or see u differently .. im my opinion it seems like u r depressed  , u should find someone to talk 2 about it , though i should warn u , be careful wat u say , because , from experience ive had people freak out abut wat i say , so just be careful about Who u talk to about it , make sure its someone ur comfortable with n that u trust

Answer 3

I really don't know, sorry...

But I'll pray for you! :D

And... if you pray, that might help you, too.

Answer 4

I think you are depressed. If you cut yourself you need to talk to someone, a family member or a professional. Even a teacher or counselor at your school. Listen there are alot of people that are depressed and have cut them selves so don't feel like no one will understand you. I am not a professional but you need to find the things that make you happy or enjoy. Eating healthy and exercise helps alot too. Remember there are things in this life that you cannot change and if you can cope with accepting yourself, LOVING yourself, and living life how you want to live it than you will be all right. If it gets to overwhelming TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. Try not to take there drugs because prescription drugs are very hard on your body.

Answer 5

Talk to the counsellor,  or get an appointment with a GP and get a referral to a psychologist.

I've been through it all. I'm still going through it all. You have to get help.

I think you have depression.

http://www.beyondblue.org.au/

A very helpful site.

Answer 6

Listen to me Girl, Lynne.. After reading your problems, this is a very common thing among many kids around your age.. what is making you depressed is that you overreact to the negative moments of your life, think about the positives, think about things you have done which had been good.. you seem very self conscious as well, and that is completely fine, I understand how people are, but you do not have to worry about hiding your feelings, you are a Girl and you should always let things flow out of you.. as you mature over time, you will learn to control your feelings and emotions, but as for now.. let them all out, and tell your friends how you feel, don't tell them how upset you feel but tell them how happy you are.. only keep your saddening emotions with your parents or friends you really trust and know they care for you.. As you say you FEEL Alone, you are Not.. There are many people that care for you, but you need to care for them as well.. things will get a lot better then.. an appointment with the school counselor is fine, but there are better options than that. Do a good deed for someone or something, try to have a good conscience, people will think of you as someone to look up to! As for the cutting.. hmm, don't ever cut yourself again okey girl?.. God is watching.. if going to the school counselor doesn't work, ask your parents to bring you to a Christian retreat, go for Adoration and Healing.. it will help a lot!.. Jesus will come to you with open arms and you can throw all your burdens away.. Many kids are shy.. I am extremely shy in the outside world, but I know why.. It tells you are matured maybe, or very self conscious.. I'm sorry i took a while to do this, I really like helping people out.. I've had the same experiences as you.. and I am also in 9th Grade!.. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 7

i think you just like the feeling of being in pain. that is not depression. i am no psychology major but i have friends who also has a lot of disappointments in life, who are voicing it out but are not doing anything about it. i also feel down at times but i find ways to channel that emotion. here are some suggestions:

1. what i do is i buy a book, go to starbucks and read. i don't read self help books (i think i know myself better than some quack telling me what to do) i read novels, feel good stories that could alleviate me away from my current state of mind. (that is if i don't want to talk to someone about it)

2. i go out with my best friend. like you, i also have a lot of friends and a boyfriend, but sometimes, one person would do. we go out and sing at karaoke bars.

3. splurge! if you feel shy around school, you can borrow money from your parents or if you've saved some, you can use that as well. cut your hair (not your wrist!) have 'em permed or streaked. buy shoes, clothes and accessories. buy make up. go to school looking different and feeling confident about yourself. this way, your classmates will see you glow and it will make you feel better. who knows, you might even find yourself a boyfriend!

i guess, you also have to ask yourself what the problem is, then check if you can resolve it by yourself. or you can try other sorts of stuff like what i do when i'm down. depression is just a state of mind. it is a matter of channeling your thoughts towards something better. life is beautiful. don't waste it.

Answer 8

Yes, that sounds like depression.  Different people experience different symptoms, but the major ones are a general lack of energy, lack of desire to do things that used to be fun, crying for little or no reason, feeling down, worrying, hopelessness, and despair like there is no way out of the hole.  Cutting is another symptom.  

I strongly encourage you to get some help.  Talking with people helps a lot and the right medication can make all the difference in the world until you can get your mind sorted out.