Am I doing wrong by my son?

Question

My 5 year old likes to watch alot of tv. We r in and out of the house alot, going places, so when we r home, I need to get work done around here.If I don't turn on tv, i'm hounded by questions and also have my one year old following me around like a shadow, so to get things done, I put on the tv.My husband works all the time and always has, so by the time he gets home he tired and doent feel like playing much. I never pushed the sports thing, well because I'm a girl and don't care about that stuff.Now I'm seeing some problems. The other boys his age are more advanced in sports. I don't want him to be left out, but he really does not have much intrest in them. His biggest intrest is dinosaurs and the tv he watches is usually animal planet or discovery, so I don't consider it so bad. I know this is a run on question that kind of flip flops...sorry. Basically did I s***w up my little boy?

Answer 1

As long as he is getting time out, it is fine.  He is watching educational programs.  If he was watching cartoons all the time, that would be different.

Not all boys have to play sports.  He's 5.  He may end up being better off academically than athletically.  Sure, sports teaches many things, team work, small and large motor skills, getting along...but look at all he can learn on the Discovery Channel.  There are more scholarships for college based on academics than there is on sports, and then you have to be really talented.

Answer 2

You're not hurting him but you're not helping him either. My parents did the same to me and although I got a good education, I believe that they failed me by taking no time or interest in teaching me anything

you say:  have a 16 month old baby and finally it is getting to where he has him to play with, so I think that will help.

You have no time for an existing child, so you have another? Thats potty.

Answer 3

I don't think you s***w him up.

That said (I know it's easier said than done), TV should not be used as a baby-sitter. Even if he watches educational programmes, he would be better off playing by himself, reading books or, yes, running around and practicing some kind of sports.

It's never too late to change. I think you do need to find another way to keep him busy while you are getting things done in the house. He is 5, he is able to keep himself occupied. My 4 and 3 year old boys manage it.

Answer 4

Being a single mother of 3...1 boy 14 and 2 girls  13 and 17...it is not always easy I know.  But you never know if you will be interested in Sports with your son until you give it a shot and see your little Stud in action...my son Erick played 2 years of baseball, he started T-Ball at 4, Coach Pitch at 5,Soccer from 6-9,and has been Wrestling and playing Football from 9-Present (14) he starts his high school career this year and The Boy is well on his way to at least 1 if not several Athletic  as well as 1 or 2  Academic Scholarships...Involving my son in Sports (even w/o his father being in the picture,he was killed when my kids were very little) has had Tremendous pay-offs in the form of a very well-adjusted,self-confident,focused boy and that goes for my girls as well...they (both girls) excel in school and Athletics(Cheer)...staying deeply involved in your childrens lives has HUGE pay-offs for everyone! Besides the PRIDE you feel watching them excel does the heart good and the tight bond...there is nothing like it! Enjoy your kids! Blessings~~

Answer 5

Not all boys want to play sports.  My older son tried teeball and soccer he didn't like them he rather play sports with me, my hubby or his brother, so we all play football or street hockey together it's more fun and less rules to follow also.  Tell the daddy get up off his butt and play with his children, too bad it he's tired he needs to take an active role in his kids lives or they are going to remember that dad sat on the couch doing nothing with them.  Encourage the dinosaurs if that's what he likes.  No you haven't screwed him up

Answer 6

I think maybe what you need to get in your life is a little bit of ballance ... nothing wrong with watching a little TV, while you're getting a little bit of housework done ... but you need to schedule play time with your kids and get them out of the house participating in activities with other children.  These activities do not have to be sports ... you could enroll them in science camp, art classes, drama classes etc.  or, if you want your son to play sports, enroll him in something of his choosing.

House work can be done in bits and peieces and you'd be surprised at how much you can accomplish in 1 hour once the kids have gone to bed.

You didn't fail your sons ... it's never too late to get them active and interested in out of house activities ...

Answer 7

well if thats what he's into, then get him active in those dinosaurs...take him to the zoo or some where that has animals...just cuz he's not active dont mean he is screwed....

Answer 8

At least he's watching discovery and not cartoons. When I was young you couldn't have paid me to watch somthing like that, so at least he's learnng stuff while he's watching. If you want to get him away from the tv just buy him some outdoor toys or maybe something he can build like a racetrack or model plane or maybe arts and crafts - whatever he's into, just something he can do with his hands. Just because he's a boy doesn't mean he will like sports.

Answer 9

hi, well i think every person is good in stuff and bad in others.... no one is perfect or even good in everything....

in my opinion, it is good that ur son is interested in culture stuff...so why dont u get him  some books that talks about dinausors or per exxample toys ???(dinausors)...im not against tv but not good a lot for his health... he can watch but not all the day....

for the sports, it is an interest...if he doesnt like it he cant be pushed for it.... but in a way u can let him liking it..get him a nice game (even if on tv) about sports...he might like to behave like them and try to do like the game does....