My husband and I had an argument the other day because I said I was thinking of getting an evening job after our 11 month old daughter is asleep to help put some money away for Christmas as he has said he won't be buying her any presents as 'she won't remember it anyway'. First, he said he didn't want me to get a job as he wanted to relax after work and not have to put her back to sleep if she wakes, then he said if I do get one, then the money will be going towards paying for the huge TV he got for himself on (interest free) credit to play video games on which I thought was unfair, and said that our daughter needs things. To this he responded, 'what she needs, is to start going to nursery where she will actually be stimulated and bought up properly rather than wasting her life at home with you'. When I asked what he meant, he said he thought I was a rubbish SAHM and using it as an excuse not to work, and that she'd develop better in a nursery. Obviously I was very hurt, as I love being a stay at home mum and being there for everything and until he said that I'd thought I was doing okay. My daughter and I go swimming, we go for walks with the dog, we sing, we dance, we bake, we play, we go out to meet other babies, we read, we draw, we go on nature walks, we learn about the alphabet - my entire day is centred around her until she goes to bed at night. We are not arguing anymore, but he hasn't taken back what he said, he says it's still his opinion :o( What do you think, do you think I am failing my daughter?
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