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Am I old fashioned to teach my children that they are NOT to swear at or in front of me or any other?

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adult. I was brought up believing it is wrong and disrespectful to do so, but I hear so many kids swearing in everyday conversations with their parents I wonder if I am just being too old fashioned?

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  1. We as parents need to go back to the good old day child raising.


  2. No. I wish many more people were taught that profanity is unacceptable and there are many more effective ways of communicating or expressing yourself. It is human to let out a little ^&*( %  when you hit your thumb with a hammer or something like that.

    Or is it?

    I think it is learned from the fact that we are desensitized to foul language because it is all around us.

    I was in fourth grade in the early 80s and a kid at my public school got detention and had to write an apology to the teacher and read it at assembly for uttering one errant string of words.

    I am not sure what if any consequence there is for a school student uttering profanity.

    I don`t know what decade it was when I last heard someone apologize for uttering a word except for a breezy and unapologetic sounding Pardon my French.

    When I was 20 (1991) I was a nanny for a boy who was not even 2 but had a speech/language therapist come to the house. Okay whatever. The little boy was proud to show off that he had learned to say thank you when given his meal. The therapist bit my head off saying that it would soon be unheard of to teach children to say thank you because it was ``non-communicative`` and that ESPECIALLY for a boy who had a ``speech disability`` it was wasting his time to teach him ``nonsense words.``

    I was wide eyed and not quite sure what planet I was on for a moment.

    You may seem old fashioned because such teaching is apparently passe. However it will always be the right thing to do.

  3. It's good parenting to not allow swearing.  I would go so far as to call it a parental duty.  The consciousness that attends bad language is hellish, fallen, and a bad influence.  Children have no prefrontal cortex activity and require guidance.  To mandate good language is to keep their minds in a good place.

  4. NOOO! And good job! I plan on teaching the same.

    I grew up being able to swear whenever , Which well , didn't give me that great respect for adults.

    Now though i regret ever swearing to my parents.

  5. Not at all. In fact, I wish more people would raise their kids to not swear. Not only does it make the kids look bad, it makes the parents look bad and shows others "Hey - my kid has absolutely no respect for me or anyone else."

    My son is 14 months old, and from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I myself quit cussing and wouldn't have any part of someone cussing around me. In addition to everything else  going on during my pregnancy, I felt it was a great time to get everyone (including myself) used to not cussing around me or my son anymore.

  6. No, not at all. It's very refreshing to hear that.

  7. You are NOT old fashioned.  You ARE a GOOD PARENT!!  It is sad how many kids are not taught to be respectful and are not taught manners.

  8. no, you're teaching them the right thing.

    don't teach them to swear infront of anyone tbh

    i swear infront of everyone except teachers and my dad, he scares me >_>

    LOL, so yeah. you're not old fashioned, the kids you hear just have disrespectful parents.

    xo

  9. You'll probably get a lot of responses from parents like you, but I'm here to offer you the encouragement of a TEENAGER!  My parents brought me up saying "Yes sir" and "Yes Ma'am".  Swearing was not even an option.  I had to say "Please" and "Thank you".  They discouraged me from saying "Shut up" unless it was for comedic purposes.  Did I feel like I was on a tight leash?  Yes.  Now that I'm 17, do I look back and thank God for my amazing parents who led me to be the successful student I am today?  Yes.  People respect me and treat me like I'm older than I am.  I'm getting great job opportunities and scholarships.  I'm an active member of my church.  Swearing is trashy, disrespectful, crude, and self-depreciating.  It is never acceptable.  Kudos to you for being "old fashioned", the new term for "a good parent".  Hope this helps, and gives you a different perspective!

  10. im 21 and still wouldnt ever think of swearing in front of my parents. its just rude! my daughter is 9 months and if she ever swears at me, or any adult i would be mortified and embarresed. its disgusting, and shows a lack of decorum and respect. i mean manners really dont cost anything! your not old fashioned at all, unfortunately manners are not really paramont in most ppls heads anymore.

  11. not at all. i find it very disrespectful when children cuss to parents or any adult for that matter. now friends maybe. but the only "cuss" word i was allowed to say growing up was c**p, and that isnt even THAT bad

  12. No, I don't believe it is old fashioned.

    I think any cuss words no matter who says them sounds incredibly trashy and uneducated.

    Especially when it is females or younger children saying it.

    It's disgusting and disrespectful.

  13. My kids are not allowed to do it until they are living in their own place or it is to show pain.  In fact I am teaching them the slang swear words from SCIFI's tv shows.  like frack instead for the other f word and the german form of the s word.  They can say the b word if they use it in the proper way...talking about a female dog.  But I think that it is impolite to use it at all.

  14. Yea you're old fashioned.

  15. Not at all! I'm 14 years old and my parents taught me the same thing. I never swear, even though a lot of my friends do. I don't really have a problem with it, but it's just something that I was taught was rude and disrespectful, so I don't do it :)

    I plan on teaching my children the same thing.

  16. No!  Your teaching your kids the right thing...

    I'm 27 years old and I wouldn't cuss in front of my parents still! ~

  17. Heck no! I'll be teaching our children the same thing. Granted he's only 4 months now so we have awhile but that is not something children should be doing. I don't care if it's an adult or not, swearing will NOT be tolerated.

  18. i wasn't allowed to swear in front of my parents or in their house let alone. and i plan on using the same tactic with my daughter when she gets to that point.

  19. yeah its kinda old fashioned, but ask yourself this: what's wrogn with being old fashioned sometimes?  look at the world around us, why can't more things be "old-fashioned"?!!!!!?

  20. No,  you're being a good mommy!

    Congratulations!  Wish there were more like you!!!!!

  21. NO!  That is the right way to bring children up.  That's how children should be brought up.  

    Unfortunately this isn't the norm nowadays.

  22. Actually it wouldn't matter, because when your kids become teens they will curse when there with their friends. After a while it will just become natural. I even curse around my parents but not to disrespect them, its just the way I express myself.

  23. people swear ..Its never ok to swear at people but ya know it you stub that toe or bump that head ..its perfectly acceptable to swear in pain..or frustration. People make such a big deal out of "words".As long as you dont use swearing as common adjectives or to abuse people ..I see no problem with it

  24. Not at all! I'm 14, and I would never dare to swear in front of my parents. I'd be in so much trouble... although, to me, they're just words. Yeah, in front of my friends, or when I'm alone & frusterated, I may curse sometimes, but in front of adults? No way! You're not old-fashioned; you're a good parent. :)

  25. no mamm I think that you are just teaching your kids respect  not only those around them but themselves as well

  26. No. I'm not old fashioned- and I still don't want my girls to curse. Not even around friends. It sounds very ungirlish and vulgar. I don't like it.

  27. Oh no, not at all.. It's not okay for children to swear. I was brought up to respect my parents and not use that language around them, or AT all. It's a good thing, don't worry.
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