Am I overeacting about drunk friend?

Question

I recently visited my home town where I grew up. I spent time with many of my old friends. One of them was very drunk when we went to dinner, and was making rude comments about my pregnancy. She was saying like "it's an oops baby," and genrally being rude about it. I confronted her and she acting like she didn't here me. My other friend was quick to stand up for me. My question is "am I overeacting about this event?" We haven't spoke for 3 weeks, and I am frankly still upset about it. Maybe there is other problems going on with her that I am not aware about, she claims all is fine. Anyway, any helpful comments would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Well she was under the influence, so she was not thinking at all. You can expect these kinds of comments if you hang out with her again while she is drunk. Most ugly things happen like that in those instances. You may not want to hang with her when shes drunk. Let her know you care and that you don't appreciate some of her conduct when she is drunk and think it may be best for your friendship if you can hang out only when she is sober. She may realize her drinking is affecting her relationships. Point her to her local AA meeting to find out if she needs extra help with that area of her life. It may be the best thing you can do for her right now. Don't take it too personal, it was not her it was the alcohol talking. It makes people really arrogant and insensitive.

Answer 2

i dont know i wasnt there. its hard to say. Would she have acted that way had she been sober? if your answer is no, then try to put it in the past

Answer 3

She doesn't sound like a friend. Are you sure she's your friend? As we get older we tend to not be around people who are not good for us, don't really care about us. It's a matter of choice. You are having a baby - the most wonderful thing that could possibly happen. It's important to be happy and stress-free (as much as possible) during your pregnancy. Who cares what she said - she was drunk and she doesn't sound like someone who cares about you and the most wonderful thing that's happening and growing in you.Focus on those who support and love you and forget about the rest. Check 'em off the list. You and you're baby are what's the most important thing - not some rude, drunk, probably doesn't even remember what they said - but they said it none the less and that's not a friend. Surround yourself with real friends and loving support and ge rid of the rest, you don't need to feel bad. And for someone to make you feel bad especially when you're pregnant is not someone I personally would have in my immediate circle of support.

Answer 4

Maybe she is jealous - either because she would like a baby, or because this will change your friendship.  Being drunk probably caused her to become more obnoxious about it.  I think if you talk to her about it you will find that she is regretful for what she said while drunk.  I'd give her a chance to redeem herself.  Although, with a baby on the way, I wouldn't put too much energy into it - you should enjoy your pregnancy.  If only I could figure out a way to be pregnant without having more children...ahhhh!

Answer 5

ur not overreacting that was roud and if there are problems going on w/ her she shouldn't take them off that way

Answer 6

You did not overreact at all!

Have you ever heard the expression drunk says it best?

People say things when they are drunk often that they are too scared too say when sober. The alcohol eases their mood and they don't find anything wrong with what they are saying.

Your friend knows she did something wrong and knew she shouldn't have said that, she owes you an apology. It is quite obvious she is in the wrong because the other friend stood up for you

Answer 7

WELL SHE WAS DRUNK

Answer 8

i dont think your over reacting. even though she was drunk, she still didnt apologize to you for it. witch is really rude.

Answer 9

could be but sounds like she was being rude. sorry but being drunk is nothing more than an excuse. she could be jealous though but still , i don't blame you for not talking to her

Answer 10

your friend was drunk so when there are medicinal influences you can't take it seriously. just recall the times you had when you were under the influence of something ,did you all-ways have control over what you said.  don't worry about what your friend said and do not waist time being upset.

Get over it

If your friend has any real problems with herself you want to leave an open door for your friend to talk too.  just think She can be your drunk friend even though you can,t drink she is a good enough friend to do it for you.

Answer 11

I would be upset and being drunk is no excuse!

Answer 12

Nah, your not overeacting. Your just standing up for yourself. Theres nothing wrong with that. Like you said, maybe shes having some problems that you are unaware of, but that still doenst justify the comments that she made about you, drunk or not.  

Answer 13

um, i would be upset, but i would get over it pretty quickly.  you said she was very drunk and people say stupid things when they are drunk.  She wasnt using good judgement.