Am I hormonal or is he DEE DEE DEE?

Question

I am due to give birth the first week of January to my first biological child. My wonderful husband has agreed to pick his father up from the airport on my due date. He plans to leave his five year old twins in my care while he's gone. It will be an all day trip since the airport is five hours away. I am BEYOND freaking livid. Am I being overly sensitive like he says or is he an inconsiderate a*****e for ditching me with his kids on our child's due date? He even asked what the chances of me being induced were. I told him he was on crack if he thought I was going to plan my labor around his dad's trip to Germany. If I had a voo doo doll he would be in serious pain right now.....

Answer 1

Perhaps you're being a little dramatic - but I think you're right in a way. What if you give birth a day before? You're not going to be home to take care of his five year old twins. Couldn't he get someone else to do this?

Answer 2

He needs to pay to have a shuttle, bus, cab, rental car, or anyone else to pick up his Father. How dare he try to leave you with his girls when you might possibly go into labor and you are close to delivering.

Where is his fool mind? NO NO NO!! Put your foot down and tell him no way that he has to figure something else out.

You must live out in the boonies to have an airport that far away.

I think I would have his Dad reschedule the trip to either earlier or later.  

Answer 3

does he not realize like only 10% of babes are actually born on the exact due date. wat if u in labor  at the time or just gave birth a little early. i think his dad needs to learn about buses or cabs. and NO WAY i would be with twins and about to pop. u cant run after them and wat if u go into labor wit the kids and he gone then who gunna watch them

Answer 4

yeah, he is an idiot.  Tell him he needs to make alternate arrangements for the other children or better yet have his dad rent a car.  You will be in no shape to babysit and he should be by your side.  Men are so clueless.

Answer 5

First, you need to stop saying "his kids", you married him they are now yours also. So, he will be leaving your kids with you. Will there be anyone that you can call if you do go into labor? (like unbearable contractions, because most labor doesn't go from 0-60 in a second) Do you live around family? If so, then I really don't see the problem. Sure, you might have to be in the hospital by yourself for a little while until he gets there...but really, what are the chances that you are going to go on your due date. Taking care of 2 five yr olds really isn't that hard. Yes, you are hormonal, you can do it!

Answer 6

So, honestly, it isn't very bright to plan to leave you with the kids for 10 hrs... What if you have your baby early?  What if you go into labor  while he's gone.  So you have a valid point.

However, based on your tone, you being quite bi***y about it.

Its pretty clear from your short description above, that the two of you have very poor communication in your family, and now you are bringing another life into that disfunctional family.

I would get WAY more interested in creating ways to have everyone win and start being open, loving, and supportive, rather than both of you being extremely positional and having "being RIGHT" run the show.  (And, btw, the only reason you posted this question is to get support/proof that your position is right and his is wrong)

AND what im suggesting isn't the "right" way to do it.  Not at all, its just another path...  But your path will produce certain results, an my suggested path will produce certain results.  Now, YOU simply get to choose which results you are really committed to having.

Answer 7

and who does he plan on taking you to the hospital if you do go into labor i mean certainly not the 5 year olds.  and then while your in labor and delivery what on earth does he expect you to do with 2 5 year olds?  i was my moms first child and i was a week early, but obviously everyone is different you could be early or late or exact and no one knows until its time.  if he insists on his little excursion then make sure someone you know is home in the event you need to go to the hospital, and then make sure you have someone in line (grandparent?) to watch the kids on second notice.  good luck and hope everything works out!

Answer 8

Chill out mama!  It's hormones!  Most babies don't come exactly on the due date!  Have a friend come over that day to help you with the twins and relax...oh, and tell your hubby that you'll be ok that day!