Am I g*y or bi or straight and confused?

Question

I dont' want to label myself, but I just want some direction haha. Here's the thing: I've never had a girlfriend (I just turned 19). I want one though. Not because society tells me that, but because I want a deep companionship with a female because that seems naturally beautiful to me.

BUT

I'm (at this point...it seems to change) more physically attracted to men. Like if there's something hot about a guy, I know. But it's not as "prominent" with girls. When I see a hot guy, sometimes I have the urge to...**** if you'll pardon the terminology, but I haven't felt that way about a woman. In fact 95% of the time I m********e over men. I would never have s*x with a guy though. I couldn't do that. It seems gross to me. Not the natural thing for me to do. The farthest I could go with him would be making out (which I've wanted to do), but even then it's just because he's " hot" and his body turned me on, not because I actually liked him as a person, and that's not fair to either of us.

On the other hand, I'm not hugely physically attracted to women, but I can say that I would really like making out with one because they are beautiful to me, and even going further, and also loving her personality.

I can see myself giving me completely selflessly to a woman rather than a man. It just seems right for me.

So...what am I? haha

...so what am I?

Answer 1

I think you might be Bi and confused. But only you would know for sure yourself. Maybe if you met the right woman for you, the truth will reveal itself.  

Answer 2

You seem confused... but bi.

I'm bi.  I find women much sexier than men, but prefer a man for a relationship.  I'd love to have s*x with a woman someday, but not all the time, seems like too much work.  I'm also hesitant to find a girlfriend because the g*y community where I live is so drama oriented.

You might ask yourself if it's a deep seated social conditioning that makes you think you wouldn't want s*x with a man, or if you really feel that way.  I'm also hesitant about getting involved with a woman because it would be hard for some people I know to accept.

Answer 3

Your not confused, your really really really really confused. you need to talk to a counselor

Answer 4

i think yhur bi personally .

Answer 5

Do you think that you might feel like having s*x with a man isn't right for you because of social stigma?

I would say everything would well and good if you had g*y fantasies but hadn't been attracted to anyone in real life but were still attracted to females because then i would consider you straight and fantasies are just that. they're not real and it's fun to think about things that are "wrong" or taboo.

But things get more complicated because it sounds like you've been attracted to males in your real life and you don't find females physically arousing...so that makes it more confusing

I'd say that labels are too constraining and that yeah maybe you're bi or maybe g*y or maybe straight....maybe you're a whole different category i've never even heard of

i think that you shouldn't go looking for love. period. but i also think that you shouldn't put gender constraints on love either. the best loves come out of friendships. so be friends with people. one day you'll find someone who you're both attracted to and love their personality.

this isn't a sexual preference problem...i'm 21 and for the first time in my life i've found someone who i find attractive and who doesn't make me want to claw my ears off when they speak - for some reason i'm a bit of a snob and i just can't handle dating someone less intelligent than me and i'm also a bit quirky so i need someone who can roll with that. and i only found him 6 months ago.

so don't sweat it. seriously. the right person will come along eventually. meanwhile i think that you should be honest with your self. do some self exploration, even experiment a little. just remember above all to be honest with yourself.

Answer 6

Bi ♦

Answer 7

Take your time and steer clear of labels.  Rather than focus on gender, meet people to find the right person and focus on one person at a time.  When you've found her (or him?), things will become clear.

Answer 8

im the same way (except the opposite with girls). and ive come to the conclusion that im bi. i would never be with a woman, to me thats gross. so i know exactly where you stand and you arent alone

Answer 9

i was exactly the same way before.. and want to give my all to a girl.. im BISEXUAL.. and i think thats what you are.. give it more time and you'll see where your heart lies.. seriously...

ps: and even though being with a guy may seem better sexually it can be just as good with a girl :D

Answer 10

hmm. maybe you are bi.

it seems like you will probably end up with a women in the long run.

but you will still have an attraction towards men.

once you find the right person you will find out.

there shouldn't be a label for it love is love no matter what whether with a man and a man or a man and a women.

Answer 11

bi curious.....

heading towards being g*y

Answer 12

Ultimately, it doesn't matter.  EFF society, sexual preference is a continuum more like the variation in the colors of the rainbow than a black or white either or.  In reality, many straight men find other men attractive, probably closer to the number of women who are willing to experiment with other women.  However, in our society there has been such a stigma placed on homosexuality that men are forced to hide their true emotions.  Do you think that the human race has really changed much since the time of the Greeks? When it was common practice for men to have homosexual relationships?  Well, for those who think we are any more civilized than the ancient Greeks.....take a look at our president, and realize that about half the people in our country actually voted for him..............anyway, my point is, I don't think its fair that you should even have to be asking youself these questions....DO YOU.....be who you are, you don't have to define yourself with any type of sexuality because "sexual orientation" is just a concept made up by those who are afraid of their own feelings.

Sincerely,

A totally straight but sometimes bisexual, and every once in a while homosexual while watching p**n lady............ahh what the h**l, let's call it what it is......Im HUMAN.

Answer 13

Bi?

Answer 14

bro go to a g*y bar and see how u feel there,  looking a the big picture i would say bi!

Answer 15

All bisexuals feel that way, so there should be no confusion here.

You need to try to have s*x with a woman and try to date a guy to test everything out. Because you obviously have no experience with either. So you can't be categorized yet.

Answer 16

The term would be 'bi curious'

Answer 17

I'd say bi..... Though it also seems like you're confused. Give it a little more time, you just turned 19 right? Teenage years, the years of confusion, might still be wearing off.

Answer 18

Lust knows no boundaries, it only knows self gratification, it behaves like an animal and that is why you don't feel compassion towards men they are just objects in your mind, how you feel toward Women is not lust because you connect with them better I guess however if you do find a woman who excites you, maybe a body builder or wrestler or some girl who is just dominant, you might make a match you could live with. Hope this helps.  Lust is temporary it doesn't last. All that lasts is friendship consider that.  If your whole life is the answer, how you live it is the question.