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Am I doing the right thing!?!?!?!?!?! Please answer. Thanks.?

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This is very long. But I would really appreciate it. Im in a very bad state at the moment. Your HELP is greatly needed. Thank you.

Five years ago...

I was in Grade 7 when he was in Grade 11. I knew him as he was the soon-to-be-graduate and 1 of the cool dude in our school. He was also in my brothers class. They were not really close but just classmates and would say Hi and...

Few months ago...

I finished my Grade 11 and am waiting 4 college. Im doing this part-time job as an interviewer and I met him there after 5 years. He didnt recognize me but when I told him abt my brother he was like 'Oh, you are his sister!' Its like a call center where I work and we sit together. We gradually got really close. We call each other everyday after work or on weekends and talk for hours. We text non-stop. Before we sleep and when we wake up in the morning. The problem is that he got a GIRLFRIEND. They are not on good terms and on the verge of break up but he wouldn't as she threatens to act stupid. Like DRINK and SMOKE her a$$ off. And he doesn't like that. He cares about her, obviously. We have kissed and we make out when we get the chance. Nothing more than that. He and his GF wouldn't talk for days and haven't met each other for weeks now...

He has been with her for about 2 years now. And he had given her a diamond necklace for her birthday a year ago. He is 22. He says that I mean alot to him... And he would love to be with me. I have waited for 2 months and we are still there. He didnt do anything abt it. I have talk to him abt it. Told him that we cant go on like this but... What do I do? How do I behave with him??

He says that I mean alot to him. He said im really nice and he would love to have a wife like me. He is planning to buy this really expensive digital camera for me (HK$2000) but I said no I cant accept something like that... He calls me such sweeet names. He takes me out for the movies, starbucks most of the times. Spends alot on me and he says I deserve all this. I asked him what I really mean to him and he said he doesn't wanna tell, he wanna keep it to himself!

His girlfriend knows nothing abt me...

I told him to either pick me or her and he said its YOU. I pick you. He never said he loves me but he said he have feelings for me.

But then he wouldn't break up with her.

But RECENTLY:

We have been just ignoring everything and have been like CLOSE FRIENDS... Its been quite long since we met but we talk on the phone everyday. The thing is that he talks to me whenever he gets the chance meaning not talking to his GF but me. I might mean more than her to him, right?

A few nights ago...

We went talking abt these things again... I asked him wht I really meant to him and he said he just cant tell me. I know im special and I mean alot to him. But I wanna hear it from him.

I asked him If I should move on and he said its UP TO YOU. He said why do girls think its necessary to have a guy all the time. He said if "you moved on than I will know I never was special to you."

He even said he doesn't see any changes in his life with him and his GF. The way he say they are is neither ON nor OFF.

I asked if he like 'me being his date' or 'me being a good friend'. He said he likes both.

I am just so confused. I told him I feel like im a 'tissue' being used by him and now thrown. He got really pissed off and hanged up the phone. He text me and said he doesn't llike me saying all this. I didn't reply and he called at 2:am to say sorry...

Im went to work YESTERDAY and it was his 23rd B-day also. I gave him this 4 pages long letter that I wrote. I told him about my feelings... Im a very honest person I say whatever there is in my heart. I told him that Im attracted to him and stuff.

I also told him that i've already given him enough time and that he might still be in love with his GF. I said im moving on. Im 4getting him.

And i gave him this RING I bought for HK$118 and I said that this is to pay back for all that he had done for me. I thanked him for everything and told him that hopefully he'll remember me...

He was happy abt it. And later he texted me saying ' Thanks so much for d ring nd letter I appreciate it means alot nd yes u'll always be rememberd soniyo(that's what he calls me meaning 'beautiful')'

I was acting very professionaly with him and was giving attention to other guys instead of him. And I could tell that he was pretty jealous.

[Deep breaths]

Ok...

So, am I doing the right thing? And what could that SMS exactly mean?

Thank you once again.

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  1. all i have to say is that he is lucky that you waited this long and you are doing the right thing girl move on cause he does still care about his girl and it is more than he does you because if he cared about you more then he would have left her alone along time ago if she was going to do anything stupid to herself she would have already done it i promise and if she does do something stupid he needs to realize that she would do it regardless if it was him or someone else and you don't want to deal with that stuff i promise he isn't worth all of that drama and if he would do what he has to you while he has a girl that he cares about so much what do you think he would do behind you back. probably a hole lot worse... good luck


  2. im going to be perfectly honest with you. i think he was playing with you. i mean if he really wanted to be with you instead of that no good gf then he would have broken up with her without worrying over what she did afterwards bc thats her, not him, then he would have done it. but no, he got the best of both worlds and you dont even know what went on between them.

    moving on was a great idea but you shouldnt have given him the ring. not only gives him a nice new ring with no hope of him leaivng the gf for you, you left yourself open for more heartache because you will be expecting something back from him soon in the form of feelings.

    and dont get lost in texts because they are meaninless as were his words because i mean i can tell a girl she is beautiful and stuff all day and not mean a word.

    so yeah you did good, shouldnt have given the ring, and just move on and forget about him.

    hope this helps

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