Am I obligated to invite this girl? How do I tell her to buzz off?

Question

I have know this girl I'll call 'Agnus' for the whole school year, and frankly she is a huge snob! She believes that we are buddy buddy even though she knows I dislike her! (Strange, isn't it?)

She enjoys spreading rumors about everyone, including me. When I went to my friend and her former friend's birthday party the first words out of her mouth to me were, "No one wants you here." In my book, that is one of the rudest things you can say. Why would I be invited if I wasn't wanted?

And when her birthday party came around, her mom gave us a phone call ONE hour before the party. She expected me show up at her doorstep with a happy face and a gift only to endure a crappy night of rudeness and misery. So I didn't bother to even show up. But I did bring her a gift on the following Monday. But whad'ya know? She came back the next day complaining to me that it broke.

But the problem is now that my birthday is on the 25th of this month and my school's orentation is coming up next week and I am planning to give out some invatations on the DL then. But even I know that that is going to be impossible because the moment Aggie sees me she will not leave me alone. She called me for something, and my mom asked her if she had my other friend's number and made the mistake of telling Agnus that it was for my birthday party. And if I don't invite her she will not shut up the whole year! I don't really care about that though, because I am not a person to worry about what others think.

But am I obligated to invite her? How should I tell her to buzz off and that she's not invited?

Answer 1

Obviously she gets this from her mother. Everyone should have fun on their birthday, and if you think she'll just bog it down then don't bother with her. If she asks you why you didn't invite her, tell her because you don't like the way she treats you. It may be hard to say, but if you don't tell her, nobody will. Tell her straight up if she gets up in your face. She sounds like a mean girl, so I wouldn't waste your time on someone like her. And if she constantly bugs and nags you about not inviting her, then just walk away, and ignore her, if that doesn't work tell her that you don't have to take that c**p, and that you didn't invite her for a reason, and you'll continue to not invite her unless she shapes up.

Answer 2

Don't invite her. She's cleary rude! If she asks you why she is not invited tell her that you don't want here there! Not inviting her will probably make her buzz off, yea she might talk more smack about the whole deal, but if she's rude to everyone else, no one will feel differently towards you for not inviting her, if anything they'll comend you! =)

Answer 3

Well you could be like her and invite her just tell her "no one wants you here"...LOL

But, no...you are not obligated to invite her. Just don't talk about her at your party. Then no one has anything to say to her later.

Be the better person!!

Answer 4

haha agnes

Answer 5

It's your party, and if you don't want her there ruining it, don't invite her.

Answer 6

You should never feel obligated to do anything. I say call her up an hour before the party and see if she shows up and if she does be as rude as humanly possible. That was quite the nice name you came up with, Agnus if only I had such a nice name.

Answer 7

Do NOT invite her...

If she's not your friend, and as big a pain in the butt as you say, she doesn't deserve to be invited.

If she's there she might ruin your day and you don't want that...

JUST SAY NO

Answer 8

I understand your problem. Actually, there was this girl, who used to be my friend, but she was just soooo annoying, and when I had my birthday party, I wanted to invite someone else. So, I gave out invitations to my friends, and not her. Somehow, she found out, and I told her that she was not invited. I guess she told her mom after, because I got a phone call the next day about me not inviting her, and how it was, 'okay, I could drive her'. I was like, 'No, lady...it's not that there's a problem with room in the car or whatever, she's just not invited.' I felt really guilty, but it's better to be frank and straight than to lead them into thinking you're their friend. Say it politely, of course, and tell them what they should change. Try to work it out before ruining a friendship, but if it doesn't work, meh. Just remember though, before you try to ruin a friendship, work it out! I ended a friendship with a really good friend one day, because she couldn't even TRY to work it out, even though it was her fault, and even though I did all the talking.  

Answer 9

of course you're not obligated, plus, she's a snob with some weird problems.

just tell her to get lost and that you two are NOT friends. there are so many other better people out there.

Answer 10

No...your birthday is a special day, and the last thing you need is some s****. idiot who will be complaining about everything! Just don't invite her, and let her know you are not interested in "being friends"  

Answer 11

i think that if she is that snobbie to you, you dont have any reason TO invite her. obviously she doesnt care, and if she is that rude in public, then someone had to notice...i dont think you should invite her, because the only that will do is make you miserable the entire time. i think the best possible solution would be just to tell her "hey, i know u dont like me, and u know i dont like you, lets not pretend"  

Answer 12

just don't invite her and then if she starts going off on one tell her where to go. she sounds like a rite b*tch tbh anyways haha so she deserves it. or you could invite her an hour before. or tell her it is fancy dress.. bring on the humiliation!!

Answer 13

you dont have to invite her. if she bugs you about it, just tell her straight up, i didn't invite you. I'm sorry.

Answer 14

It is your party and you are the one doing the inviting. If you don't want her there, don't invite her.

Answer 15

Just don't invite her.  You are under no obligation to her, and she does not sound like she deserves an invitation.

Answer 16

If it were me there is no way she would get invited to the party.  Try to do your best to avoid her.

Answer 17

You should invite her.

Remember the Kikongo proverb... "The best way to rid yourself of an enemy is to make him a friend."  

Answer 18

Okay well i don't think you should invite her to your party if you don't want to its not immature you just want to have a nice night with people you feel want to come and if she talks smack to you and  says your a rude person and all, tell her you honestly don't care what she thinks because shes a rude person herself and i didn't feel like sharing my birthday with someone who's going to make it a horrible party and want to be mean to me in other things we do. I don't think you are obligated to invite her its your party not hers spend it how and who you want to spend it with.