Am I losing my mind?

Question

Last night my soon-to-be-husband called me and we talked about different things, the usual stuff, nothing important. And then we started talking about the Olympics. He asked "Did you watch the Olympics today?" I said "Yeah, some diving stuff. The English team did pretty bad. " And then he goes "I watched the gymnastics. I like the gymnastics one." I thought it to be kind of weird because guys normally like masculine kind of sports, like soccer or wrestling, etc. And then it came out he watched the WOMEN'S gymnastics! This kind of like made me thinking. I didn't talk much after that, and we soon hang up. Then he calls me back after about an hour and asks what's wrong and why I didn't sound right on the phone. I said "Because I don't want you to look at other women on TV!!" (This was the first time I ever expressed my jealousy verbally like that.) He seemed shocked for a moment. And then he goes "What? Gymnastics...? They are all little there.. Do you think I am a child molester?!! " Then he said that his eyes are only for me, and I said no, they are not. And then he told me to calm down, and then we kissed on the phone and hang up.

So, this morning I woke up and started thinking what the heck had I done. I know feel really embarrassed now. I also know that I hate when he looks at other women. I like sports A LOT and watching the Olympics every day. I am pretty much into the whole Olympic spirit.

So, how do you feel when your husband/ fiance/ boyfriend watches the Olympics women gymnastics/ diving/ and BEACH VOLLEYBALL these days?

Answer 1

Yes you ARE losing your mind.  This is the most ridiculous display of totally nonsensical BS I have ever read.  I was a competitive swimmer growing up and I appreciate every ounce of the effort that it takes for these people to go that far.  They are fascinating to watch & their determination & skill is astounding to me.  I can't believe that you would take something that we should be so PROUD to watch our Country compete in & turn that into a negative.  So if I watch men's swimming does that mean I'm a disgusting w***e?  How insane.  My husband & I watched gymnastics together & beach volleyball together.  Your boyfriend is right because my husband even commented that some of the girls looked like little kids.  It is very sick of you to think (especially the gymnasts looking so little) that he would be into them like he wants to s***w them or something.  How GROSS!  Check yourself!

Answer 2

I don't mind my husband watching the women events.  They are on TV I'm not going to compete with a person who is not physically in front of me.  He may find the whole gymnastic sport interesting, there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, women are 50% of the population, and, you need to get used to the fact that your future husband will see women, and, that this doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

Answer 4

Honey, I totally understand you being a tad bit jealous that is normal if you were not I would think you were a little unusual. Now telling your soon to be husband is well not the smartest thing to do. We all get jealous, but we should be able to control ourselves and be able to determine when its the right time to get upset and that definately was not the right time. Since we are talking about being normal well your husband sounds like he is a pretty great catch. It is normal for men to look at women if they didnt then there is something wrong with them and you might have a whole new set of problems to worry about. Have'nt you ever heard the saying that it is ok for your husband to look at the menu as long as he does'nt order. My husband has been totally watching the olympics and he has even been comenting on some of there looks and body figures. So have I. We have been married for 9 years together 12 and he has never cheated on me. We respect eachother and I think your man very much respects you. It does not bother me because I know where his heart his and I know where he sleeps at night. Dont worry about that little situation there are probably going to be many more of those for heaven sakes we are women. Just apologize and tell him that you dont know what came over you. You got bit by a green bug that day. He will understand. Remember (HIS EYES ARE ONLY FOR YOU). There is no reason you have to be jealous, the only emotion you should be feeling is happiness. HE LOVES YOU. God bless the both of you.  

Answer 5

like I care? Pu-leeze.  You really have a self-esteem issue that needs working on.

And what-- you're watching OTHER MEN ON TV??? How dare you!

Answer 6

Yes - you truly are!

How would you feel is he got jealous over your watching a men's match of anything and "enjoyed" it?

You owe him a gigantic apologize!

Answer 7

Your not losing your mind..it's just a loss of insight for affection.

Answer 8

it's just looking, be thankful that, that's all he's doing

Answer 9

I could care less what my bf watches... he does not cheat and I am not jealous... you way way way over reacted.. do u trust him? if not don't marry him...

Answer 10

I always get jealous, but its only tv and looking isn't bad. He isn't touching or cheating on u. Don't u ever look at a cute guy, I know I do but I am not cheating and that is what really matters.

Answer 11

wow wooowy woow wow

hon..... i dont even know what to say

Answer 12

Get a grip, girl, he's just watching TV. Nothing wrong with a little eye candy; it's simply admiring a picture. I mean, it's not like he's racing over to have and "event" with the whole USA Gymnastics Team or something.

Geez.

Answer 13

I don't care it's on t.v and half those women are dogs especially the gymnastic people they have big upper body's and small bottoms almost like a person who doesn't use there legs so It doesn't bother me.  

Answer 14

My husband likes to watch the gymnastics (male and female) as do I but he also watches all the “masculine” sport as well. You know, I’m a very jealous person also.  I hate watching movies with nudity or any kind of sexual contact with my husband but I have to deal with it.

I really don’t think your husband was fantasizing about the gymnasts. It’s just another sport not to mention the OLYMPICS. I don’t think I would have started tripping like you did but I guess that’s understandable. Hopefully he doesn’t think you’ll go crazy on him when if he ever glances at another girl in your presence.

Answer 15

I don't feel anything. He watches the women's gymnastics, and he watches the men's gymnastics---with me! He enjoys the sport!  Those are little girls with athletic, muscular builds....are you seriously intimidated by that? COME ON!  I don't even give it a thought!  I would imagine that most women don't. If you keep this up, you're going to lose that man. Insecurity to this degree is a total turn-off.

Answer 16

Lady....it's TV!!!!  And a WORLD WIDE COMPETITION!  Don't be a psycho.  Psycho women push men to cheat because they are PSYCHO!!!

Answer 17

Best hope he dont react like that when you watch football/baseball/basketball....and up keep him away from pro wrestling

Answer 18

calm down hun, he is just watching, thats all. It would be different if he was touching other girls or something. I am sure you watch movies to se hunks in them, now wouldnt you be surprised if your fiancee would forbid you to watch them? Lighten up!

Answer 19

First off men appreciate athleticism no matter what the venue. Girls gymnastics is off the hook! Those are little girls but the power and grace they maintain at that high of a level for that long is incredible. look in the audience during these events. There is always more men watching than women and it has nothing to do with sexual fantasy or desire. It's an appreciation of the nature of athletic competition.

P.S. if this is your real picture you have nothing to worry about any way...

Answer 20

WOW, you have some SERIOUS issues you better address before taking that walk down the aisle.  Don't think for one minute that being married suddenly makes you feel secure.  AND your fiancee should be questioning why he wants to be in such a relationship that is controlling.  Seek help.  

Answer 21

Well its the Olympics. Its not like he is going to go all the way to beijing to get the girls numbers. Plus you are kind of doing the same thing. Your watching guys swimming and stuff right? Its just the olympics. Just take a breather, dont let it bother you so much. But i do know how you feel.

Answer 22

OMG

Answer 23

Good grief...

If you are this jealous, I suggest you seek counseling RIGHT away!

Answer 24

Yes you are losing the mind.  That was definitely a tard move.

Answer 25

My answer to you would have been  ,,I will stop watching the female athletes but you have to stop watching the male athletes and all the movies with males...     Would this make sense to you??

  And you said you were 33,,, Maybe phisically

Answer 26

Doesn't bother me 1 bit when my husband watches them cause I'm not the jealous type.

Its only the olympics give the guy a break.

Answer 27

it doesnt bother me because i know he wants to be with me.and honestly he has no chace with people he sees on tv lol.you should be more concerned about the women walking down the  street  

Answer 28

You need some serious help. Does you husband drink heavily to get away from the marriage you have him trapped in? Quit being so selfish and jealous.

Answer 29

My husband and I watch Olympic beach volleyball and I say "d**n I wish I looked that good"!  I think you are WAY over reacting.  

Answer 30

Girl light up would you! I mean if he was just looking a bit that is a normal thing, now can you honestly tell me  what do you think about Bratt Pitt or that fine *** dude The Rock Johnson from that movie The Run Down I have being married 15 years and still I love to watch those d**n fine dudes and my husband loves Jennifer Lopez and Halle Berry we can live with that and so do you...

Answer 31

If  you aren't losing your mind, you've already lost it.  No offense, but that was immature.  I'd consider whether or not you're ready to get married.  How old are you?